My girlfriend wants me to quit and I'm just not going to. Simple. I'm not even going to lie to her about it either. All my friends smoke and to quit smoking would mean ending all of the best friendships I've ever had. No doubt about it. All the pieces I've bought, going to waste. And the general resentment towards my girlfriend. It's not worth it. I feel as if this could be the downfall of our relationship though. Anybody else been here before?
right on man. dont let her control you. it starts off with not being cool with weed, then it snowballs and turns into no drinkinf, no texting other girls, etc. trust me on this one.
When we got together about 3 months in she said no unmentionables. I said sure. Cuz not only do I not do unmentionables on a regular basis, but how would she know? So, it's kind of already snowballing ahah
yeah move on bro its not worth it at all plenty of fish in the sea that will accept the fact you smoke and probably will smoke aswell! Tell her she cant just change you because its what she wants tell her to grow the fuck up or she will never get a man!
Okay I just wanted to say. Your whole username, avatar etc.....dope. What's that key relationship rule?
you're not supposed to force change on the person you're in a relationship with. that's selfish. not that she's a bad person but... and thanks dude
See, this is where I was coming from. Her reasons are good, her mom, dad, grandpa and most people I've met in her family are all addicted to one drug or another. And she wants somone thats sober to be there for her. But, I just feel like if I quit, I'd lose all respect for myself.
My best friends girlfriend tried to get him to stop smoking to, and every time I was at their place and smoking pot she'd go on about "how he'll be quitting soon!" and the look on his face was utter dread, and it bummed me out to cause he was the only person that I really smoked with. I dont understand why people take it upon themselves to dictate someone else's life and habits to create their ideal partner. The only time I'll ever quit is if I'm preggerz!
That's what I was wondering. I admire OP wanting to stick to his guns, but this comment felt like a cop out. If its the truth, OP, I'm really sad for you. Just like your gf shouldn't try to change you, your friends shouldn't insist you do what they do.
Relationships are about compromising. You lose something, she loses something. You can give her more sober time so she can let you enjoy your high time more. All of this of course if you really love the other person. Another note, friendships are more than weed dude.
My ex did the same thing. I told her I wanted to break up. She begged to give it another shot, even try weed herself. She didn't like it, and reverted back to her original assertion that I had to quit. This is why she's my ex.
There's way too many factors for me to jump to a conclusion.. - How often do you smoke? - Are you spending too much income on weed? - How often are you high? If the answers to these questions are loads, loads and loads, then she may be in the right telling you to quit, I'd think it would be better to tell you to slow down, then again if you're sensible, it's a different matter. Either way, I don't expect you to admit to being irresponsible if you were.
thankfully my girlfriend is quite open minded about my smoking. she doesn't encourage it, but she doesn't condemn it. you have to find somebody who appreciates you, for you.
Compromise dude, bitch just wants some god damn quality time. She ain't getting any of that when your ass be high as can be. Just don't toke once and a while "for her" I suppose. She see's that and she'll compromise and let you enjoy your high's when you do.