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Posted 04 August 2011 - 05:49 AM
sorry if this is a little wierd but,...oh well
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Posted 04 August 2011 - 06:33 AM
Let me first tell you that I have two kids. Both boys. 6 and 4 years old.
For me, having kids is about continuing the family tree.
And preserving my gene.
were the children planned, if its not too rude of me to ask?
and if so what factors aside from the family tree played into the ultimate decision?
Posted 04 August 2011 - 06:39 AM
Posted 04 August 2011 - 07:01 AM
I also have a daughter (4) with my wife, she was not planned, but also we were not trying to avoid having a child together. All 3 of my children are my world and very important to me. I can honestly say I have no regrets with any of them. I would lay my life down for them without a second thought.
I have custody of my boys from my first marriage because my ex is totally irresponsible, I'm not saying that out of spite either. She truly did not take care of them after I left, my boys were begging the neighbors for food, never had to bathe and never had clean clothes even though I was giving her TWICE the amount of child support before it was even ordered by the courts. Once all of this came to light thanks to a tip from my former neighbor I immediately went and took my kids and filed for custody. My children are my world. It is my obligation to see to it they are loved, cared for and raised in a good home.
I'm not one to really care about carrying on the family name and to be honest when I was younger I never wanted children, needless to say that changed. I had a shitty father and I wanted to have children of my own so that I could make a difference in this world. I feel I do that every day by raising them right and being fair. They will get the opportunities I never had. They will always know that they are loved and respected.
I can't say it enough, they are my world.
Posted 04 August 2011 - 02:21 PM
Off topic, but i respect you so much for this. You are a great guy and dad. I hope you dont take this the wrong way but i hope to be like you when im older. just thought i needed to put that out there
Thanks man it means a lot to be told that. Honestly. I had a shit father and I promised myself if I had children that I would be the opposite of him and I believe I am. My kids drive me insane at times but that is expected. It's all about improving the next generation. Besides, one day they will choose my nursing home...LOL!
Posted 04 August 2011 - 03:54 PM
IMO the best time to have kids is when you can actually afford to support them. I dont plan on having kids till: Im at least 30, make 100,000+ a year, gross, have a house, and enough invested to send all my kids to college/university when they graduate.
I also want to be able to spoil my kids, buy them cloths, take them on trips, help them buy there first car. I was raised with cheap ass parents, im not going to do the same to my kids.
Posted 04 August 2011 - 04:19 PM
And yes, once you have them, it's hard not to let your kids become your whole world. Well, if you're worth a shit as a human being anyway.......
Posted 04 August 2011 - 09:19 PM
and b. No kid deserves to be brought up into this fucked up piece of shit we call earth.
I think it's something you've got to plan out and think a lot about. Getting an attention-needy pet might make you realize what you do or don't want.
I just got a kitten and I love her to death but she pisses me off so much, no way in hell I'm dealing with a human being.
Posted 04 August 2011 - 10:27 PM
I hate kids,they reach into the very deepest confounds of your soul and destroy it.
Your life becomes their life,no longer can you plan or commit action to progress your own existence.
Also,they are fucking annoying!
Not to mention passing on ones genetical information is overrated.
What the fuck do I care where my genetics end up,its not like I get to come back to life in my son's body or something.
Once I'm dead that's it,I could care less about who is roaming around afterwards.
Posted 05 August 2011 - 12:43 AM
As for the family tree issue, well...
It's Asian (Korean) tradition, I guess... the family name, not all, but some, are given by the king, to a commoner, and that name is passed on to the first male decendant of the family, and it goes on and on until the bearer of the name cannot produce any sons, then the family name dies.
So... it's like... I don't know man... Do Americans give a damn about their family names?
Added : Oh yeah, and this may sound totally mideval, but in the old days, by looking at the family name, you can tell the social class. Slaves and commoners didn't even have family names.
Nobles, scholars, and royals had a family name, and by looking at their family name, you can tell where (geographically) they came from, who their ancestors are, and what occupations they held.
Today, such thing doesn't exist, but in the old days, things were like this.
Edited by GGrass, 05 August 2011 - 12:47 AM.
Posted 05 August 2011 - 01:14 AM
Nothing can beat that feeling when you hold your child in your arms for the first time. You and your mate were the only combination that could make this baby.
A lot of folks say the dang things don't come with owners manuals. True, but have you ever looked around in a book store or online?
Posted 05 August 2011 - 02:26 AM
It is hard to put into words how much I LOVE being a Dad. Other than the first few months with the twins, I can hardly think of a bad thing to say about being a parent.
I do think that while 37 is a little old, I have definitely been a calmer, gentler Dad than I would have been in my Twenties. Being a little older, my career was well established, my financial house in order, I had all the 'boy toys' wanted and that kind of thing. That helps parenthood not be just another stressing burden.
One other REALLY important thing in my opinion. My relationship with my Wife is good, and we are fully vested as partners raising our kids. I can't imagine how anyone can possibly do it alone, let alone enjoy the experience.
Posted 05 August 2011 - 03:55 AM
Posted 06 August 2011 - 02:27 AM
I am however very thankful for my daughter, she's the most awesome thing ever. And I can honestly say I've been a great father so far and I plan to continue on that road. And I hope that I'll get the chance to have another one, one day, this time with the right woman.
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