Dealing with a non-stoner, non-chill, roomate?

I have a roomate who is a bit of a stickler when it comes to this whole marijuana thing. Over the weekends I like to get a nice buzz going in the afternoon..I'm never really "high" just "mellowed"..you know?

Anyway..I basically take a hit or two to keep the buzz going every so often..but I tend to leave stoner things around. Today, I left my weed in the bathroom..and he found it.

I'm not saying that I have a right to have weed in the bathroom..it's just that when you're in your zone, you aren't really think about trying to be a good "non-stoner" roomate...your biggest concern is "other stuff".

Whenever he catches me smoking..or high..or finds my weed...he makes me feel bad for smoking, which ruins my high completely. It's getting to the point where I'm seriously considering moving, not because I don't like him (he's a good enough guy), but because whenever I'm smoking he makes me feel guilty. I've tried to talk to him, telling him to be less "concerned" with my smoking habits..but so far, nothing.

Thing is, if I didn't smoke..I wouldn't even have this issue with him. And, I dislike "losing a friend" because of weed. Friends are more important to me.

He's a bit younger than me...but he has what I would term "male dominance" issues..which I think is to be expected at his age. He's also, umm..not sexually active..in the sense that he doesn't have sex with his gf, and he doesn't masturbate to release sexual tension...so it's like he has all this testosterone that's going to his head. I'm not saying that's a bad thing..I'm just saying I don't want to play the whole alpha male game with him...mostly because we aren't 12.

It's gotten to the point where I don't like speaking to him anymore, and apparently it's the same for him, because all we ever do is talk about how I'm a "pothead".

(And really, instead of asking me why I smoke weed, he just labels me as a "pothead"..when the truth is..I smoke weed because I need to mellow out...and not feel as if I need to do something..to just relax. However, the difference is, when I'm not smoking, or high..all I do is worry about the future...which is a good thing..since it indicates that at least I know where I'm going..)

So, my question is, how do I get my roomate to lay off of me? How do I tell him that I'm ok with how my life is right now, for the most part, and I don't want or need him to be a "model citizen" for me, because I don't consider myself a "non-model" citizen?

I feel like telling him that if he really was the next jesus, then he would be an anti christ, that is..an agent of the devil. I mean..if that's the type of life he wants to live..good for him..but he has to realize that the whole "I'm the next Jesus, because I'm pure and holy" thing is going to get his ass kicked. If not by me (unlikely at this point) then by somebody who doesn't give a crap about his well being.

And, I smoke weed, because I'm not in heaven. If heaven does exist..then smoking weed would be redundant..and therefore not needed. So WHEN, not IF, I get there...I'll see you around.

 

the union, huh? ok ill look into it.

he told me about his sexual habits. he's religious and part of his whole puritanical lifestyle involves him not sexually releasing..basically ever.

he thinks it isn't proper before marriage.

i don't really disagree..but then again, sex is sex..so whatever, you know? as long as you're doing it responsibly..i dont see what the big deal is..but thats just me...and i respect that not everyone has to agree on this.

 

haha..if it were that easy i would be.

but my dick says otherwise.

 

but he wont, it goes against his values. be done with it? and his girl?
so naive..and possibly attainable..