Hey guys, my girlfriend is addicted to pot! Please help!!

What's up. First, GREAT FORUM! I've been a life time responsible smoker myself and never plan to quit. I hope I can speak freely on the forum as I feel I need to give you as much info on the situation so I can get some opinions accordingly.

My girlfriend is really addicted to weed. I never thought it possible but I'm realizing there is an extremely small handful of people in this world who are so weak that they can't even handle pot and they are fucking it up for the rest of us!! She's fine when she's stoned though. She can function, go about her day, etc. etc. Hell, I wouldn't mind if she smoked ALL day. The problem is the cost and the fact that's it's illegal in my state, even for medicinal use, so it's not only difficult to find and dangerous to buy (driving around with a half ounce of White Widow... you can imagine).

The problem is when she's out of weed. An ounce of a good strain would cost me about $400 and last me about two months. I held on to an ounce for 6 months once. I take a couple of tokes every couple of days, maybe once a week, relax and that's it. She has to smoke it like a chimney though. Last time we got a quarter ($125) she smoked it in three days and didn't even save me a bowl. She acts like she loves me in every other situation in life.. but with the weed, I buy her a quarter and it's like "fuck him, I'm going to high". So we're talking about an uncontrollable addiction.

She's a total bitch when she runs out. About a week ago we picked up another quarter but this time I told her I only got an 8th and kept half for myself. She smoked it in a day and a half. It's like.. WTF?? Then she was asking me to call up my homeboy again as if we have an unlimited amount of money to spend.

I gave her a bowl this morning. She smoked it. We went out to eat. We came back and she's being a TOTAL bitch. She displays the classic symptoms of addition down to the T.

Her medical history isn't good. She was on a bunch of psychotropics, adoral, riddilin, you name it. She went from being addicted to pharmas to being addicted to weed. It's a great step in the right direction, I'd rather her smoke weed than take pharmaceuticals any day but the problem is this stuff is far more expensive and fucking illegal! When I smoke, I buy a nice quanity like an ounce, keep it for several months, smoke only in my home, and do it for enjoyment. Not because I "need" it.

I don't know what the alternative is here. She probably needs it medically. Those pharmacuedicals messed her up bad. She's 26 and her body acts like she's 62. She's also puffing on cigarettes non-stop. We roll our own cigarettes because hell, it's MUCH cheaper (you can roll 2 cartons for $40 as opposed to $70 per carton) but if she ever forgets to roll some before we leave, even if it's for 20 minutes to the store, she HAS to buy some.

I guess to sum it up - she has an extremely addictive personality. She's fucked up her body, doesn't understand the concept of abstinence of ANY drugs to strengthen the immune system and undo the damage and she keeps on relying on all of these crutches to get her through the day. It's really pathetic in my opinion. I'm addicted to cigarettes but it's not a problem. I can go to the store, buy some anytime and not have to worry about getting pulled over and going to jail. Weed, is illegal. Because of a totalitarian law passed decades ago that has never been repealed. I totally agree, weed would be the perfect medicine for her but it's a HUGE risk, a HUGE expense and I would never do anything like grow it in my state. They'll send you to the electric chair for growing down here.

I guess my answer is to move to a state that has a medicinal program. If I could legally grow about 10 plants, harvest every couple of months, she could smoke all she wanted, I'd also have weed so I could smoke when the mood takes me and everyone would be happy. But since that's not an option at this point...

do you guys have any suggestions???

So she likes to smoke on her own? No problem. Stop buying her weed.

Or...

Either have a serious talk with her?

She sounds like she needs to have an problem fixed and to be confronted, don't even worry about her smoking all your shit and an solution to grow for her to smoke all she wants, try talking to her and to stop mooching off you completely, that's like massive pussy-whipping man, fix it!

why not convince her to go on a t-break? she should come back to it when marijuana isn't her life, but just an enhancer to an already solid life...sure she's going to be a complete bitch the first month, since she really does seem to have developed some sort of addiction to it...but just wait it out, and hopefully she'll come back to it with some moderation

So she likes to smoke on her own? No problem. Stop buying her weed.

Or...

Either have a serious talk with her?

Thanks for the reply. It's not that she wants to smoke on her own, it's that I don't smoke nearly as much as her. Once a week, if that. Maybe more. Depending. Indica puts me to sleep then I wake up and eat a bunch of shit I shouldn't hahaha, then I feel like crap, bloated, etc. etc. Some good sativa though... and yea... it's go time .. musical inspiration! But all that's around is indica or blends that are 70/30 or at least the majority indica.

