I feel like I need a good kick in the butt to get moving. In other words I’m lacking ambition and motivation I could use some Inspiration. I’m 20 years old and currently a Junior at a small state college. My major is still undecided at this point but I will be retaking a few general education classes this semester anyway because I took a semester off. The semester off set me back but I also needed to find myself im often melancholy and just lost. It gets better I’m an only child and I live with my mother who just recently got married last year. She has had so much going on that she didn’t even realize I was out of school for an entire semester. (crazy huh?) Let me explain, I went to a state college at 18 years old I lived on campus my first year and my first semester was a bit of an adjustment my grades were only “average” B’s and C’s. I met a lot of people that year and I tried weed for the first time ever! In High School it just didn’t interest me at all and I always looked at it as “bad” My first time smoking was pretty much a blur but I decided ehh so this is “weed” I don’t see what all the fuss is about…… long story short I ended up in an awkward situation with another student on campus in the dorms they were drunk and had me falsely imprisoned in a bathroom! A security guard had to use the bathroom and saw what was going on I filed a police report I was pretty shaken up AFTER all that happened I started smoking with my roommate and a couple friends regularly all the time it helped me “cope” if that makes sense Finished that school year with “below average” grades. I returned to school sophomore year on “academic probation” needless to say I finished the semester with below average grades which caused my financial aid to get suspended! I had to type a letter to the school explaining why I should have it appealed and get a second chance long story short they gave me a second chance and I’ll be starting back in January since I couldn’t get all my paper work in by the fall deadline. All my friends have transferred to bigger universities and are pledging and although I’m a little envious it is also motivation to get my shit together. Should I give myself an extra two years to graduate and still transfer to a bigger university myself? I’m not adventurous and I admit I due lack ambition I’m happy remaining within a small domain and I sometimes refuse to budge unless I’m pushed. I grew up in a single parent household as an only child and my mom always gave me whatever I wanted so i've never had to work for anything. she stressed good morals and values upon me but she never stressed that I do my best in school or independence so I found myself just “getting by”. I take responsibility for my laziness but I feel like she also influenced this laziness. Are there any books out that have a good message of inspiration and motivation that I can pick up? I want to find a college major that I can succeed in I’m not good in math so it can’t require much math or critical thinking and I also want to get a freaking job only thing is I have no idea how to even go about getting my first job lol I know this sounds crazy as hell but im open to all suggestions and feedback
Well everyone is a product of their environment, in which your case is couch potato status ( <--Correct me if I'm wrong). Everyone as a kid is indoctrinated in a sense by their parents. For example, a son of Mormons is taught by their parents what is wrong and right in their values and based on that the son grows up, once again in a sense, indoctrinated and develop their personality based on that and shit. You're used to being pushed to do something by your mom to do so, therefore your surge of motivation comes from that. To fix it you need to basically change your behaviorism. I emphasize the behaviorism, meaning you don't have to change your personality or anything but just change the way your brain takes in shit as a priority. This is another example, so there is this black guy who smokes two packs a day. He wants to quit but can't find the motivation or drive to actually try. So he does a behaviorism therapy and every time he smokes a pack he sends a ten dollar check to the Ku Klux Klan. ( Please, I swear I'm not being racist but this is a very powerful example.) This is irony at its finest because obviously he hates the Ku Klux Klan and that gives him motivation to actually attempt to quit and eventually kicks the habit. You getting the picture yet? I'm not saying specifically do that but I gave you that example because I don't know you so I can't give you a accurate answer. But yea you gotta change your behaviorism so that your brain puts shit in as a priority. Personally myself I was the laziest Korean fuck throughout my entire school life. (College now, actually doing a lot better academically wise.) So I made like a self ritual, whatever I had to do through the day, and trust me I really didn't want to nor did shit, I gave in my 102% effort and got everything done, then at night time when everyone was sleeping I would roll two blunts then skate around my neighborhood on a longboard, smoking it while listening to music on my iPod full blast. Needless to say it gets me feeling insanely sublime, due to such a starry environment, music, the weed, and knowing the fact I accomplished all my shit. Then due to the euphoria itself I would just cruise for miles and miles, and eventually ride to my local 24/7 McDonald's and get munchies. After eating I would skate back home sparking the second blunt. This is what worked for me. My brain began to memorize this ecstatic feeling, and it also gave me something to look forward to as well, concluding in me giving my all even in the most stressful days. I forgot to mention I'm an insomniac and only got around 4 hours of sleep a day, my parents usually fell asleep at 11pm and by the time I get home it would be 3 am and I would sleep then go to high school. This specific one probably won't work for you but by now I'm pretty positive you grasped my theory completely, so find out what works for you. I wish you luck man, coming from one lazy fuck to another haha. Keep in mind sloth is a sin for a reason, it kills our potential. Seriously. Edit: Wow I'm sorry but that's a really long read, I'm faded as hell and I'm on my phone I didn't realize I rambled too much
I don't know about your situation, but I think going into college with no idea what you're doing there is a bad decision. If you're not interested in being there, save someone the money and don't go. You can always go back. I go to college to learn and become more than I was, not because I just do it. Goals generate motivation, so get yourself a major, or a job. And nobody has an idea of where or how they get their first job, but it only gets easier the more people you meet and work with. Go out and start knocking on doors, hand out resumes. That's how it's done.
Both responses help me put things in perspective I'm going to form a plan of action and do some research set some goals and execute my plan which includes researching 3 majors and dedicating myself to the one i feel i will benefit the most from as well as getting a job in the mean time and gaining a sense of Independence
Only you can get your ass in gear, no one can do it for you. Grow the fuck up. <--- motivation enough?
You need to get kicked out of your moms place. Trust me. I'm exactly like you man, except I didn't go to College because I'm a Musician, who isnt interested in much else. And everyone knows music is all about connections and talent, not diploma's... at least for what I want to do (music production/ audio engineer) Anyways it's been hard for me to get a job but I wasn't trying 100% like you. Until my mom told me she has to move and cant afford rent. Now Ive been job searching like crazy, already have 2 interviews within a week, and am definitely getting a job within these 45 days. What you need is your mom telling you you gotta move in 30 days, trust me, you'll wake up everyday and job search because if you dont you're going on the street. It's good motivation. I'm only 19 btw. If you're anything like me it takes a big drastic change for you to do something about it.
And may I offer you some research for your next paper on MMJ or the endocannabinoid system (the next big thing in medicine)? Just click that first link in my sig for the small version, or send me an email (bottom of my sig) for 840 pages of studies and articles. When you enjoy a subject, it is much easier to learn about it...and you enjoy pot! I am hoping that your love of cannabis will bloom into a new-found love of learning! Try your best to find what you love to do! When you love what you do, it isn't "work"! You are doing what you want, and they happen to pay you for it! I work in Special Education and I love it! Special Ed is a field where a LOT of people "burn out" after 5 years. I have been doing this type of work since I was 11 (student aide in Mrs. Edwards Special Ed class) and see no reason to quit, although I am 65! I enjoy what I do! I hope that you can find your passion in life! Granny
^ Yeah but sometimes that doesnt work out. For example, I gotta work fast food/ random places i DONT want to work to support myself. It's not that easy for me to just stop what im doing, and play music and expect to support myself. It just isn't gonna happen. You gotta start somewhere, and then in a few years hopefully land up in a job that you love. But lots of people end up working their entire lives and don't get that dream, you gotta work hard and start from the bottom.