Cannabis users are lovers, not losers!

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  1. Marijuana smokers luckier in love: Survey

    Marijuana smokers luckier in love: Survey

    By Simone Paget, Special to Postmedia Network

    First posted: Wednesday, April 20, 2016 10:56 AM EDT | Updated: Wednesday, April 20, 2016 11:11 AM EDT


    The legalization of marijuana is one of the most talked about pillars of our new Prime Minister’s platform. With the week of 4/20 - an annual celebration of cannabis culture around the world that is once again upon us - Match.com recently released data that suggests marijuana enthusiasts might just be the luckiest in love - and the bedroom.

    As a non-marijuana smoker, I’ve never had a strong desire to date someone who smoked with any kind of regularity. Not that I haven’t tried to. In university, I dated a guy who was a certified “wake and baker” - he smoked frequently throughout the day, listened to a lot of Phish and had a coffee table littered with colourful bongs. Although he always had really great snacks in his cupboard, I figured out pretty quickly that his particular lifestyle wasn’t for me.

    I always thought I was part of the majority until I moved back to the West Coast of Canada - where you’re about as likely to meet a man who doesn’t smoke weed, as one who doesn’t look like a nouveau-lumberjack. So, in other words, next to impossible.

    Match.com’s data confirms that I’m part of a shrinking group. In fact, more Canadians say they would date a pot smoker (31%) than a tobacco smoker (30%) or a heavy drinker (20%).

    My reluctance to light one up might even be affecting my chances at dating. According to the survey, Canadian singles who smoke marijuana are 79% more likely to have had a date in the past year. Canadian pot smokers also go on 41% more dates than non-smokers. Also, if you’re tired of going on quick, in-and-out coffee dates, you might want to date a marijuana smoker - they have longer first dates (2.18 hours) than singles who don’t smoke (1.95 hours).

    If that’s not enough to change your views on embracing cannabis, maybe this will.

    Match.com says that those who smoke marijuana are 2.06 times more likely to have had sex in the last year. In fact, 19% of Canadians admit to smoking marijuana before getting busy.

    Smoking marijuana before or during sex can definitely enhance the experience for some people. As Agatha in Ontario shares, when it comes to marijuana, “the sex is mind blowing every time and our relationship honestly rocks because of it,” she says. “My husband and I are both employed and successful and we both smoke instead of having a drink after work or in the evening. We have been together for 13 years, married for 10 and we both smoked before and after we got together. Sex while high on pot is much better than the clumsy sex people have while drunk on alcohol.”

    According to Elite Daily, Dr. Lester Grinspoon, a retired Harvard professor dubbed “the grandfather of modern medicinal cannabis research,” says, “feelings of communion between weed-smoking partners can be more profound than mere sexual sensation.”

    While all this “love, peace and happiness” data is good news for some, not everyone benefits from the effects of a high according to Iona Monk, a registered clinical counsellor.

    Monk, who is also the founder of Vancouver Couples Counselling has seen first hand how marijuana can negatively impact a relationship. “For one, using drugs is a way of numbing, emotionally checking out,” Monk says. “When using, we are not emotionally available to our partner. This can leave a partner feeling cut off and abandoned. If someone is struggling with intimacy, getting high or drunk is an effective way to avoid that struggle.”

    Secondly, Monk explains, “addiction is a competing loyalty. Think of it as a mistress. The attention and desire goes to the addiction instead of the partner. So sometimes use is a sign that something deeper is going on (for example, fear of intimacy) and other times, the addiction is the problem, but either way it leaves partners feeling neglected and abandoned emotionally.”

    If you’re feeling like marijuana is taking over your relationship, Monk says a safe way to broach the subject is in therapy. “In a loving, non-nagging way, let your partner know that when they decide to use, they are not choosing intimacy. That you'd love to spend more time together connecting. Frame it as a positive.”

    Wise advice that I could have used in university.

    :passing-joint:

    Granny :wave: (married 48 years to the same dude!)
     
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  2. "Marijuana smokers luckier in love: Survey"

    I would have to think that whether someone smokes herb or not would have to do nothing as to whether they were "lucky in love" - or not. There have been many places throughout the world that simply weren't even exposed to cannabis for thousands of years, I'm sure, and I highly doubt that their relationships suffered because they didn't have weed.

    One has zero to do with the other.

    J
     
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  3. Having something in common that both of you really enjoy, is a good start on a successful relationship, whether it be cannabis, biking, or the Raiders! My hubby and I both enjoy cannabis, ancient history, good food, science in general, etc., all of which contribute to our compatibility.
     
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