OK So I need some advice... I started dating this guy a little over a month ago. He used to me my manager at an old job about 5 years ago and we were always flirting but he was married and I ended up dating a loser for 3 years. Well when me and said loser broke up I was heartbroken didnt know what to do with myself blah blah blah then this guy J comes along again and helps me through everything and we end up hitting if off. Everything is going great, and no he isnt married anymore. But he does have a 4 year old with his ex wife. I love kids but I have none of my own so Im very scared about meeting his little boy. J wants to wait until he knows Im not going anywhere which I think he is realizing that Im not leaving. But his ex wife is very against me meeting him which I can understand her being cautious about it, but not totally against it. Anyways what Im getting at is...What do I do? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Ive never dated anyone with kids before. I dont know how to take the "baby mama drama". I don't want to piss her off in anyway, I actually want her to like me and for her to be comfortable with her kid around me.