Does anybody else here have a short temper or anger issues? I struggle with it daily. I'm a very calm, reserved individual usually. When big/serious shit happens that SHOULD make me blow the fuck up, I have a way of kind of laughing them off or getting through them in complete control. Then.. There's these other times where the littlest fucking thing makes me go bezerk. Everything goes out the window at that point, logic, reason, compassion everything and I'm just angry. For example.. Tonight on my way home from work I was driving on the highway to get home, and in a slight hurry. I was in the farthest left lane trying to do 80 in a 70 while the only car in front of me was only doing 70. A decent human being would have gotten over on one of the many chances he had. Had their not been a line of cars to my right I would have just went around, but I couldn't. At this point I'm thinking to myself "what the fuck why won't you just get over?" Which is a thought I stewed upon for several minutes still following this car. I decided to take a different approach and crept a little closer to his car, hoping that he would get the hint I wanted to go and let me be on my way. Nope, not happening. As soon as I got about a car length away from his car he brake checked the shit out of me. This is where it got real for me. I flashed my high beam as a way of saying"WHAT THE FUCK MAN!!" and as soon as I did he stomped on brakes, like smoking tires. I managed to stop before hitting him but, as soon as I saw the flash of light from his brake lights it felt like it ignited an explosion inside of my body, that's really hard to explain. For me it's just an overwhelming burning white hot rage, and at that point I fucking lost it, I stopped thinking, feeling, etc and started cussing the dude out, I seriously felt like I wanted to kill him, it took a minute for me to get out and around him, but when I finally did I got right in front of him and brake checked HIM. He tried going to a different lane but I blocked him every time, constantly brake checking him. That's when he turned his high beams full on. So I reached over into the passenger floorboard where I had a pringles can from my lunch break, picked it up, and threw it out the sun roof. SCORE! I hit his car with it, at this point he takes off, flooring it trying to run away from me, which I then step on it and follow. I was convinced I was going to follow this car to wherever it stopped and stomp the dudes face in. At the very last second I kind of though "what the fuck am I doing" and swerved into my exit last second, then proceeded home. Now I'm sitting here still pissed off, feeling guilty for how pissed I got and the thoughts I had, and what I was about to do, like seriously feel like shit about myself right now. I just don't like feeling so mentally unstable. After typing it all out, it sounds so stupid and immature, like I have no clue what I was thinking..but that's the problem..I wasn't. I can't be the only blade on here with some kind Anger Issues or short temper. My question to you all is, how do you deal with your anger? How do you stay in control? How do you vent your anger(I have a problem with this, like chilling out after getting so mad)? Any stories you guys might want to share about your angry moments please do. I'd love to know what it was that set you off and how you handled/vented it.
At the end of the day, all of it isn't worthing man. Emotions can be pretty powerful but doesn't mean that its difficult to handle, manage and them at appropriate times, realize what's causing all this buildup of anger, is it stress? Is the attitude of other people and how they react? Certain situations? Find the backbone of what causes this and once you do, you'll focus on the road to bettering yourself as a person. I used to have emotional problems as a adolescent then when I start smoking weed, I just started to not give a fuck, things or people's criticism just doesn't get to me anymore, I'll just be like "Okay" or laugh it off. Once you chill out, you'll be good.
ive had anger issues my whole life and its gotten me into a lot of trouble.. i understand how you feel when it gets to that point where you just lose control.. you lose the ability to rationalize and think shit through. i guess the only thing that helped me was getting older.. i can still get black out pissed but it takes a little more and i can blow shit off easier than i could before.
i have anger issues too. just as you said, its the small things that get me going. like the other day the cord of my headphones got caught on a drawer and the chord ripped out of my 100 dollar pair of headphones. making it useless. i fucking lost my shit, punch a small fist shaped hole in the wall and kept punching shit after that. its like a switch goes off in me where im relaxed and calm, then all the sudden its like i want to fucking kill someone. even though i'd never really hurt anyone for no good reason. im doing way better then i used to though, i used to get these episodes where i would go off on anyone even if they are trying to help. nowadays i just take out my anger in different ways. know what helps me a lot? more then xanex? weed. everyone in my family will agree when i say that i become very very calm and nice when im stoned. anyone else get that blind rage for no reason, just completely out of nowhere - where you just feel like your heads going to burst and your blood vessels are going to pop? its like lifting a very heavy weight. that's the feeling i get and im starting to think i'm bi polar cos its like ill get episodes of it, and it can come out of nowhere.
