Any blades here have kids, and how have/will you deal with the whole pot issue when it pertains to your kids? I'm expecting a daughter in December, and my only rule for myself is that she discovers it on her own, makes her own decision to try it, and as long as she's at the very least 14, I won't be upset. When I do suspect her of smoking or if she asks about it, I'll explain the basics of the plant, set some rules about smoking in the beginning, then get more lax as I see her grow older and become responsible with it, then she's free to do what she wants with it when I feel she's ready. I also plan on keeping smoking after she's born, I'm just not going to smoke around her or leave her alone to go. My baby comes first, my fiancé second, my job next and my weed after that. It's, Friday mornin, where the weed at?
when they are in bed or school i smoke. the oldest is 7 so whenever they discover it, you know whatever lol. has to be doing well in school for me to actually allow it, though
Thanks, Dude. That sounds about right for us too lol. Yeah that'll probably be another thing with me, but seeing who her parents are, she'd smoke anyway and hide it. I figure as she's a baby I'll go take a smoke break when she's down for a nap or if Sarah (fiancé) holds her for a while, then as she gets older I'll have to start hiding it more. Except when she's at school, that's totally my territory. It's, Friday mornin, where the weed at?
I got twin 5 year old daughters, and I never smoke in front of them or let them near any weed, when they are of age and out of highschool they can smoke all they want. As long as they are being responsible and handling there life.
first of all congrats. You blades are the sickest parents in a good way. OP u seem like a good person in my book even before this thread,
Dude, haha you do not need to live in the future like that. I don't have kids, but I do have enough life experience to know that you need to take things as they come. You have a lot of diapers in your future before you have to worry about any sort of teen problem like that... Good luck
My daughter will be aloud to smoke when she's in college, plenty of time there. I didn't smoke until I was 18, so I'll probably hold her by the same standard.
ha 14. man you need to learn a lot before you are thinkin about the age ur daughter will toke up. ur in for a real rude awakening
Right now my daughter knows I vape, I tell her its my medicine. I will teach her the truth about drugs when she gets older although I won't openly allow her to do them until an appropriate age.
It seems like its a lot easier to smoke when your kid is younger but not when theyre first born. I was too paranoid when he was an infant so I told his dad that one of us had to be sober at all times in case we had to take my son to the hospital or something. It's up to you when you smoke when your kid is a little older. I think most parents get comfortable smoking more when their kids are more independent and don't require super constant attention. Sleep is always a good time to smoke. As for when they get to be kids, you have quite a bit of time to figure out what's best for you and your child. I do think you should be mindful of the fact that kids like to talk and you don't want your school age kid to go to school and talk about mommy and daddy being high lol
I'll put in my two cents, as a smoking parent, AND as someone who started smoking at 15. As far as your outlook on smoking with a newborn. . . I smoke EVERYDAY, however, i didnt start this until my kid started sleeping through the night. Newborns sleep ALOT but they dont sleep throughout the night. When they wake up in the middle of the night there is an entire routine you need to follow, and I PERSONALLY would never do that high. Its just not worth it, IMO. At the moment my son is 2. He goes to bed at 8, and by 9 I'm STONED! I have a smoke room, with a super heavy duty child proof handle on it. He has never been in that room, and isnt going to be allowed in that room. I set up the boundary as soon as he was mobile. I dont smoke when he is napping, but thats because I smoke until im high, and it takes me a WHILE to come down. So i dont risk it. As long as you get your priorities straight (not saying you dont) then there is nothing wrong with smoking as a parent. I would strongly suggest however, take the first couple months off, get used to all the new things you are going to be doing. It seems like life will be pretty similar just add a baby, but truthfully EVERYTHING changes, so take some time to learn what the new normal is, then find the best time in your family's schedule to smoke. As far as letting your child smoke at 14. . . . I started smoking at 15, I smoked EVERDAY until I was 17. I didnt have the same drive as some of my other friends in school. After I did my homework and got my responsibilites taken care of, all my extra time was smoking. I liked it, I did what i needed to do, so I thought it was all good. But it really kept me from trying new things in high school. I was complacent and comfortable with things the way they were. And I didnt realize it at the time, but all the "Dumb shit" I thought wasnt worth my time like homecoming, parades, school dances, etc. Yeah they were lame, but they were memories I dont have to share with anyone. Also when it came time for college prep I was LAZY! I was okay with Community college. Therefore i didnt work as hard in school, passed my classes, but didnt REALLY try. there was a potential i was never reaching. I dont want to blame it ENTIRELY on weed, but I do believe children (yes children, anyone under 18) are not ready to use it responsibly because they dont understand how broad life really is. THey should be experiencing things in life before they start smoking. When My son is in high school I will TRY to keep it from him that we smoke. I want him to stay sober throughout high school, hopefully this includes drinking too. I want him to work hard, learn alot, get into a good college, play sports, etc. THEN when he is 18 and graduated high school IF he has college plans, I will get him STUPID stoned on his first day of summer. I will then explain to him in the last 2 months he is home how to responsibly use the herb, the way his father and I do. I think that at that age after accomplishing all the things i want him to accomplish he will be ready to handle being a responsible adult AND partake in MJ. These are all personal opinions, they are not the gospel, BUT they have worked incredibly well for me so far. THis is the advice I would give a friend of mine, given whole heartedly to help a new parent learning and finding their way. Good luck with the new baby!!!!
