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Listen to yourself. The answer is probably in your heart already, it's just time to see what it is.

Damn though, that's a fucked situation. The wonders of the human heart can either be wonderful or horrible.

Honestly though, just think about it honestly and openly, don't be afraid to feel your emotions yet stay rational, and you should be able to find out the best solution.

Stay open and honest with everyone,

 

I read it. I haven't been in the same situation, but something similar.

BTW - using "a" and "b" instead of just making up some names = lame.


OK here's what you need to do:

Figure out which lady you REALLY want to be with. If you are truly in love with both women, then you need to make a choice, and you need to accept that choice. You need to be open and honest with both women, because they deserve it.
You shouldn't be with your girlfriend if you're pining for another, and you shouldn't break up someone else's relationship for selfish reasons.

Really what I'd recommend is that you break it off with BOTH of them and be single for awhile, because you really don't know what you want to do. Don't be romantic with EITHER ONE for awhile, because again, it's not fair.

Give it six months or so and by then you'll know which one is right for you. But don't play fucking games with them, it's so immature. Be up front with both of them. tell them how you REALLY feel. If it hurts them, so be it, but in the long run you'll be better off.

Also, sounds like your ex needs some time to think too. Losing a parent especially after a long battle, is a HUGE emotional roller-coaster, and having to deal with ex boyfriends who are still in love with you when your own emotions are so conflicted ain't cool either.

That's my advice. What do I know though, I'm 40, married with a kid and I've been with the same woman for a decade.

 

Being supportive is one thing, but don't confuse support with romance.

 

Smoke some dmt, then you will meet god and he will tell you what to do, but really just do what you think is right.

 

Read it.

You don't know what you're missing until it's gone..

Like mentioned before, give both time apart if possible.
See then.

I'm not you, but if I WAS you and I only had the info you gave me (not the emotions) -- I'd stick with A, I always look at relationships like this: If you break up once or think about it, then it happened for a reason and those underlying issues will ALWAYS be there... move on to someone new, until you know that she's the one.