50+

Hey all! Since there's already a 60+ thread for folks over 60 I thought I'd create one for 50+ folks as well.
When I hit 50 it was the strangest, most devastating feeling ever. I never felt so weird. I didn't realize I was starting a whole new life almost literally. Idk how to describe it scientifically but there really is a difference between how I feel now vs. my 40's and 30's on back. It's hard to describe but it's almost like any kind of bullshit from the outside world is physically painful when I try to put up with it like I used to. I'm much better at ending bullshit relationships with would be friends who would do nothing but hold me hostage with their drama. Little things warn me ahead of time and I save both me and my husband a lot of pain and despair.
Also 50 was when I first started smoking weed regularly. I used to wish I had smoked more when I was younger but on reflection, I think it needed to happen when I turned 50. I think physiologically, it worked out the way it had to.

 

Thanks! I love Marvin the Martian. Whoever created that picture did a great job.
Wow I really love your avatar too. Did you do that yourself or did you find it?

 

Thank you! It took awhile to realize that's what it was....I would just feel this electric shock or something when something was about to happen bullshit lol. Then it's like, Bye! I'm going to the other side somewhere.

 

You know those "middle aged Karens" people hate on so much? "Demanding " women who talk too much? I know why they act like that now. They're still confused about the physiology of what's happening to them at 50 and beyond. The change creeps up on us women so cruelly. We don't see it coming. Idk what it's like for men. But the Karen thing, I think, is just women TRYING without success to be the same as they were in their 40's. Getting old sucks, yadda yadda hell with it, I never had kids, went through the grief and self loathing and that's what Karens do I think. (Okay I'm a recovering Karen so I speak for myself lol. Every woman and every man on earth has a little of the Karen bug in them.)They hate themselves for not being the "hottie" men or women chased in their 20's or the big success they had with their careers at 30 or 40 and now 50 and this weird hormone crap. If the Karen thing has any chance of dying, understanding and awareness is key. Women gotta ditch the bullshit. Cinderella and Prince Charming is kid stuff. After 50 women just talk shit. That's how I am. But Karens are just women who hate themselves and have allowed themselves to be beaten down by stupid judgements and demands on themselves. They couldn't beat them so they joined them. That's NOT how I want to live anymore, thank you very much lol.
Note: Yes I know "Karens" are not limited to women past 50 either. Lol. Nor are they even limited to women!!! Men can be Karens too lol.

 

I'm glad you lived to tell the tale! Getting hit by a vehicle is no joke. I was hit by a train in 1996 and I still have extreme reactions to even the littlest things. The PTSD from that is part of why I got certified for medical weed. I used to hide in my house terrified, now I can take public transportation. It's fun to be high on a bus. Everything looks pretty lol.

 

My husband is 66 and I'm 56. He is definitely fussier than I am. He's so cute when he's going on a tirade about this or that lol. I learn a lot from him even now after 26 years.

 

My parents cursed each other out all the time lol. At the age of 7 I would hear these words and laugh my ass off. But I had to stifle it bc my dad would yell at me bc he was already mad lol. Idk why the words made me laugh so much, maybe bc they sound so silly. And the bird? Lol first time I saw someone flip that at me I didn't know what it was. I laughed and said"Why are you showing me your middle finger? I was 6. The older boy who had flipped it at me rolled his eyes and got mad bc I didn't know what he was saying lol.

 

To a degree that makes sense although let's not freak out and be scared of death. I don't want to die of some painful thing but we're going to go anyway so might as well put a few supplies away for when we play bears and hibernate (retire.)
EDIT retire as in from a job and enjoy the golden years until hopefully you can go peacefully at 90 lol. Hit send too fast anyway.
Too many poor ass people like me are screwed when the time comes we need physical help with basic things. It will happen sometime. So I am trying to get my shit together and at least live my best life until I really have to think about all that shit.