It's not "death" that we should hold the grudge against. It's not "death" that we should hate and be angry at for taking our loved ones... It's our attachment to the LIVING that we should dislike (after all). It's that attachment that will kick your ass when a loved one dies, for death is just a natural process - just as birth is. Birth and death have been around much longer than us humans with our 100+ year life-spans. So it's not death we should hate. It's our own dependance and attachments to the living and the ones we love that are the ones to blame.