I swear to God you can never win with my parents, my mother in particular. My mother is always commenting about mine and my brothers marijuana, she couldn't look more disappointed in us if she fucking tried man. I will never convince this woman. I came in today high and she twigged it straight away and said "Look at the state of your eyes" and that I need to "sort myself out" and how it makes me 'lazy', despite applying for over 30 jobs a day, she also continued babbling on about how I will never hold down a job. She bases me being lazy on stupid things such as waiting 10 minutes before getting out of bed to go to a hospital appointment. I had loads of time and arrived 15 minutes early like always. I kindly explained to her that "weed is my outlet and no matter what you say I will continue to use it regardless because it makes me happy, the same way you drink 4 glasses of wine a night". I said to her if she is allowed to get tipsy to de-stress then why am I not allowed to get stoned to de-stress? Without being judged? After all it's a healthier option than her 'outlet'. Whenever I say that she always comes up with the "okay then forget it" and "your right as per usual" and tries to defuse the argument when I am coming out on top then the next morning will make another remark. And she comes upstairs wondering why I prefer to stay in my room the majority of the time I am in the house well isn't it any wonder?! You can't go a single 10 minutes downstairs without her judging you with some misinformed rubbish about weed. Lets hear about your arguments with your parent over weed.
Ignorant people don't listen and won't ever listen, society tricks them into only believing anything illegal is pure evil. It is a plant. It is healthier than alcohol, which is practically a legal poison.
*resists the urge to make the obvious old guy comment "Move out. Problem solved." * *but not very well*
OP, How much of the bills and regular monthly payments to the home do you make? Nothing, perhaps? If so, then you should go out and get a job and use that money to pay some bills. Or, you can always opt to get out of their home and live like a hobo. Or, you could just opt to act right by them and be glad for what you have, shut up and go along with the program for the moment. You have lots of choices. I obviously smoke weed, but if I had a kid and didn't want them to smoke it, then that's going to be the way it is. I can make up whatever concepts I want if I'm the one paying the bills. You'll likely find that out soon enough though. And I come from the old days when a kid mouthed off to his parents…well….heh heh….yeah…*cough*
    I did say I apply for 30 jobs a day in order to contribute mate. I do not like being unemployed as it makes me feel a lack of purpose. The employment rates are at an all time low especially in young people like myself, I have plenty of work experience and volunteering experience but companies seem reluctant to take on people unless you are fully qualified. I have completed a diploma in ICT at college and have been on numerous training courses in order to boost these skills. I understand your point about her house, her rules and I completely agree with that but I am trying to convince her that marijuana is nowhere near as bad as she perceives it to be. I find it highly hypocritical that she is saying I am damaging my health whilst she has a bottle of alcohol in her hand. I never smoke inside the house, I smoke because it makes me happy, I am not one to rub it in but theres a time where I have to come in, thus get caught.
Before I smoked Marijuana regularly I would get depressed, sad, and reclusive (I split up with my girlfriend and immediately went into a bad depression and I was really struggling to deal with it and immediately started becoming disinterested in life and just stuck to the confines of my own house and was reluctant to meet friends because I didn't want them to see me all depressed over a girl. I stayed away from alcohol because I knew it wasn't smart to drink when depressed because it will only exacerbate it and I didn't want an alcohol addiction and I didn't want to pump my body full of zombifying prescription pills so I decided to give Marijuana a go, I instantly fell in love. The depression went away instantly and was I was happy again and now I feel like the person I used to be before the break up. Surely you must understand my reasons for smoking marijuana while under the roof of my parents, I chose to try and hide it and do it outside but eventually they clocked it as they aren't stupid and they know when somebody is high.
Believe me, I've been there…done all that. The same thing still holds true; It isn't your place and you don't get to make the rules. If she wants to drink then it's her prerogative. I disagree with the laws in Singapore regarding drug use -death penalty….so I don't choose to live in Singapore. But other people love it in Singapore because it's so clean and tidy and orderly. Different stroke for different folks and all that. It's a choice that you have to make. If you disagree with the rules of your Mom's house, then you have a choice as to how you're going to handle it. I'm not meaning to chew you out. I smoked when I was a kid and disrespected the rules, too. But, I wished I had been more respectful while I had the chance. Hindsight is always 20/20.
if you want a solution to the problem, don't come home stoned around the rents or use eye drops at least. my best argument would show the benefits of marijuana and not just the oppositional rebellious " im going to do it any way" attitude .I had to learn that with my parents, show them the facts and if they still are not comfy with you being stoned, enjoy your high somewhere else.happy tokes! btw..dr sanjay gupta weed report..search it
30 job apps my ass I just applied for 2 when I got back from college with hardly any job experience and got both. If you really applied to 30 at least 3 are bound to want your help.
What?! Wow its really different where you are!! I knew it was easier to get a job in the USA but not that easy!! Dude you need to come over to South East England, you do not know! You have it extremely easy and that is channeling into ignorance. 30 applications really isn't a lot here, chances are you aren't going to get anything! I'll bet £250 that you don't get a job with just TWO applications!
i never argued with my mom about weed.. she caught me, yelled and screamed and told me not to smoke it. I told her "ok i won't" and did a better job of hiding it from her..
Damn I didn't know it was that bad anywhere. These were also summer jobs so they need seasonal workers every year. When their options are a college kid in a good program with almost a 4.0 (me) and some kid fresh out of high school, I always win.
[SUB]I got to join the get the fuck over it crowd. You have no job and thirty applications isn't a lot. If it was thirty applications and an interview every other week then yeah maybe you could talk. Applying isn't the only thing you should be doing. Following up is actually more important hounding managers and showing them you really want what their offering. Please your moms right she doesn't need to justify her drinking when she pays the bills. If you helped out then yeah go ahead do what ever the fuck you want that's the approach my parents had with me as long as I paid for my gas and food they didn't care if I smoked.[/SUB]