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A fucked situation!

Discussion in 'Seasoned Marijuana Users' started by RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009.

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  1. #1 RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009
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    A fucked situation!


    Well, I can truly say I love weed, oh you don’t even know how much I do. I’m sure most of you guys on here love it just as much two, and that’s why I had to seek some advice on here. I basically planned out my life around and on marijuana. Get highhh every day, get high all the fucking time possible. Even planning on growing just for personal supply ^_^ someday.
    In till… my girlfriend, my love of my life, the carrier of our child, told me I either quit smoking or she’s going to leave me and never ever let me see my child a day in my pathetic nothing of a stoner life.
    Ouch, and I mean hurt. This is the most fucked situation in my life. Some may say just keep doing it behind her back but that’s not a very good option, as in I know she’d find out from someone that I either bought some weed or was seen in town stoned.
    So, I’m asking what would you do?
    I want to emphasize I do love this girl and I was strongly looking forward to being a daddy (even if I’m freshly graduated out of high school... like today >. <), I also want to emphasize that weed is my passion, or maybe yet my dream that makes life rewarding in a lot more ways than life without did.

    edit:
    And I would like to point out that I never had the intention on putting weed above my baby, I was more of asking for advice on maybe finding a good way to talk to her about it and maybe finding a way so I can get to keep her and the baby and what I enjoy.

    final edit/update: She broke up with me, right before I told her I was going to choose her.
    Saying she just wants to be friends for her first trimester (what the fuck?).

    Time to go get stoned.
     
  2. #2 Stile, Jun 3, 2009
    Quit smoking weed.
    For now?
     
  3. #3 Bandelero, Jun 3, 2009
    Well, there was your first mistake.

    As for what you should do, it's pretty obvious to me...stop smoking. Weed isn't something that should be controlling your life.
     
  4. #4 Funk-D, Jun 3, 2009
    If your smooth enough you can smoke and have her not even know. In my experience the best come back for that is. "If you love me...you should love me for me and not try to change who I am....you know me smoking weed does not make me a bad person nor does it effect my caring for you in anyway...in fact when I smoke weed...all I do is think of you." saying something like that usually got me off the hook whenever ex gfs tried to pull some BS.
     
  5. #5 RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009
    Very True, but its also my passion in my life. Its sort of like asking some one to drop their dream and be a slave.
     
  6. #6 Funk-D, Jun 3, 2009
    If shes really the love of your a life a good sit down conversation could help things...unless of course is she pregnant right now? Or as she already had the baby is she currently pregnant I'd chock it up to hormones man. In fact I'm about ninety percent sure it is hormones...was he cool/know about you smoking before?
     
  7. #7 trip-n-balls, Jun 3, 2009
    you should try to educate her on the facts of marijuana. itt souns like she doesnt honestly know a lot about it and if i never smoked and i watched above the influence commercials and other ignorant commercials and statements everyday i might even be against it too. you should sit down and watch the union with her or somethin, show her it isnt really all that bad
     
  8. #8 KuSH 707, Jun 3, 2009
    if ur only 18 u got all the time in the world to find a another gf/wife
     
  9. #9 Funk-D, Jun 3, 2009
    Yeah, but if shes carrying his seed...hes going to atleast be associated with her for the rest of his life...unless he's one of those dicks that abandons his family...he doesn't seem to be from the looks of it tho.
     
  10. #10 RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009
    She's just barley starting it. But shes been trying to get me to quit for a few months, and is really using the baby in our fights over me smoking now. First it was 'okay but not around the baby' to not at all now.
    Its a really down situation :(.
     
  11. #11 LI_NY, Jun 3, 2009
    shes carrying his child..

    on top of that he "planned his life around weed"
    which is the most stupidest shit i ever heard.

    op: quit smoking, grow up, become a man, handle ya fuckin business..
     
  12. #12 Funk-D, Jun 3, 2009
    It's the hormones...my advice wait on one of her good days (you'll know it) then sit down talk to her heart to heart. Throw in A LOT of I love yous, make sure you tell her that you will quit if thats what she truly wants, but remind her how much you love weed, how sad you'd be without it, and how you feel its apart of who you are.
     
  13. #13 WildWill, Jun 3, 2009
    You need to make a choice:

    Your child

    or

    Marijuana


    Pretty simple choice really.
     
  14. #14 Funk-D, Jun 3, 2009
    I say don't give up easy, but give it up if shes serious...work the mouth piece right I'm sure you can keep both...I've yet to meet a girl that considers weed bad enough to break up with you over.
     
  15. #15 RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009
    She has my child! No way in hell would I just dump her like that, even if she wasn't carrying my kid it would be one of the toughest decisions of my life.


    Oh no no no, when me and me girl first met we were the top smokers in town for awhile. Then she quit, and then wanted me to quit. Saying things like: "Who do you really love? Me or the weed?" :(

    And still today I try to tell her all the facts. In fact today she replied to my facts as "You just get those facts of a bunch of lying stoner sites and they are not the truth."
     
  16. #16 Glass Clown, Jun 3, 2009
    Someone who truly loves you could not just up and leave you like that. Someone who truly loves you should not be making bullshit ultimatums like that. She can't exclude you from the child's life unless you're enough of a fuckup that she can get sole custody. I say call her on her bluff...but...

    Why is she doing this? Are you a fuckup? Are you a fuckup because of the weed? Then she's right, you need to give it up. If you're hooked and it's controlling your life, then you need to give it up. She must have some reason for wanting you to quit, and I suspect you know what that is. If it's a good reason and she's right, admit it and do the right thing. If it's bullshit then sit her down and say "I'm me, and this me is the me you get, so deal with it."

    Also tell her that people that use children as leverage in a relationship are about the lowest kind of people there are. You do what's right for the child, the child is not a tool to get what you want.
     
  17. #17 L Rag, Jun 3, 2009
    QFT.

    Think of it this way. All that money that you spend on weed, you could be saving for your babies future. I really don't think you need any more motivation than that.
     
  18. #18 Glass Clown, Jun 3, 2009

    When women start nesting they go completely fucking nuts. They think everyone and everything needs to conform to their slightest whim. They go into the relationship thinking yeah you have a few flaws but nothing major, but when they start nesting there's like this hormonal flood that causes a Jekyll/Hyde metamorphosis. They don't even realize it. They have this inner conviction that everyone knows how you need to be when you get married and have kids and they will expect you to conform to it.

    You need to nip that shit right in the bud. Pun intended.
     
  19. #19 MileHighMofo, Jun 3, 2009
    tell her to stop making stupid threats and ultimatums or you will leave her.....two can play that game
     
  20. #20 RaptorX9, Jun 3, 2009
    Am I a fuck up? I do have a small record of MIP alcohol/tobacco and did get caught once with pills. But on a honest base I have done some bad drugs in my life, and I can truly say that that part of my life is long dead and never coming back.
    Other than that I'm just a 18 year old trying to get a drug-test free job (well, there are no jobs here drug test or no drug test in Oregon!!!) and do have some detoxers if needed- or my dad. Mr. big bad drug dealer father could get my anything to clean my system out- or quit if needed.

    I'm planning to have a big sit-down talk with her, atleast on a good day where shes happy and you know...
    This advice is really giving me a good cannon to use in our debate/conversation. Keep it come 'n!

    Oh, and you want to know something odd? Shes perfectly okay with legal DXM use/ or the morning glory seeds (hey, can't say I haven't sat down for a few hours cruising though erowid looking for silly ways to make me hallicante haha.).
     
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