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Hooked up with my best friend :/


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@OP -I was in the exact situation you were in, i was bestbestfriends with this girl for a long ass time maybe like 4/5 years and then one night we were both finally single and we had some drinks and ended up having sex. Only several months of hooking up later I realized I liked her. ALOT. but one day she just stopped returning my calls and wanting to hang out abruptly, then i found out she was sleeping with some other dude. Instead of doing what best friends would of done, and told me what was up and how she felt, our friendship was clearly ruined. Be careful and talk to him or you might see the same fate.

goodluck!



im so sorry you went through that it sucks doesnt it. first time i got my heart broken was from my best friend and i feel like its always gonna hurt. sometimes i wished he would stop calling because i was driving myself crazy thinking hed realize we should be together. he knew how i felt so as a friend youd think he would stop leading me on but no he didnt. like they say if you love something you gotta set it free... i did and he never came back :confused_2:

Edited by StickyIckyChick, 27 July 2011 - 12:37 AM.

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After the sex, he was probably thinking "She finally gave in to her feelings". So he probably IS thinking that you want a relationship, but just try and explain to him what happened.

Seriously, I would appreciate it if I was in his shoes...as much as he may hate you at first, he will be able to appreciate you being real & not stringing him along.



god i really hope this isnt something hes wanted for awhile im just so mad at myself because even talking to him about it now im still might hurt him and that was never my intension.

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Naw, dood, girls like fuckin dudes they barely know, so when crazy starts to unravel they have good gossip to tell there friends.




uh no not at all, maybe for some cunts but most girls like hooking up with guys they barely know because there are no stings attached. they dont know you, you dont know them so theres nothing complicated about it. no chance to have youre heart broken but its just sex nothing more will come from it unless you make it complicated.

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god i really hope this isnt something hes wanted for awhile im just so mad at myself because even talking to him about it now im still might hurt him and that was never my intension.


Your intentions aren't what's the matter here. Who cares about what you INTENDED to do, its done.

Now you need to handle it the correct way and be REAL with him. Straight up, no BS. Tell him the sex was great, but you don't see him in a romantic relationship kind of way and never will. You wish to still remain friends but if its too awkward for him, then you understand if he chooses to stop talking to you.

You can't expect to do what you did, and then be able to go back to how you two used to be. Its not gonna happen.

Just talk to him first, being completely straight up & see what he wants. Maybe we're all way off, only he will know

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well some of that relates to what im saying but the thing that you have to understand is i love him but im not in love with him and i never will be and i know that its just not there. there are different types of love. i dont wanna settle for my best friend because it makes sence.


OH! I get it. He doesn't have enough muscles, and he treats you too well!

god i really hope this isnt something hes wanted for awhile im just so mad at myself because even talking to him about it now im still might hurt him and that was never my intension.


You can almost bet your ass that he's been wanting that for most of the time he has known you

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uh no not at all, maybe for some cunts but most girls like hooking up with guys they barely know because there are no stings attached. they dont know you, you dont know them so theres nothing complicated about it. no chance to have youre heart broken but its just sex nothing more will come from it unless you make it complicated.


Yes, of course, nothin' will be complicated when you specify no strings attached.


Why dont you just specify this with your guy? So shit doesnt start to unravel and get crazy because he's making it complicated for you. B0p.

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eh sometimes being freinds like that leads to stuff like that
perfectly normal





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