Cant keep boner when putting on condom

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by just one toke, Jan 22, 2014.

  1. So me and my girlfriend, who are both virgins, have tried at least 10 times to have sex and I always lose the boner...it's really lame and fucking sucks cause we're both ready. She's going to the doctor to get birth control but that takes a month to work and we really want to have sex...A lot of the problem is I'm so worried about losing my boner that I end up losing it which fucking sucks. A couple times we've gotten close, but I don't have a full boner and she's a virgin and really tight and my dick starts to bend and it fucking hurts, and then I lose my boner...So idk what to do. We both really don't want to wait the month but were also not going to have unprotected sex. Is there something I can take to help me keep a boner? Weed usually gives me a boner but idk if it'd help. As for now and the next few days Mother Nature is cockblocking me soooo...
     
  2. It's not just you brother. Try not to think about trying to get a boner. That usually helps me. Just focus on whatever your fantasies make you imagine, don't think "aww fuck I can't keep this boner" it makes it worse..trust me.
     
  3. Just thumb it in.
     
  4. Don't jerk off at least 3 days before you know you'll get "le sexy time", think about having sex and your attractive girlfriend. And buy "Ecstasy Trojans" for real feeling. Good luck brotha 
     
    Peace
     
  5. Okay I'll be bit more serious other than just thumbing it in. Its a matter of nerves, not wanking will just make him blow quicker when it does get going. Best thing imo is just get relaxed put some music on dim the light so its a nice comfy setting, stay calm and just let it flow. Smoke some weed if it helps you relax but big no no if it makes you over think.
     
  6. #6 nativetongues, Jan 22, 2014
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    The big problem is thinking about it. the second you think about it it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. The best thing to do is just be calm and think about her and not yourself. Look at her and just focus on her body and hopefully it will allow you to get into the zone. Unfrotunately there's really no easy way to stop this problem because it's kind of a vicious cycle. But if you calm down and realize that there's no reason to be nervous then your problem will most likely go away. Good luck op.Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
     
  7. Have her blow you and put it on for you, and just think about how lucky you are to be with a tight little virgin and how awesome that's gonna feel. Don't focus on your boner cus that obviously does not turn you on. Also try fingering her to see how she feels and think about how you wanna feel that on your junk.
     
  8. Oh yeah, might be worth mentioning take it slow first. Let her take her clothes off first then let her take of YOUR clothes. Begin with forplay and then just relax like @[member="Adam182"] said. Best luck brotha
     
    peace
     
  9. There is seriously something wrong going on with this generation, way too many rubber dick stories. Maybe it's all the porn, desensitization? Too much ganja?
     
    My problem as a youngster was that the boner popped up with little provocation, and then stubbornly refused to go away unless serviced. I think I could have stayed hard with rubber overshoe on my dick, just from thinking about it.
     
  10. This has happened to me too man. Idrk. I eat healthy. But I haven't been exercising much lately. 
     
    OP, do you exercise and have a healthy diet? Also do you sleep well? All of these factors contribute to the strength or weakness of blood flow 
     
  11. bahg I think guys back in the day just didn't talk about it
     
  12. If you get some balls it should sort out the problem

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  13. For one thing, make sure it's out of the package and ready to go.  Fumbling around with those damn packages is enough to piss anybody off.   I'm talking about the condom, not you wanker.
     
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    This pretty much. Thinking too much leads to impotence over time. Just live in the moment and enjoy the physicality of it all.
     
  15. [quote name="Ingjr" post="19387829" timestamp="1390431442"]For one thing, make sure it's out of the package and ready to go. Fumbling around with those damn packages is enough to piss anybody off. I'm talking about the condom, not you wanker.[/quote]Yeah what we've tried is a blowjob while I open it up which works well and I can stay hard putting it on but once I try to actually put it in, it just starts going soft and she's so tight that I can't just get it in quick...And it's not a problem of getting boners like that one guy was saying about the new generation. I get boners all the fucking time and I have trouble with getting boners too often all the time until it comes to putting fucking condoms on
     
  16. #19 TheTrueHigh, Jan 23, 2014
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    Maybe you're allergic against latex and your boner just doesn't work anymore? *just some thoughts*

    Peace
     
  17. She should be giving you a nice ball licking and all that good stuff as you're getting the condom on. Then just lay back down with her (carefully so you don't damage the condom!!) and keep making out/playing around. Then just let the dick slip in gently and naturally.
     
    Or maybe you need to start eating and fingering her more to start loosening things up for you...
     
    Your sexual inexperience makes me nervous about going into my next relationship hahaha. Don't wanna be fucking up like THIS.
     

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