Yesterday, I had the unfortunate accident of being the moderator of an "argument" between two of my friends. One of my friends said that if a girl truly and deeply likes a guy, she will not hesitate to have sex with him as soon as possible. He said that he will not wait around past date three because that means that she doesn't have an attraction to him and he's wasting his time. The girl that refuses to "put out" has most likely had a hookup with other guys that she has known for only a few hours. He said "she probably met some guy on Spring Break or some other similar place and hooked up with him there. She obviously found him attractive. If you aren't getting some type of sexual action by the third date, then she obviously doesn't find you as attractive as that guy because she is hesitating." He then said that the tactic of withholding sex and making it an abstract possibility in the future is usually used by girls to "extract resources" from said guy as long as possible. Friend 2 is on the flip side of the coin and says that girls who delay sex to longer periods in a relationship show that they actually love the guy and value him more than a person to fuck. He said that most girls don't want to screw up a relationship by putting out to early and making it seem as if they are "too easy". I can easily see where my first friend is coming from in terms of raw attraction but I do not believe most girls consciously "extract resources" from guys. I know that there have been girls I have wanted in my bed within the first hour of meeting them but there have been other girls I have met that my attraction for them had to build. I don't know how women feel about this, if they feel the same way. So I was just curious. Others can feel free to jump in as they choose as well.