I've got 4 kids, 10, 4, 2 and 11 months. My house is smoke/drug free. My advice is have another place to go, a shed, un-attached garage somewhere that they're not affected and don't go. As for how much you let them know well that's up to you and they're maturity level should be taken into account. Everyone says don't tell them but once they're in school the teachers will start asking questions (bastards) about strange smells and if "daddy rolls his own cigarettes" shit like that so you either need to hide it really well or sit them down and explain it to them when they get old enough to understand. Plus if you're the one to explain it to them then they won't get the negative blast about it that they're teachers WILL put on it. Just my .02, congrats OP kids are a wonderful adventure. Sent from my NSA recording device.
We just had a semi talk with our son about it... he is about to be 12. I've never openly smoked in front of him but he has seen pipes and such. I specifically asked him what he has learned in school about drugs and was disappointed to learn that it was only that marijuana is bad. Here as I'm sure in plenty of other areas herion is extremely bad and he didn't even know what it was. So it ended up turning into a lesson about heroin and how my cousin and numerous other young people have died because of it. Sent from my LG-E980 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
No kids but i was bought up by parents who smoked daily. they never tried to hide it from me and hit the roof when i first smoked weed (i was 12 -13 ish ) they say me down and explained weed and what it is what it does now 6 years later they know i smoke it as well im pretty sure, they know im doing well in life and not slacking i have a job, a good social life. obviously take what i say with a pinch of salt but from a guy raised around weed it has defiantly made me more mature and appreciative of weed.
Thanks, dude. I've been regarded as quite an asshole for most of my school days, and as a lazy pot smoking bum by family for a while, so it feels nice to be thought of like that. didn't even know anyone was actually noticing me at all lol. I used to have an account, Torchandabowl, but I didn't like the name anymore and couldn't figure out how to change it. So if you've ever seen Torchandabowl, that was me too. Brain doesn't fully develop until you're 25, but I also didn't mean that I'm gonna put a pipe in her hand and tell her to smoke up at 14. If she finds out about it and finds some on her own somehow and I catch her, I won't be as upset as if she were 11-12 or something. As long as she's not slacking off in school, we won't have any problems. See the above response to the above quote. Well after she's born we should be living in this apartment and there's not really any sheds or anything and I can't smoke inside unless I somehow figure out how to stop the smell. I figured I'd either load my bong with a one hitter and just cash the bowl, so no smoke from that, and just run a hookah hose out of the window and blow the smoke through, and just do it in the room opposite to whatever one she's in. And I'll probably let her have her biased education about drugs and history and all that, then teach her afterwards about some historically inaccurate things schools teach, and then give my own drug education lesson to her. Sorry for not replying to everyone, too many people to quote and respond to, but thanks for posting and I appreciate the input. It's, Friday mornin, where the weed at?
Both my parents smoke everyday and tried to hide it from me growing up. By 11 I knew where the weed was kept and that they were hypocritical in how they portrayed it to me. By 13 was getting high regularly and haven't stopped since lol. Can def say if my folks played the cards differently I wouldn't have had an early interest in weed but I knew it wasn't bad if my folks did it. Took a while to chill but I continued to smoke everyday until my mom got tired of catching me lol by 16 was getting high in my room. Always had As and Bs throughout k-12. Point being not every kid should smoke but me and my folks wasted alot of time being at war over weed. Wasn't worth it in the end. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SG-HIGHASFCK using Swishers and Herb