Speedy if you really liked this girl you would have stopped the booty call and chilled the night with her the second time. I recommend getting at it NOW or take the chance of loosing your opportunity at anything!
Girls don't have to work to get into a guys pants, guys have to be charming witty and confident to get into a girls pants; they have to work for it. She just has to decide when she likes him enough to let him hit that and if he doesn't have to be all that special to get into her pants (easy) then yeah shes a slut. Booty calls are sluttish, they're okay I guess if you're not really talking to anyone and don't fuck multiple guys. But I'm also real apprehensive about chicks that fuck outside relationships, it's a red flag to me.
Ummm, I don't have to have feelings for someone to have sex, sure it's better when you do, but sex is sex, and I'm the furthest thing from a "slut". I respect myself, but i also know myself well enough to know that i like sex and sometimes i don't want to BE in a relationship to enjoy it. I shouldn't have to make a commitment to someone just to get nailed. For you to judge based on the fact that she likes sex is ridiculous. That'd be like me saying you're a child for using terms that should've been left in high school. Do i think I'm a little too old to be hearing other people's input on what i do in my private time? Hell yeah, I'm a fucking adult. Do I go around insulting people because they believe something different than me? Only if it's really fucked up. And anyone can tell you I'm loyal. I may enjoy sex from a fuck buddy or a one night stand when I'm single, but when I'm with someone that the only sex I be enjoyin'. Oh, and you obviously have no idea how hard I've worked to be who i am. Do you think many guys would respect me or talk to me if i didn't have some level of confidence/self esteem? No. How do i know this? I used to be really down on myself. See, ya'll think it's so easy, but we work too. We do our hair, spend hours picking out clothes and drop alot of money on makeup... just to impress a guy we want to dig on us. Then there is the flirting because, as we've all learned, guys have a hard time telling a girl they like them unless there is a clear cut sign. I can't even remember how many "She said this, what does it mean?" threads I've read since the beginning of my time here. Why can't we all just learn to take shit a little more lightly since we really do only have a short time on this earth? You get your hearbroken by some ho? Jump back in the saddle, there are plenty more out there and you really don't have time to waste wondering what could have been. I'm just saying. I've done alot of soul searching lately and I find judgements to be something for the close-minded.
The only concern I have about women is them just fucking random people. Seems kind of dirty to me. Edit to the OP: I stopped reading at 'gurl', so, no comment.
It's all about how much she values her body and the act of giving it up; this more often than not is an indicator of her maturity level. I.E. red flag. If I'm looking for something then you bet your ass I'm going to think about how she is with her sexual life. Op's girl is easy, that's what I'm judging; I got with girls like that in my teens and nothing ever worthwhile ever came of it besides a cheap quick fuck. Which is exactly what kind of girl the op is describing, once you grow up some then easy convenient sex becomes meaningless; there's nothing interesting about the physical side of it. Sure it's nice but if I don't give a fuck about her then I'm probably not going to get off from it. I'd rather save the time, find someone that really I really click with and go from there; the op sounds like he's looking for something from this girl which is why everyone's reminding him that she's slutty. Adults are just big kids, so don't think you can't ever learn new values or lessons once you hit 18. I don't look down or judge people by that, I look down on people who have more than one partner or jump guy to guy every few days or the kind of girl you can walk up to say a quick how do ya do and have her in your bed before the evening. I can understand being in a dryspell and not having the opportunity of a relationship. I haven't experienced that since I was 19 but I do know what it's like. Promiscuity and easyness are the red flags I mean. And if you think I'm ignorant for thinking so then fine; I don't give a shit, I have ample reason for thinking so and have been around the block one or two times when it comes to women. I wouldn't call a girl a slut if she has the occasional one night stand or FWB but it's still not a good thing; it's a sign and you can deny it and call me judgmental or whatever but how a girl treats her body matters if I'm considering getting into something with her. It didn't when I was young and just looking for "fun" but if I'm looking for a relationship, then it does matter. We pay for clothes/shoes/apparel/cologne and have to look nice too; do our hair and all that crap, we don't blow dry it or whatever but I do like to style mine. We don't show up to a date looking like we just got off the couch. And about 80% of the time all the money for going out comes directly out of the guys pocket. It's just how society is. Guys make the moves, asking her out, for her phone number; going for the kiss, all the physical and definite moves that take surefire balls confidence. Girls play the subtle safe game. the reason there's so many of those threads on this forum is because (surprise surprise!) a lot of guys have no idea how to read the subtle language of women!
