well, heres my situation. i was dating this guy for about 6 months. we got really serious, really fast. like moved in together right away, started spending ALL of our time together, 24/7 basically... i fell in love with him so fast, and he treated me better than any other guy. honestly im completely brokenhearted that it didnt work out. and thats funny, because before i got with him, he wanted me for years and i wasnt interested. but now hes the one cutting it off. we were fighting alot in the last couple weeks, mostly because we both felt like we didnt have friends anymore, we both gave up everything to spend every minute together for so long. we were fighting a lot, and finally he left, and went to stay at his brothers.. the day he left is when i found out im pregnant. so i told him, and we tried to make it work, but in that week, i felt like he wasnt wanting to spend any time with me, i was under a lot of stress findng out i was pregnant and i started feeling really sick all the time, i was really hormonal and my mistake, every time we got into a fight i talked shit about it on facebook, and his ex sent me a message saying he cheated on me with her a few months ago. he denied it, but considering how the week had gone, it was really hard for me to trust him. finally after a couple more days, we got into another huge fight, and that was two days ago, i havent heard from him since then. its killing me. also, we work together, but im laid off for another month, he works fulltime and i work seasonally. he wont talk to me at all right now. i know things might change once i go back to work, ill have to see him a lot and hopefully we'll be able to talk about things, but until then, what am i supposed to do?? first of all im in love with him, but more important, im pregnant with his baby... i dont know what to do and this is so hard not being able to talk to him
Tell his ex bitch to mind her fucking business, first. Second, tell him that regardless about how he feels about you there's a child involved now and you're going to have to figure out how to at least get along and communicate for the sake of your kid. Once there's a kid involved there's not such thing as you to ever REALLY being apart. Stuck with each other for at least 18 years mine as well make it easy on each other.
That sucks he wont talk to you... He doesn't even know yet? Normally id say let him have his space, but this is a big thing to not know. Do what it takes to let him know whats going on.
Damn he should own up imo. Ladies can't get pregnant only men do. They do all the work the gals just carry it(that's harder I am just saying) GOOD LUCK MANE
He is childish as fuck. He knows your pregnant, scared and alone and he ignores you? That's pussy shit. I am sorry to say he's probably going to have little to do with this child's life, so prepare yourself for that now to prevent further disappointment. I'm sorry you fell in love with a d-bag, but it happens to all of us. Just remember that fetus growing inside of you will depend on you an love you forever. Just worry about that little thing and yourself now.
I think with you guys breaking up and then finding out about the baby is overwhelming to both of you. Maybe give it a few days for everyone to calm down and collect thoughts then try to communicate to him that no matter what happens between you guys it needs to be separate from the situation with the baby. You both made him/her and that you at least want him to be there for his child. I know it will be hard but try to keep your feelings about him out of the convo,you gotta show that you are focused on the baby and not trying to get him back. I know we're both just random people on the internet but really if you ever need to talk to someone outside the situation, feel free to PM me.
This is exactly how it went when I got pregnant. Except we weren't arguing we were broken up though. I kept trying to get ahold of him and looking back it was stupid. You can't force someone to be around or to care if they don't. If you're fighting a lot now its not going to get any better once you have this kid. It'll get a lot worse. He knows your pregnant, he has your number and he knows you're calling. He's avoiding you. You can try to talk to him on a break at work... well after work would be more suitable. If she doesn't change then there's nothing you can do. Tell him exactly how you feel and exactly what you plan to do and then leave it. He's most likely not going to be around and he wont want to help.
It's like a plane, heading for a crash... But there's still hope for a safe landing. Not all is lost. There's got to be some fire left in that engine, right?
Can't be round for a kid who's not born Talking shit on Facebook was childish To be fair it sounds like you pushed him away in that weeks time just try n get split custody when kids born or work it out
I'm not gonna pretend I know your situation, or what your going through but everything you posted made you seem very young, that being said I don't know what your earning power is but if my first assumption is correct it's probably not much, and with the father not being around to help........ I personally would abort, the baby doesn't seem like it's going to have a strong support system. Father not in the picture, mom doesn't make enough and is never around, etc, it's not a pretty picture. If you're young and have a job that makes less than 14$ an hour then I'd probably get rid of the baby. I always felt that any child I might ever have, I would want raised in a proper environment and that would include both parents, stable earning power, and probably would happen when I'm older. This next part doesn't apply to you in particular but, I can never seem to understand what happens to these women, I think it's some weird hormones that I'll never experience, but it's crazy....... like I watch these people in AWFUL relationships get knocked up, they have no money, no goals, no stability, and sooooo many of them decide to keep the baby. As if they're doing that child a favor, "saving" the baby so it can live out the early portion of it's life in poverty and part of the daily struggle. Legitimately if I were you, I would abort. No need to let a six month mistake turn into an eighteen year ordeal.
im not having an abortion... im 24 years old, i already have a 6 year old kid who i raised completely by myself and he has grown into being a completely wonderful, intelligent child.. i hear all the time how i did such a good job raising him, i have a job making $18 dollars an hour with options of working up to 40 hours overtime every week and im already living in a 3 bedroom apartment in a good neighborhood with a very decent rent.. so having an abortion only because im not with the father anymore would be completely ridiculous and out of line.
will you have help from someone then? Cause i don't see how you can manage a 6 year old, a full time (and possibly ot) job AND a newborn. Whatever decision you make it's yours, but i'm one of those abortion guys too. Can i ask you WHY you're against abortion?
The 6 year old, if he's anything like my nephew, can get his own drinks, use the bathroom and dress himself. The only thing he can't do is make food. I don't see why it's so far fetched that she could juggle two kids and a job. My sister did it for 6 years and she was dealing with a 3 year old and a 5 year old when she left her husband. You guys, saying abortion, are really offensive. She's made it clear that she's not doing that, so there is no reason to keep suggesting it.
