Going On a break = End of a Relationship?

My boyfriend of two years says he wants space to "think about our relationship and where it is going after we head off to college"

Does going on a break signal the end of a relationship?

Usually.

Yes..

Pretty much yeah. My first girlfriend wanted to "take a break"...Yeah, since she was talking to some kid two hours away...so I found me a new one.

I would assume so. Which is rather shitty if that's the case, considering he doesn't even have the balls to be real about it. But there's really no tellling. No one on here can say what's really goin on in his head. Sometimes people really do just need space.

Just make sure he's not fuckin' around on this "Break" and if so, tell him to suck a dick and move on.

I assume your going to different colleges? If so this means he wants to fuck other women at college (or even now) and actually has the decency to not lie about it. My instinct tells me it's the end.

He wants to fuck other chicks..

He wants to fuck other chicks..

more than likely..

he cares about you enough to end it before he fucks you over tho.. atleast hes semi-straight up about it.

Trust me its not about him wanting to get other girls. He has low selfesteem and has trouble working up the nerve to talk to other girls. We were friends and texted for ten months before he could ask me out.

He told me how his friends are always telling him how lucky he is to have me.....Im starting to think that may be part of why he wants to go on a break...other than me being a pot head.

A break is just a break up where no one has done something so horrible that it seems impossible you'll ever get back together in the future.

Trust me its not about him wanting to get other girls. He has low selfesteem and has trouble working up the nerve to talk to other girls. We were friends and texted for ten months before he could ask me out.

He told me how his friends are always telling him how lucky he is to have me.....Im starting to think that may be part of why he wants to go on a break...other than me being a pot head.

hes ate up then

A break is just a break up where no one has done something so horrible that it seems impossible you'll ever get back together in the future.

seriously, i've gone on breaks with my girlfriend with no intention to get with other girls, sometimes you just need time to yourself to think

different college relationships never work

if thats the case for you two then you're better ending it now.

Sounds like you and your friends have a lot of respect for him. I'm sure you and you're friends really make him feel accepted for who he is.

I used to be all about low self-esteem and what not, but believe me, when I was going out with this girl, it was about wanting to hook up with other girls, despite my insecurities.

No no not my friends, HIS friends and other guys on the football team etc would tell him that he "really scored" or "props bro" not that their surprised that he has "game" or what not...

hes ate up then

lol wut

No no not my friends, HIS friends and other guys on the football team etc would tell him that he "really scored" or "props bro" not that their surprised that he has "game" or what not...

Oh haha. Sorry, I am a little on edge today, as you may know. Have you asked him if it meant the end?

well I got all hostile and said some shit I didn't mean on facebook (which he read somehow even though I'd defriended him earlier)and he posted a status saying he knew he made the right choice because of my status.

Fuck I wish I could take it back and apologize. Damn he makes me feel so worthless

Bottom line is: should I fight for him?

Most guys suck and most girls are too ignorant about it to know any better

He wants to fuck other girls?

I hate that mentality.

I wish that I could fuck 1 girl my entire life...if I break up with a girl it's not to sleep around but because she's not "the one"


Sad that I'd probably catch shit for thinking this...

It's over, you're both going to different colleges; long distance relationships just aren't enough for most people that age.

Laxer - You should just let whatever is going to happen, happen.
All you can do is tell the guy how you feel, what you want (this is, if you've really figured this out for yourself) and he'll either reciprocate, or he won't.
If he doesn't, I have to say then no matter how much fight you have in you - it's probably going to turn out the same and as well, if it's not the same for him then as hard as it is to move past, it's not the ideal situation for you long term anyways.

Not to further throw negativity on the situaution, just to point out from observations - The long distance thing as well, really kind've seems doomed to failure or eventual infidelity, especially when you're at college age.
I'm sure some people have pulled it off successfully, but I know that many have not.

I wouldn't say his first intention is to chase strange, he might not be that bad a guy, but he may have realised that he just doesn't have it in him to make this work. He might be giving you a ticket out of some eventual hurt or greater magnitude, whether or not either of you know it.

I say that even if it crushes you a little bit right now, embrace the break with no intent one way or another. Make sure you say everything you have to say to him, and tell him where you stand on the present and future - be open and truthful and allow him to be the same.
Acceptance can be a bitch sometime, but who knows...you might meet up sometime later and pick things up where you left off, or maybe you won't.
Focus on you for a bit, work out how to be comfortable as "just you" again and see how everything plays out in your life, the busier you keep the easier it'll be on you.

Oh hey, and one more thing I thought I'd throw in - try not to be insulted by this at all, but, please, on behalf of facebook users everywhere and on your respective friends lists - Don't do the relationship/facebook drama thing.
I know you say you regret doing that so you're probably onto it already, but yeah it'll probably make things worse and tends to make friends feel a bit awkward witnessing it.

This is really all the advice I can dish on this topic.

Saying you want to take a break is what girls do when they are too scared to actually break up and explain why. So your boyfriend doesnt seem like a guy with balls.

And if that is you in your avatar id say you could get lots of guys. So why fight over some little pussy boy?