First bolded text, if he was really looking for something from her then why did he blow her off TWICE to go fuck some other girl? Second, I might be a big kid, but I did learn alot from the time i was 18 until now. I have an easier time rationalizing and I know what i want. I'm not a naive 18 year old girl anymore, I'm a woman now and I try to act as such. How do you know she's easy? He didn't say she's been having sex regularly with multiple people, you're just assuming she is because she wants to have sex with him. Maybe she really likes him and doesn't do this often, but feels she can with him? You don't know, you're just letting the hurt you've felt in the past cloud your opinion on this. And the last bolded part. Not all girls are lacking the confidence to make the moves... but usually those confident girls, who do make a move, get called sluts for doing so. Subtle safe game? Yes, GIRLS play games, but people like me, who have moved past that shit do not. Besides, that subtle shit isn't so subtle, you guys just have a hard time picking up on flirting unless it's clear that they're into you. Which, again, will earn you the title "slut" just because you have no problem going for what you want and freely admitting it. I'm just saying, I've had one night stands, booty calls and, to be honest, I've only had sex with 3 people while in a relationship. The rest were just for fun, and why shouldn't I have sex for fun? I only live once and I'll only stay young for so long. Why judge someone in the first place? Sure, if you're thinking about being with a girl you have every right to assess the situation, but if it's a girl you have no interest in why even waste your time labeling her a slut? (Maybe you should start looking for different chicks. The times are a changing and i know alot of girls who are the breadwinner in their relationships... then again these girls would probably be sluts by your definition.)
Girls with confidence do make moves and they aren't called sluts; they're called women. I think we have a different definition of "move." A rare breed of female truly. And I haven't been hurt in the past BECAUSE I know red flags when I see them, so maybe your psych 101 at the local community college isn't helping you so much in analyzing me. He speaks as if they're under the influence of pot or alcohol each time. They already tried to fuck first time together out partying. And she's already trying to jump his britches again. (If she weren't looking for a quick lay, she would've tried to have a serious talk with him by now.) But instead she goes and stays the night with the other guy he took out with them; and I imagine in her horny mood she settled with second best or he wooed her like ANY TEENAGER would. This kind of behavior is by no means uncommon in girls aged 18-22; they love to be seduced. I know from first hand experience. If he had any sense, he would've plowed her; she was practically screaming for it. This girl is immature and not relationship material, plain and simple; she's good for sex but she doesn't seem like she's ready to get into a relationship. Sex for fun is not a good reason in my book, it was when I was younger and more vain; but not anymore. At this stage in life sex has a very serene meaning to it; it's when you've really made a positive measurable impact in this woman's life by making her as happy as she's ever been and shes showing you so by giving herself to you and trying to please you the best she can. As you mature more, you learn to really value the act of giving your body up to someone, not some flavor of the month that you wont remember his name in a year. Women and girls all play games, they give signs of interest in a subtle matter; I have never had a lady walk up to me and straight up say "I like you a lot, can we go out sometime?" Nope, never; but she tells me that through her body language like looking at me a lot or always laughing at things I say out loud around her. That's the subtle ways a girl talks. Lol girl you funny, I've been with amazing women, I've been with ladies that bring in six figure salaries and have bodies so beautiful and gorgeous. Truly healthy relationships with some very fine sweet women. No fling here, bootycalls there or lust based shit. The real deal. So don't think you know my love life because I know an easy girl when I see one (you would make a bad psychologist btw!).
Well, that's good because I'm not going to be a psychologist. I'm also not analyzing you, if i were i'd be speaking more directly to you/about you... i was just explaining that you can't always tell how a person is by hearing part of the story. I'm just telling you making judgements is something a close-minded person does. And maybe you should stop making generalizations too. It kinda sucks just as much. How old are you?