first off, I'M NOT GAY, since thats what about 90% of the people seem to be responding... So basically the title says it all, I was with this cute girl the other night, I had a few drinks of vodka, but was still fairly sober...and for the life of me I couldn't get hard... This isn't the first time I've ran into this issue the last time I was with girl. I'm fairly new to sex, so maybe its just nerves? though I really don't feel particularly nervous. I don't have any issue when I'm by myself, so I don't think its a physical problem, I'm also fairly sure I'm straight... any advice?
Yeah man it's so weird . I had some spell on me (knocks on wood) when whenever I'd be with a girl and I was drunk/stoned for the life of me I couldn't get hard . I think the real problem is in your head cause your in another zone you don't step back and think . It's hard to explain I guess
Probably just nerves. When I first started having sex 10 years ago, I couldn't cum. It was very strange.
Alcohol, even just a glass, can fuck up your boner because your blood just thins out. Maybe try out some viagras next time?
unfortunatly....the erection is governed by parasypathetic nervous system....the one that kicks on when we are relaxed.....the sypatheric the one that kicks on when excited governs ejaculation.....so if scared its harder to get it up and also easyer to cum..... this is why coke and meth guys get coke dick..limp...massive sypathetic drive do yu get hard masterbating...if yes this eliminates physical problem also...what do you think about when you jack it...if its dudes you are probablely gay
I feel bad for u bro. I have a hard time keeping it down with chicks around me. Grinding just turns me on fast as hell
Haha good try, you got your fact right but its spelled parasympathetic and sympathetic (neuroscience major here) , but besides that your spot on Well, to be perfectly honest, I've never tried getting hard around dudes...so maybe I'm good at that...however I don't plan on trying to fuck a dude anytime soon so...
You said alcohol was involved THIS time - was it involved in the other incidents? I had alcohol effect my ability in the past, not so much these days - might've been a combination effect between that and the age/inexperience nerves. Then one time, I just punched myself in the testicles and it blew right up.
My guess is just nerves. You were probably thinking too much. Just lay back relax and just let it happen. I remember just starting out, my mind was just constantly thinking am I gonna please her, am I gonna be able to last long enough, am I gonna seem awkward because I'm new to this. Trust me just shut off your mind and let it happen. Everything is gonna be just fine.
LOL at the two self-proclaimed virgins saying (maybe jokingly) that you're gay... It'll be ironic when they start having sex and they realize they have a similar issue. And OP, yeah it's just because you're new to having sex. Just keep fucking, dude.
First off, have less vodka. Besides the fact that alcohol is evil... it causes all sorts of bad complications. And honestly, it probably was the nerves. I've seen/heard of guys having problems all the time, so really don't feel bad. Just calm down and go with the flow. Maybe excuse yourself for a few minutes before and get yourself excited yourself. But if your still having issues, just pass up on the sex. Most girls would really respect you for doing so.