Before you take your head out of your ass, Sir Elliot, Ide like to tell you a few things.
I know that she never had a problem like that, the girl I knew was a fairly moderate person, never drank too much, never smoked too much, either. But now that she's out of rehab, she's got some notion that she never had any self control.
If you had decided to educate yourself on the fucking book, and read it, like I did, you would know that there's more to it than that. What drugs the book is about doesn't matter, its really about the needed reforms in the rehabilitation.
I wouldn't ever try and get her to stop going to AA meetings, let alone stop her from doing anything conductive to staying sober and off of any drugs.
AA tells you a lot of shit, like to disconnect from loved ones and to connect to the meetings. THE ONLY THING that im really worried about is that it will end up tearing us apart, because of the new lifestyle.
By new lifestyle, Im not talking about a drug free one, I really do want her to be free of drugs, therefore I will support her no matter what, whether I like it or not, but what Im talking about is the disconnection from loved ones that is so bullshittedly encouraged in the meetings she goes to.
But you know, you're also right. I am being somewhat selfish on my own accord, I may not be letting it show to her, but it has been eating me up. Perhaps its time to just say fuck it and let things be and support her. It just feels so weird because I never saw the addict in her, the girl I saw and knew was one that could moderate, now she says the exact opposite of what I knew.
I just wish that they didn't tell people that they're helpless without the program. They shovel the dependance and responsibility from yourself and onto a notion of a "disease" or something that cannot be helped, when in fact, drug usage is a choice, not a proverbial gun to your head.
Im not trying to change her or be unconductive to her getting better, I just want her to explore her options...and if she ends up sticking with AA, so be it. What works for her is what works for her.
bro i completely understand your position.
i don't think you are really being selfish at all, as keeping you and her together and her away from that bullshit type of thinking is definitely the right thing for her.
seriously, stfu sir elliot, you obviously don't know what you're talking about.
i don't care if you have alcoholism, you can resist drinking alcohol.
your girlfriend can do moderation, no matter what anyone tells her or says on here.
it's bullshit thinking that the AA are giving her.
people are given feet for a reason.
I hope you can get her away from what they're doing to her.
it WILL change who she is imo.