You know it seems to me that kids nowadays ( I know I sound like an old man now ) need more ass whippins. I'm not talking about any abuse, but when I was a kid and was out of line, my father beat my ass, which I am now thankful for. All I hear nowadays is kids calling Child Protective Services everytime their in trouble and their parents beat them. What kind of shit is that? I never even knew CPS existed as a child. Too much information being fed to the kids? In a way, yes. I have a 10 year old who thinks he is 15. Yes I spank him when he fucks up, which has been a lot lately. How do you feel about this subject? Are you going to be a part of the problem ( Not disciplining your kids so we have a generation of fucktards ) or a part of the solution ( Actually spanking your kids and teaching them right from wrong ) ?
Discipline does not have to equal spanking. So your question is a bad one. We discipline without spanking. Hitting children for any reason is wrong.
I concur. It's just not fair bro. Kids are defenseless, no need to spank em. I do agree with you however, kids desperately need to be disciplined more.
Could you recommend some alternative methods that actually work? Because taking away things hasn't worked. The only time he has shown to learn a lesson is after a spanking. My parents spanked me, and I am glad. Did your parents not spank you? My whole theory is that due to lack of effective discipline, there will be a generation of fucktards roaming the Earth breeding, and so the cycle begins....
My parents spanked me, and I don't wish that upon anyone. There's many methods of discipline that will get the point across. I've found that simply making a child endure a mild form of a goal that requires manual labor can do the trick. Do it like they did back in the soviet union. Make em learn their lesson by pulling every weed out of the family garden. Be creative and make up your own ways, but constantly keep in mind that you are dealing with a child. DON'T overdo it.
My parents did worse than spank me. How old is your kid? [EDIT- I just re-read your post and saw his age.] You have to have age appropriate responses to bad behavior. This website has been helpful to me so far. This one, too. http://www.saferchild.org/tipsfor4.htm http://www.saferchild.org/discipline.htm
hell yes! i was never beat but i got my ass spanked when i was bein bad and that teaches one quickly. pain retains. thats why children today are so much more rotten than back in the day cus they think you cant touch em.
Don't get me wrong, I don't enjoy spanking my kids. The others hardly ever need a spanking, its just my son. Actually he is my step son from my wife's previous marriage. So first of all it was rather ackward for me disciplining them at all. Whenever he gets the chance to do something when he thinks no one is watching, he does it. Everytime like clockwork. He has been suspended every year since the 1st grade, at least 2 times a year. Lets see last year he was suspended for 8 total days. I have walked into a losing battle with this kid. If he keeps this up, when he is 12 I will be putting him in military school. I am really at my wits end with this. And about my parents beating my ass: All of the important lessons I have learned in life from my parents I remember because they spanked me, not because they took my away my nintendo or grounded me for three months.
Continue spanking your step-son if you think it's working for you. It's not like I can come to your house and stop you. But I have provided you with links to other options. Sure, it's not as easy as spanking but parenting isn't supposed to be easy. If you don't like spanking, why don't you stop? It's clearly not working, is it?
I'm not trying to flame here at all. I really just wanted some advice on this. Do you have kids Hempress? If so how many? My wife and I have 4 between us, so its utter chaos 90% of the time around here.
Yes, I have one son. I'm not trying to flame you here, either. I just really find spanking abhorrent and I try to convince parents not to do it whenever I can. But I am confused as to why you continue to do it when it's clearly not working.
Ok so lets trade kids, and see how long it takes before you spank him. Just kidding. What would you personally do if your son was exhibiting the same behavior as mine? You see, my logic is this: Once they realize that I am not spanking anymore, they will act accordingly: like heathens.
Nothin wrong with a good ass whoopin. Beatin the living shit outta your kids is kinda apart of my culture......... I dont agree with it, but i do think kids need to be whooped sometimes.
I really don't know what to tell you to do. Your situation is vastly different from mine since your son is actually your step-son. Does his mother discipline him at all, or does she leave it to you? That might be one of your problems right there. How long have you been his step-father? When I was his age, I hated it when my step-dad told me to do anything and I would disobey him because he wasn't my real dad. Maybe your son feels the same way? I really don't know without knowing this kid personally. I'm not going to sit here and say that I've never been tempted to hit my kid. And I'm not going to sit here and say that I have never done it. But it didn't solve the problem and it just made him afraid of me. I don't want my son to be afraid of me. I'm the one that is supposed to protect him from all of his other fears. I think if you raise kids to respect you and not fear you, they'll naturally want to do the right thing because they want you to be proud of them.
HELL yah, spank the crap outta them. Not literaly though, thats just gross. When i was a child, my parents spanked me a few times. Slaps to the back of the head and pushes were all i needed. TO THIS FUCKING DAY, the face and the expression that my Father makes when he's pissed at me will scare the living crap outta me. Does more than spanking ever did/does. So my advise, GET PISSED and SHOW IT! Make your face turn red and the veins pop out. Spank the hell outta him a few times so he knows who's boss and what your capable of doing. My parents barely ever laid a hand on me, but to this day i still FEAR the anger which i can unlease within my Father. Thats why i rarely strait out disobay him. We may have some dissagreements and what not, but thats cool because he can compremise on small things that wont effect me badly in the long run. Sounds corny, but he's my Hero and Idol for the way he raised me and the hardwork he did to make sure i always had a roof over my head and clothes on my back.
Well I believe that all kids need to have a healthy "fear" or respect for their parents. I'm sure what you mean is the actually afraid fear and not the respect fear. I think thats the whole issue here is respecting your parents and what they ask you to do. Yes, my wife does discipline him too. He has been my step-son for 2 years now. The underlying issue here is that his father NEVER spanked him and let him do whatever he wanted when my wife divorced him. He did this so that the kids would "LIKE HIM" more than her. I don't want my step-son to end up like his biological father ( 30 years old working at Del Taco, living in a single wide trailer with his inlaws.) How much of this do you think is genetic?
The old "nature vs. nurture" question, lol. I don't think anyone will ever know. As to respect, I think it's possible to respect your parents without fearing them. My step-father beat me as a child/teenager and my mother stood by and allowed it. I have no respect for either of them. And I don't fear either of them any more.