Hey GC, Im having a terrible slump right now. Shit just is going awful. Ive been in this sport for going on 8 years, and I work so hard at it, but Im just better than average. When I say I work hard on this sport, I mean like me and my coach calculated that I spend about a month every year working on it. Yeah, thats right, a month. Then theres the grades. This spring term at school, I pulled EIGHT all nighters and only had 8 hours of sleep 3 nights in 3 monthes. When I say I work hard, I mean it. Im a smart person no doubt, and no matter how hard I try, I barely get better than 3.0's. Not bad right? It is when you put several hours a day into work. Then there are women. I havent even kissed a girl this year, much less get my nut (guys have our needs). I havent had a girlfriend in 3 years, and Im really ready to have one again. There's family. My parents and I dont really see eye to eye, and since theyre paying for school and Im not really working, I have to abide by their rules. And then theres my sister...who has to live a life of a lower quality than shes used to because of the cost of my tuition, and she really hates me for it. And finally, money is a huge factor. The economy in my area is really bad, and only one of my parents works, so everything is tight. Its the main factor in my family and its at the point where money is the first thing on my mind. It tears my family apart. I feel so pathetic guys. I write in hope of maybe finding something that can make me feel better, but right now Im just depressed to the point where I dont even eat anymore. Ill just have a slice of bread and thats it, or a protein shake here and there. I keep trying to grow a pair, but it just doesnt work. Ive been rejected by women so many times, and had my heartbroken so many more times when I dont get the stats I work so hard for. Everything just sucks. Have you guys ever been in a really bad slump? If so how did you break out? Cuz thats what I really wanna do... tl;dr: Life sucks pretty bad when it comes to women, school, sports and family, and I need it to change.
Bro, check it out. You're enrolled in sports. You have motivation. You're getting 3.0s/passing You had a girlfriend 3 years ago. You still have two hands. You don't have some bitch nagging at you all the time now. (score) Your parents are paying for tuition, your sister isn't starving. One of your parents has a job. Quit your bitchin.
Although I agree, you can tell he is someone who cant see that. But its not his fault, people here at GC will help him open his eyes.
I'm not in sports, not conditioned enough/too short. (I wish I could be, I would love to give a month of my time to school sports) 2.6 GPA while repeatedly failing math classes. My girlfriend cheated on me, got pregnant by him, and left me. I pay for all of my entire tuition by myself and am not use to living any kind of lifestyle besides hard. Lifes tough, but in the end you have to keep fighting and come out victorious. Accept that there will be lows (more than highs) and highs that are incredible. Someone out there always has it tougher than you. Everything will pay off in the end, it's suppose to suck till you get there.
Your girlfriend situation is fucked. But what you should do is start playing basketball. You can play it by yourself when you're bored. When you're not in the nba you don't have 7ft guys guarding you. Short guys are better at driving the ball, you can dribble lower harder and faster. I never played sports in high school and my college doesn't have any sports. I started playing ball after I quit smoking and I am in WAY better shape. It feels really good man, trying to be the best, and there is countless people to play against at the local courts.
[quote name='"Snuggles"']I'm not in sports, not conditioned enough/too short. (I wish I could be, I would love to give a month of my time to school sports) 2.6 GPA while repeatedly failing math classes. My girlfriend cheated on me, got pregnant by him, and left me. I pay for all of my entire tuition by myself and am not use to living any kind of lifestyle besides hard. Lifes tough, but in the end you have to keep fighting and come out victorious. Accept that there will be lows (more than highs) and highs that are incredible. Someone out there always has it tougher than you. Everything will pay off in the end, it's suppose to suck till you get there.[/quote] This man. I cant even take college classes cuz my financial aid wasnt accepted so im forced to either work to pay off tuition or take out loans and fall into thousands of dollars of debt already at 19. So i work alot of hours togo to a piece of shit community college. My parents really dont help me. My mom lives and works in Pittsburgh while i live in ohio. My dad is a deadbeat and sucks up my grandparents money. Haven't ever had a girlfriend only rabdom onenighters. Just look to the future man and relax. Your overthinking shit and are on course for a good future. If your losing love for the sport take a break and try another sport or hobby.
Your life isn't that bad bro. If your sister hates you for going to school then she's too young to even understand, especially working as hard as you say you are. I was in a pretty bad slump last winter, but what got me through it was music, specifically my favorite artist Wiz Khalifa. I discovered him last winter even though I'd know he was around for a while, but hadn't listened to him because someone said he rapped about weed all the time, which reminded me of Kottonmouth Kings who I really really really don't like. Maybe Wiz won't be your answer, I just find that I can relate to him so much that if I were a famous rapper I'd be just like him. Maybe find the right artist to motivate you?
I know guys. I know. My life isnt THAT bad. But what hurts is my whole life Ive aspired so much more! I really thought Id be in a different place right now than I did when I was 16.
Oh, I do play basketball at the park or the gym. Im pretty decent What I meant was that Im not athletic enough to be on an actual official school team
I understand where you're coming from. My slump was for the same reason, though my situation was a bit worse. I thought I'd have life figured out by now so when I didn't I felt like I'd failed. But lots of people hit that low point, that's why I found music helpful. People talk about what their lowest point was and how they get out of it. But here, lemmie try to help. You're in college dude. You have so much life left to live it's crazy. You've probably been alive at least 20 years. Think about how long that was. You have so much time to accomplish all the shit you've had time to think of accomplishing, you just have to really really want it. I'm not belittling your efforts, just try something new. Is there a particular spot in that sport you aren't good at or what? Girls, you don't need em now. You're so stressed getting a gf would just be all bad. You wanna get your nut off, go to a bar or some big party, find a girl, one nighter. Or watch porn. Actually think about this, if you become really good at your sport to the point you're famous, you kill two birds with one stone, you're good and you get laid. That's all I really know about. I could go for days on money, you can flip anything into anything, please dear god don't tell me you live in California, that's a motto out here. Get product, sell it, get more, sell, business.