From what I've seen a lot of blades on here are having trouble with their significant other crying too much or having "issues". This is just my personal opinion and I know a lot of people will get all bent out of shape and call me insensitive or whatever but come on now, if your boyfriend or girlfriend claims that they're "depressed" because their daddy didn't pay enough attention to them or because they don't look like a Victoria's Secret model and as a result they think their life sucks, you're probably better off without them.
Think about it. Do you really want to be with someone who lets every little thing and insecurity get to them? I wouldn't. I don't have the time or the patience for it. I've traveled to different countries, seen real live poverty and depressing issues with my own eyes, and yeah I've been though "a lot" but I did what I thought was the right and practical thing to do, I got the fuck over it and learned how to love MYSELF. Guess what, you can't fix someone with a million tiny little issues even if you think that's what they need. You just can't. Chances are they're not even in love with you, they're in love with the idea and the attention. I can understand having a bad day every once in awhile and taking care of your significant other but when it becomes an actual problem that's when it's time to tell them to pack their baggage up and get the fuck out.
Do you think "perfect, happy" people don't ever feel alone or get depressed? Everyone does, we're all human. We just have to get over our little pity parties and start looking at what we have and all the positive things in life and APPRECIATE THEM instead of being blinded by stupid shit.
I'm just saying.
Stop being so simplistic about everything.
Turning around to your bf/gf and telling them to cheer the fuck up and deal with it, is one of the most selfish things you can do. You act as if people with depression and eating disorders choose to do this to themselves. They aren't hurting themselves because they're selfish. Their behaviours are reflection of how the person suffering feels about themselves inside. Wonderful spouses, kids, supportive friends have little influence (other than sometimes temporarily) in creating the true self-esteem required for permanent recovery, to cope with life positively, and to learn to believe that we deserve good things in life and happiness.
You don't know what's going on in someone else's head.
If someone claims they are depressed as you put it, you should listen and support them.. not judge them and criticize them. Even if someone is having a bad day and claims they feel 'depressed', sit down and just listen.
Jaysis whatever about being 'insensitive'.. have some compassion about you.