In order to understand my situation, you should probably know more about me. I was that annoying obnoxious kid that few wanted to hang out with in high school. Probably my need for constant approval from my peers. At any rate, I had no friends outside of the swim team which was pretty much like my family, and they liked me the way I was. So, I came to college expecting to change my social behaviors and to make a lot of friends. It happened, I made several friends that I hung out with regularly throughout the first two months or so of the semester. After one of the four kids I was hanging out with brought his girlfriend to the dorms, and she had a crush on me and one thing led to another, blah blah, he doesn't like me anymore and he convinced the rest of my friends that they shouldn't hang out with me either. So, I ventured down the hall to a different group of kids, and started hanging out there. I started smoking regularly at that point, and everything was going great. Except that weed ruined our friendships. I was a noob smoker, therefore I got noob highs. These guys had been smoking for a while, but apparently they forgot what it was like. So, I became the target for "poking fun" every once in a while when we smoked. It didn't bother me at all, but it's gotten worse. When I'm high my social behaviors from high school came back, and now it feels like high school all over again. These guys are generally nice guys, but I smoke them out pretty often and lately they have been nothing but dicks in return. Even DENYING a smoke out when it's CLEAR that they owe me. I'm done hanging out with them. So I was smoking a J out in the "nook", a sweet smoke spot on campus that's pretty tucked away, and I see these two guys I see out there a lot. They are pretty cool guys, when they are out there I always pass the J to them and they pass the pipe when they've got it. So I was sharin' the last bit of my J, and I thought to myself "these would be cool guys to hang out with/make friends with". So I asked them where they lived, and I'd stop by next time I was going to smoke. They told me where they lived and we exchanged names/ph#s. So basically, what I'm asking, is what should I do here? I am probably moving away after this semester, so I could probably just chill in my room for the next couple of months and not be social. It'd be cool to chill with these guys but I don't want to fuck up with another group of friends so I really don't know how to go about it. Any advice?
I have a friend who does the same thing you do. It can be a buzzkill, but it seems that you need to remember that if you dont have anything good/funny/productive to say, dont say it at all. Keep your stories short and strain to remove as much unnecessaryr detail as possible Dont kill the high and act childish. Chill out and get lost Dont "act" high because everyone knows a stereotypical stoner high can over overacted and therefore obnoxious. Soon enough, these things with either a.) disappear or b.) not wierd your friends out because they know who you are really and brush it off as a stoner characteristic you inhabit. Hope i helped man. Ive met so many chill people that just arent the same when high. Try not smoking so much. Go to parties and when you feel comfortable with a group, start to smoke little by little. \ Getting blazed and being new is a no no when trying to make friends. The trick is to go on with your life as if you werent stoned, but enjoying the effects that play with your mind and body to yourself.
If people like you and accept you into a group when stoned, theres a 110% chance they will accept you normally. Some people's stoned personalities can put a neon jester hat on how youre respected. Seem like a real chill guy. Trying to help you help others realize that
Man sometimes i wonder if im in the same boat as you and it bugs the hell outta me. I think cool runnings had a great post to help with, i unfortunently am not someone you come to for advice for friendships lol. + rep coolrunnings
i fooled around with a girlfriends friend, so what? then again my story is a loooong story but yea i havea friend that acts all retarded when hes high. i dont over to his house to smoke as often now since its fucking annoying, but its pretty funny when i bring a camera. youll mature, just quit being hyper all the time, calm the fuck down, hit the weed and enjoy. dont talk a lot, dont talk fast, dont make sudden movements, thats all you need to do. if youre super high, just say "im fried," and leave it the hell alone.
If anything i'm probably like the kids down the hall. The people i'm around are pretty negative and will put you in check fast, so etiquette is development quickly. Chances are you'll get ripped on and maybe denied the blunt just for making it run. So i'll try to give you advise from my perspective. Im envious of you getting over high, but it can be one of the most annoying things to encounter, I have seen worse case scenarios. It sounds like you have esteem issues. If you're not stable normally you will not be high. if you're over analytic in a negtive way and weed will intensify that. When you're high you don't need to tell everyone you are, thats obvious, try to avoid saying stuff incredibly stupid, sometimes it's funny but experienced smokers rarely get that 'retarded' anymore. There are appropriate times, you just have to be feeling the vibe. I'm putting money on that you have anxiety issues. Quit thinking about it so much, you're at the age when you're on your own. I learned this in late high school. You will always have friends, but it's not like middle school, theres a distance and people need to do their own things. I know some kids that hang on people like a chick. First step is becoming comfortable with yourself. thinking about it too much applies to smoking too, you will easily think shit out too much and create an awkward feeling, just roll with it. It grows in the ground, dont make too much out of it. If you smoke people out you're doing so by choice. No one owes you, when people do smoke you out, appreciate it. I'll pack my boys up any day, and they do the same for me, thats just how it is. I could smoke them out hard, and if they can't pack me up for whatever reason thats cool cause i know they got me later, these are like my bros though. If you're new to the group, dont be so antsy. You were in the wrong for doing whatever with you boy's chick, and you deserved the cut.
Most if not all applies to me, I do think shit out too much but I can't help it. I've had social anxiety issues since middle school. I realize that they don't owe me, but when we agree to go smoke a bowl and I call them to see if they've left, and none of them answer their phones, and they come back blazed as shit, that's just fucking rude. To clarify, I never did anything with her, and he flipped shit because she told him she liked me.