I desire change soo baadd!! Who feels stuck at a shitty job, bad relationship or just a bad situation? To me change feels like a distant reality ..
So did mine, and, yes, it was a year of hell...but...I'm much happier now, 5 years down the road...even if I am still hopelessly in debt, and will be forever due to my divorce... Change may not be easy, but you are the one who loses in life if you don't do what you have to do to make yourself happy...the road to the best future, is often very rock at the start...
There seem to be many, many levels of waking up a person can do. Waking up to realizing X, Y, or Z things about their life aren't working for them, and then actually having the drive and enthusiasm to successfully make the change. One of my very best friends is a chef in an awesome, yet very poorly paying restaurant. We met 8 years ago and he's been broke every single day of those 8 years. He's barely 30, has no attachments like family/kids/mortgage, yet is not doing anything about his financial situation. To be clear, he's not enjoying himself. The poverty does get him down. Yet he will not make a change. He openly says he'd rather deal with being short on cash than make any changes in his life. He made me realize just how much some people hate change or are simply incapable of making it. I find staying in shape helps a great deal in this regard since most changes will require extra energy from you. Not to cheer it up or anything, but I've personally had far more success with applying changes when I wasn't stressed or pressured. Positive environments and lifestyles simply make it easier to navigate life. I know that sounds like a "no shit" comment, but I've witnessed people in detrimental patterns often enough to notice an obtuse tendency to complicate one's own life. Toxic people and environments should be cut out of one's life as much as possible.
I did it 2 years ago. I don't regret it one bit. Moved from DC to California with $1,500. I couldn't have been happier. Things are still leveling out but conquering many obstacles such as my alcoholism. I also found who I am as a person being bi sexual but mostly gay I would say. Anyways it is always scary to take the leap but usually will always pan out for the better if things are shit now. Sade's outdoor Bigfoot territory grow
Change is certainly difficult, and ime weed makes it hard to break the chains that bind. Smoke less, workout more. Set small goals and keep adding to them when they become routine. They add up.
Going through a completely successful change is sometimes impossible, but also necessary. Talk to your friends and family about it.
Change of scenery can make all the difference in the world. I left my hometown on a whim almost 25 years ago, and it was the best decision I made. For anyone willing to work seasonally, try the national parks. The concessionaires, like Aramark hire lots of hotel and service staff. Many have cheap housing and you can save enough to get by the rest of the year. Many people work ski resorts in the winter and the parks in the summer. Do a good job, and you can have a job to return to each year.