I'd rather work through it on my own. Have anything of substance you might want to share? Such as how you deal with or vent your anger? That's just the thing. I know it isn't worth it, I just seem to forget that at the time, haha. I definitely am examining the source, which I'm thinking is just a blow out from bottling things up for too long. I've held on to a lot of my anger and resentment from my childhood, that I really do need to learn how to let go of. I appreciate your post man! Glad to know I'm not alone. What do you do when your black out pissed to get a grip?
I've had them for as long as I can remember as well. I just learned to blow stuff off and not get upset over things that don't really matter. You have to put things in context, is the thing you are getting angry over going to matter in a day? Week? Year? Also, deep breaths help. After a heavy dose of various drugs and MJ I feel like I've gotten a lot better at controlling myself then I used to. Good luck man.
Black out rage, try and control yourself first, then steady your breathing and take deep breaths, let yourself breath deeply until your heart rate is back to normal and then sit down. That's what I try and do.
Dude i know exactly the feeling. Youre right it usually is the small shit that gets to me.when im set off i just start yelling so loudly, swearing, punching shit, its so bad. It makes me feel sick to my stomach and everytime i know i shouldnt be this mad and that its bad for me, but i honestly just have such a hard time controlling it. Ive been trying very hard for the past few days to stop my rage fits, and i honestly havent had a bad one since the weekend, so im feeling good about myself. It may seem dumb that ive only lasted a few days, but its progress. Its all about taking control of your mind and deciding to do the best thing during these shitty situations and that is to shrug it off. I hope you learn to control it OP, im trying my best everyday from now on
depends on the situation.. i act on it way more then i should im sure.. if its a spur of the moment thing, then its pretty much done for, i cant hold myself back.. no joke.. i was at the corner store one day, i was bendin down lookin at a magazine, then from my side someone took the hat i was wearing off my head.. i stood up and almost pieced this kid .. and when i say kid i mean kid.. like a 5-7 year old kid or someshit .. it was easy to calm down this time, it was a kid haha.. but it put it into perspective just how big of a problem my anger issue is.. (and when i say i almost hit this kid, it was before i knew who done it.. after i saw it was a kid i was fine haha.. i wasnt standin there thinkin "im bouta hit this fuckin 7 year old") if its somethin like i get a call and it pisses me off, i breath, and let it blow over.. i can usually control shit like that pretty good. its just the heat of the moment shit like blatant disrespect that gets me. my chest gets hot, my face gets hot, my thoughts jumble up and i snap..
That's actually a pretty accurate way to describe it. I just want control over that feeling, I don't like not knowing what I'm going to do next, weather it be punching a wall, or getting in a fight or worse in certain situations. Weed is probably the only thing that helps me, and is probably the only reason I haven't completely flipped my shit and gotten locked up or something. After being home for a while and making that posts, I've taken a couple bong rips, gonna take another, I'm completely calmed down, I really could give a fuck that the dude brake checked me now, or anything relating to it. I'm just blissfully happy. I feel like me again. I don't feel like myself when I'm angry like that though.
I feel ya man. Usually the only time I get like this is when I feel seriously disrespected. Like, if I hear about something said or done to me, I could blow it off easy. Yet if the same thing was said or done and the antagonist was right their, I find myself not being able to just walk away like everyone says to do.
"walk away" is said by people without anger issues.. or without a backbone.. i know a lot of the shit i get into fights about is trivial.. but i dont tolerate disrespect and never have.
Yeah I'm that way. All the little things just get pushed aside until finally something puts me over the edge and I go nuts
Take a toke....i can never find myself angry if i am buzzed. i become furious sometimes...that's when completely sober.
I don't have anger issues but I can relate to losing control. I'm usually very calm, think things through, give people second chances, etc, but every once in a while something will make me flip and I won't have any control over what I say or do. I feels weak when this happens so I try not to let it as much as I can
yea i feel you on the weakness part.. i feel that way too.. like if this dude has that power over me to make me lose my shit then what does that say about me? but eh..
I get mad as hell every once in a while and punch a hole in the door(solid wood, not those shitty hollow ones) or somethin. I usually am calm and reserved but if I get mad I get fucking angry and if I get angry I get violent. But I've been working on it, counseling myself if you will.