being afraid to talk to a girl because of other guy(s) who are also trying 2 talk2her

im in it right now man.

 

SAME here man, cant even describe how much it sucks

 

What makes them better than you? Go up to her when she's alone or with people you are comfortable with.

 

I agree with that 100%

now i think my issue is a little more blehhhh
wtf do you try to do with a girl that has a boyfriend haha

 

Show the girl you are a better fuck

 

man, you got to tell really really really nice things. like, you're willing to wait for her to not be with that dude anymore. or just how pretty a certain part of her body is, and try to remember everything she tells you. just be really really sweet all the time.

i know, ok, i'm a girl

 

Fuck them other dudes, man. Just talk to her anyway.

 

for the first question - talk to her no matter wtf the other people do and jus play it cool


for the other .. the case in wich the girl already has a boyfriend ... start getting close to her as a friend first .. find out if shez into you .. then if she is jus go to a movie ptu ur arm around her and go on frum there

ive been in both situations ..

and telling her how pretty a part of her body is and being sweet .. most guys when they try to be sweet they either suck at it (my case) or there TOO sweet ... girls dont like guys that are too sweet .. but can live with one that isnt so sweet but is funny and chill ... but maybe that works for some of em

even tho i think that when a guy walks up to a girl and says .. omg you have really pretty lips bla bla bla and start being sweet .. its lame and funny and 80% doesent work

 

Dont even go there man because i know what i would do if i found you trying to hit on my girl !

No offence by the way

 

I think it's called a cockblock , haha. jk, but happens all the time, u just gotta rise above that shit, and not let it bother you...Cuz there will always be plenty of other dudes around most likely, you just hafta show the girls a good time first and you don't need to be better than those guys, you just need to be first haha. jk, no I'm not, but seriously sometimes you have to be sort of aggressive, sucky I know, but you gotta do whatcha gotta do or you'll end up friends, dun dun duhhhh...that's a depressing thought.

 

NOT true. you just wish that's the way it worked for you.

Dude, you've got to separate yourself from all the other guys that hit on her on a daily basis. If you've been buying her drinks, stop. if you're telling her she looks great all the time, stop. Instead, make fun of her hair, but make it good-natured and funny. I'm guessing you're a real nice guy, which i've found is the kiss of death. being really sweet
is the single best way to put yourself in the friend zone. believe me, i've spent most of the last 10 years in various friend zones, and i'm pretty much the tits. just bust on her all the time, basically treat her like your bratty little sister. As long as you're being funny while you do it, she'll eat it up. I've actually never had a girl NOT eat it up since I took the reigns off my natural sarcasm. Try it. one night.

 

hahaha. that's bad...I dunno If I would go that far.... I just think it's best to let her know how you feel as early on as possible...that way it's out in the open, and you can communicate on that type of level...and usually they'll let you know what they think...Just be yourself and let yourself relax into the role of flirting or whatever, It's not what you say, so much, as the way you say it...

 

truuuu man thats what i meant .. be funny and funny in a flirty way .. alwayz works..

 

My take on sharing feelings early is that it's just not a good idea. Part of the fun for girls (i've asked several) is the mystery of knowing exactly how the guy feels about her, and i've seen first hand (even been that guy) dozens of cases where the dude dumped all his feelings on the girl too early, she loses interest because there's no more chase, she already won, and she moves on. The key is to be sweet, compassionate, whatever, but do it ON YOUR TERMS, when YOU want to, not always when you pick up on her cues that that's what she wants you to do. Why do women love assholes? Because they can't control them, and they want to tame the beast. Why do nice guys finish last? because we give a woman everything she asks for when she asks for it, at it quickly becomes boring to her. They don't want their men to actually be puppies, but they like chasing that control. That's really more what i was getting at. I wasn't that clear. DO all that stuff, just when you want to. Example: a few months ago, when i still had money, I was seeing this girl. I pick her up, and as soon as she gets in the car she starts going on about how it'd be so fun if we went to her favorite italian restaurant and then to this bar where local bands play pretty regularly. I simply said "not tonight" and took her downtown to this jazz club (no cover! live jazz!) for dinner, drinks, and some dancing. we had a really good time. then, a few weeks later, without telling her, we went out on the exact date that she'd asked for, and not only did I stay in control, but she was tickled we did what she wanted to do, and really happy that i remembered that she'd mentioned that she wanted to do that. So i scored points in like 3 areas just by not giving her what she wanted when she wanted it. I guess that's the point i was trying to make.

 

Meh, nice guys always finish last Or just don't try hard enough hehe when she's alone go up to her and make conversation, just be YO SELF fuck dem other guys

 

LOL, I love you guys. Im in the exact same position! Its soooo much stickier though. Im like 31 and this chick is 20! She had a BF when she moved into my house like 3 months ago. It was her BFs idea cuz hes a good friend of mine and he knew i would respect his space with ihs girl, and i so would have too. BUT... the first weekend shes living with me she cheats on him with some shit head. Shit hit the fan. So they "worked through" that little incident but did not get back together, then she goes and F's this othe kid. Her dude finds out and comes over anf flips out...Thats how i found out she was with shit head number 2.

I told her i lost mad respect for her and she needs to act like a Queen if she wants to find a King. Caus she complains none of these dudes even take her out, 2 years with her BF and they went to out to dinner like 1 time just the 2 of them other wise it was always them and 5 of his friends.

I told her she should demand more. I basically laid it out what a man should do for his woman. She ait it up.

She keeps asking me if shes a queen yet, Im like you cant be a queen until you have a King, She says can i be your Queen, I told her she would have to take care of her XBF shit first. Cuz Im not like that....LOL ill fuck her this weekend i think.

Its so hard to stay cool in situations like that but girls are just STUPID when it comes to choosing a mate and thats a fact. Half the time its just because the shit head have no cooth and swoop in and the girl is just caught up in STUPIDNESS and bullshit.

 

Listen to this guy, and in regards to sodomizedjello's post... no offence meant to her but never take girl advice given you to by girls.

 

man dont listen to any of this.. you cant generalize females like that.. all girls are different. If you want a girl just be yourself if she likes you for who u are great, but if you have to change urself... to me its not even worth being in a relationship with that person, because sooner or later the real you will come out and you'll just end up breaking up with that person.


but ya i hate competing with other guys, i hate spitting game to girls or even my girlfriend with other guys around, it feels like they're judging me and what i say. Also when im competing it feels like the female is comparing me to other guys... i hate that.