But anyway. The problem is the physical withdraw symptoms and the major attitude if she doesn't smoke. That's a sign of a serious problem in my opinion. You could apply that to anything really, alcohol for instance. Having a few drinks is fine. Being a straight up asshole when you can't drink is a problem. That's what I'm trying to figure out how to deal with. The physical and emotional withdrawl symptoms. We live together so I have to deal with it 24/7.

why not convince her to go on a t-break? she should come back to it when marijuana isn't her life, but just an enhancer to an already solid life...sure she's going to be a complete bitch the first month, since she really does seem to have developed some sort of addiction to it...but just wait it out, and hopefully she'll come back to it with some moderation

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Addiction to anything is not healthy. Moving to a place so she can smoke as much as she can isn't going to solve anything. Apart from worsten things. She needs to have a T break and realise Marijuana shouldn't be something you need, but something to enjoy.

Physical withdrawals?!

Shit, you should just talk to your girl about this. Only way it'll be solved IMO...

BTW. We live together. 24/7. So that's something to consider there.

Looks like she needs medical help. She is not addicted to weed, she might be bi-polar or something though.

Weed is not physically addictive.

Looks like she needs medical help. She is not addicted to weed, she might be bi-polar or something though.

Weed is not physically addictive.

Exactly...Its not addictive at all...Psychologically addictive maybe, but not physically.

tell her you will buy her an eighth a week, and any more that she wants to smoke she has to acquire on her own, with her own money..

..does she even have a job, or is it all on you?

good luck bro, sounds like an issue you need to handle before it gets any worse.

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sounds more like you have a Diva B*tch on your hands. i have a friend that dated a girl that was the same way. he dumped her ass and she had to get a job and wasnt being spoon fed by him anymore. now he has an awesome stoner chick girlfriend that has a job and pays for her own shit.(they split the cost) i say move on.

Looks like she needs medical help. She is not addicted to weed, she might be bi-polar or something though.

Weed is not physically addictive.

Stop that shit... for SOME people, Weed IS in fact, physically addictive. There's been REAL medical studies to prove it, and it DOES happen to a very small percentage of the population that smoke up.

Though the rest of your post could have some merit, she may indeed be bi-polar, and the weed stops her from being a bitch on a physiological level... Either way, you gotta talk to your girl and tell her you can't afford to supply her addiction, and if she doesn't slow it down, something is going to change... Maybe it's time to kick her out, or move out yourself...

Does she have a job? I'm sure she doesn't smoke up all day at work if she does... make her buy her own weed for a while... she'll realize how expensive it is to support her habit, and maybe she'll slow down on her own... But whatever you do, you MUST talk to her about it.... it's not healthy to smoke ALL the time.

have you sat down with her and discussed your concerns? im with mat and clueless got it right. have her take a break and realize that she doesn't need to be smoking weed like crazy, and its good to have a clear head sometimes. and then after shes had her break, she needs to limit herself. smoking a quarter in 3 days is pretty out of control, i can smoke daily and spend most of my day buzzed off a quarter for 1.5-2 weeks. have her cut back and that will help a lot, your tolerance is not as much of an issue if you are only smoking a couple bowls a day vs a quarter in 3.

everything in moderation. including moderation.

edit: and yes ive met plenty of people that are like FIENDS for weed, so for some people it is absolutely addictive. psychological addiction is still addiction

honestly.. she prolly takes the weed you give her and gets her self and all her friends high for free with your money.. tell her if she wants to smoke YOUR weed it has to be done with you or tell her to get her own connect and money

Stop that shit... for SOME people, Weed IS in fact, physically addictive. There's been REAL medical studies to prove it, and it DOES happen to a very small percentage of the population that smoke up.

I am not going to argue with you, but in my opinion, I think you're completely wrong.

Fortunately though anything can be mentally addictive. Being that someone enjoys something, they'll want to do it more. Weed will never have the physical addictive side affects like coke or heroin. Simply, no.

But anyways, I'm glad you agree with the fact that this girl may have a disorder that makes her this way. OP, I suggest you consult a doctor about her attitude and behavior. Or just dump the crazy bitch.

mental addiction...still counts as addiction lol...hence the word addiction after mental

ive experienced plenty of physical withdrawl symptoms. its not just "no". i mean if i feel like shit, and i cant eat all day, and im a total asshole, and i can barely handle the sound of childrens voices unless ive smoked in the last couple hours, then i think that qualifies as a mild physical addition.

nothing compared to xanax or something like heroin probably, but its still no joke. for me. maybe physical addiction to cannabis is 'simply no' to you, but im living proof that youre wrong at least part of the time.


and so is this guys girlfriend. i know exactly how she probably feels, though i dont have quite her kind of history.

shes lucky though bc she has someone to help her deal with it... me on the other hand, i just have to buckle down and stop myself from smoking, even when its very very hard. just me.

Edited by resistance, 21 March 2010 - 02:17 AM.

Wow, all you talking about physical withdrawals need to seriously re-consider your smoking habits.

Either that or you have a weak mind and/or body.

Seriously, it's just some weed, mayne.

Edited by gloppypop, 21 March 2010 - 12:23 AM.

its this damn vaporizer, it turned me into some kind of crackhead