Advise Please?

Discussion in 'Pandora's Box' started by Dizzy, May 28, 2022.

  1. It Might Be A Dumb Question An This Kinda Just A Personal Problem I Need Advise On If You Guys Don Mind. Anybody Who I Talk To Regularly On Here Probably Know My Situstion That Happen To Me Back In Jamaica.

    For Those Who Dont Basically Long Story Short I Got Jumped An Beat Up Really Badly Down There When I Was 16 An Gotta Traumatic Brain Injury From It.

    But Anyways Yea My Lil Sister Who Just Graduate From High School Ina Few Days Say She Wanna Take A Trip There An See What It Like BC She Was Bassically A New Born When We Left.

    The Problem Is She Been Tryna Convince Me To Go With Her Sometimes After I Have My Baby Most Likeely She Says. I Dont Wanna Go But She Dead Set On Gettin Me To Come With.

    I Know Nobody Mind Readers On Here But Anyways My Question Is If I Went There With Do You Guys Think That Those People Who Attack Me Would Do It Again If They See Me?

    It Happen Years Ago When I Was 16 An Im 34 Now. I Don Wanna Let My Sis Down But I Just Get Anxiety To Think About It Even :( What Do Yall Think I Should Do?




    ~Toni~
     
  2. Go wit what u feel u need ta do!
     
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  3. Lol I Always Take Forever To Make Descisions. An Stay Over Thinkin Too.




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  4. How old were they when they hurt you?
     
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  5. i think you should go toni, the chances of you even coming across those same people is basically nil. i can understand having anxiety about it, and that at least for me would be very hard to over come. but typically fighting through anxiety and fear leads to better results. you will have your family there to support you as well.
     
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  6. Varying Ages I Not Exactly Sure I Don Remember Any Of It Except What People Told Me





    ~Toni~
     
  7. Ohh Ok I Will Strongly Consider What You Say BudButler Thank You. :)






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  8. i was hoping they would be much older and over their bs

    Does you family back home know who there are? Maybe they've split the scene?
     
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  9. Well Maybe I Will Get Lucky An They Wont See Me At All Or Remember My Face. My Mama An My Other Sister An Brothers Know The Names. I Wouldnt Even Know If I Was Right Next To The People Tho I Dont Remember Anyting.





    ~Toni~
     
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  10. It depends on how much anxiety it is going to cause you
    If you do not have much memory of the event then if you avoid bringing it up you should be able to enjoy the trip
    Keep to comfortable places that will not be so stimulating
    If you have a therapist maybe map out a plan to manage symptoms and involve your sister
    You can enjoy it with the right preparation
     
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  11. Write about it.
     
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  12. hi Toni ..,just go and enjoy your holiday ,,forget the low lifes that beat ya up...enjoy ya life ,,,mac.
     
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  13. Thank You Tokin. I Do Have A Therapist. I Mainly Just Don Wanna Get Attacked Again. Thats My Fear. If It Happen Again I Would Die Literally.

    What Do You Mean Anni?


    Well If I Do Go It Wont Be Till After I Have My Baby Sometimed But Thank You Mac.





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  14. What does your therapist say about you going?
     
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  15. I Havent Brought It Up To Her Yet BC I Wasnt Sure If I Was Going An Leaning Towards Not BC It Worry Me. I Go To See Her On June 14th I Think So I Will Bring It Up Then.




    ~Toni~
     
  16. You gotta do what's best for you. And baby. Sis has to do what's best for her. Sometimes they are the same thing, sometimes not.
     
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  17. Did you have your baby yet? Or are you even pregnant? I forgot lol


    I think you’ll be perfectly fine Toni, you haven’t been back since the attack?
     
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  18. If your anxiety can't be overcome than I wouldn't go. It's not worth getting sick. While it's a nice thought you and your sis vacationing together , it's not something you have to do. And nobody here wants to hear of you getting hurt.:)
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  19. #19 Dizzy, May 29, 2022
    Last edited: May 29, 2022

    Thank You For The Help An Kind Words On Me Guys! I Really Appreciate It. :) <33333 Green Dragging Thats A Cute Doggy Too.



    ~Toni~
     
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  20. #20 Dizzy, May 29, 2022
    Last edited: May 29, 2022
    Yup I Got Pregnant At The Beginning Of April Sis. Its All Good Tho. No I Havent Been Back At At All Since I Left When I Was 17. Don Really Wanna Do It TBH I Will Be A Nervous Wreck I Think.



    ~Toni~
     

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