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Why do girls like guys that treat them like shit?

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 01:31 AM

There's this girl I use to like, well I kinda still do but we don't talk anymore. Anyways her boyfriend treats her like shit, he's the controlling/jealous type, he has Chris Browned her before, and I think he cheated on her before. I've never met him but I heard people say he's a douchebag. He dropped out of high school and he's an illegal immigrant, so I don't think he'll ever be able to take care of her financially. I don't think she has self esteem issues, so can someone please explain to me why she would be with a guy like this or what could possibly be attractive about him? I don't fucking get it and I just wish I understood this shit. I don't consider myself a "nice guy", but I'm not an asshole either, but I guess I need to be? I don't know.
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Posted 26 June 2009 - 01:53 AM

Women are attracted to charisma, to the "leader of the pack", and they often go hand in hand.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:07 AM

dude there was this exact post like last week, gtfo.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:08 AM


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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:14 AM

Well, some girls are just fucking retarded.


And some girls like being treated like shit, because shit smells good.





^^Sorry, I just had to say that, thats not really what I think, but it just went perfect.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:18 AM

Want a girl opinion?
I was in a very similar situation with a complete asshole. Treated me like absolute shit but I was just so attracted to him that I would just take it. But trust me, eventually girls get over the assholes, because they will realize that they can do better (I am still in this stage). And it may take awhile, but we def do not need anymore assholes in this world so just stay chill and no worries, you'll be good. Trust me, alot of girls can be super into chill stoners lol.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:22 AM

Some girls are just weird and like assholes.

Some girls get with assholes and a semi-young age and take a while to realize that they can do a hell of a lot better than that.


I would hope that most of us become women and grow out of it, because my man most certainly does not treat me like shit. :P

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 02:38 AM

I have pondered this question more than anything else. I don't understand why some chicks like to be treated like shit and teased and made fun of. I may be the "nice guy" but its only because I'm dumbfounded why these chicks fall for assholes.

:eek: sorry for that short rant, guess i needed to vent :D

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:16 AM

It's a domination thing

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:20 AM

low self esteem, daddy issues, submissive, addicted to drama, etc.

pick one

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:29 AM

normally girls/women don't fall for assholes. the guy will usually start off like a gentleman and slowly show his true self. before they know it, they see what kind of real man they're with and by then the girl either feels trapped, is insecure, or is down right crazy a loves the drama. IMO

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:51 AM

After a girl gets treated like shit by a bunch of assholes - The woman goes for a man her treats her like she wants to be treated...


I'm going to try to be careful with how I phrase this but this is not always right. When a girl says, "I'm sick of all these assholes, every boyfriend I've had has been like that" it's just giving the man everything he needs to know to land her. Be an asshole, because that's what she's obviously attracted to.

Women often have a hard time differentiating between nice guy with confidence who isn't afraid to bust her balls and mess around with her, and the cocky asshole who's going to treat her like shit. There's a distinct difference between the two, one is coming from a fun personality and another is coming from a shithead personality.

On the flip side of the coin many men don't know how to be confident without being an asshole because they don't know where that line is drawn.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:57 AM

There's this girl I use to like, well I kinda still do but we don't talk anymore. Anyways her boyfriend treats her like shit, he's the controlling/jealous type, he has Chris Browned her before, and I think he cheated on her before. I've never met him but I heard people say he's a douchebag. He dropped out of high school and he's an illegal immigrant, so I don't think he'll ever be able to take care of her financially. I don't think she has self esteem issues, so can someone please explain to me why she would be with a guy like this or what could possibly be attractive about him? I don't fucking get it and I just wish I understood this shit. I don't consider myself a "nice guy", but I'm not an asshole either, but I guess I need to be? I don't know.



Trying to understand woman logic is damn near impossible. Mostly because depending on the woman - they can be very different from each other. There are a ton of girls who go for asshole types, get fucked over, and then go straight into the arms of another asshole. On the other hand there are girls who are smart and capable of finding a great guy; and when they find them - they hold on to them.

You will never find the true answer to "Why do women like assholes?" ....because your never gonna find the answer. More than that, the answer could be a number of different things.

Girls who are assholes usually do one or more of the following that woman are taken by:
1. Give them excitement
2. Make them think that they should be pursuing him as opposed to him pursing her
3. Assholes have the tendency of being physically attractive (just like women who are ridiculously hot are many times complete idiots).
4. Assholes have the tendency of being well off financially

One last thing: Women are capable of being just as superficial as men. Sometimes, women are out at the bar trying to find the most attractive man to sleep with THAT night. On some of those occasions they find a guy they interpret as being a cool person and start a relationship with them. Guys do the same shit.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 03:59 AM

Women often have a hard time differentiating between nice guy with confidence who isn't afraid to bust her balls and mess around with her, and the cocky asshole who's going to treat her like shit. There's a distinct difference between the two, one is coming from a fun personality and another is coming from a shithead personality.


I disagree. We DO have brains and know the difference between a man who is confident and one who is.

You seem to have a lot of experience with young, naive girls, but not with women. Most women know the difference and (subconsciously or consciously) they just don't believe they deserve the former. Or they think they can be the one to "change him".

Trust me though.... I've worked with enough abused women to know that they know the difference.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:11 AM

I disagree. We DO have brains and know the difference between a man who is confident and one who is.

You seem to have a lot of experience with young, naive girls, but not with women.


Yeah, but this problem usually happens to younger guys. We know that "WOMEN" are smart and this and that but it usually takes them a while to make the transition from girl to woman. There are a lot of 15-19 year old guys who are good people but find themselves SOL when it comes to the ladies due to the fact that they aren't assholes. I was one of them.

The later years of my life I had a lot of success with women, not just getting laid randomly - I'm talking about really great relationships, no drama, just good times. But when I was younger I had a much more difficult time because I was trying to hookup with "girls".

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:16 AM

Yeah, but this problem usually happens to younger guys. We know that "WOMEN" are smart and this and that but it usually takes them a while to make the transition from girl to woman. There are a lot of 15-19 year old guys who are good people but find themselves SOL when it comes to the ladies due to the fact that they aren't assholes. I was one of them.

The later years of my life I had a lot of success with women, not just getting laid randomly - I'm talking about really great relationships, no drama, just good times. But when I was younger I had a much more difficult time because I was trying to hookup with "girls".


This is true.

It's really so complicated. I wish I could claim to understand it fully, but I never had that attraction to the 'bad boys'. I like my life drama-free, thankyouverymuch.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:21 AM

I disagree. We DO have brains and know the difference between a man who is confident and one who is.

You seem to have a lot of experience with young, naive girls, but not with women. Most women know the difference and (subconsciously or consciously) they just don't believe they deserve the former. Or they think they can be the one to "change him".

Trust me though.... I've worked with enough abused women to know that they know the difference.


Yes, I'm also 20 and in college, so I don't spend a ton of time around females older than 25.

I'm not trying to start a fight, but this is why we're talking about GIRLS and not women. If someone asks me a question about girls, I'll give 'em answer about girls. If someone asks me about women, I'll give them an answer about women.

I'm sure most women know when they're meeting an asshole vs. a confident man. As time goes on the asshole gets more assholish and the confident man learns how to express himself more confidently in a way that makes people comfortable around him.

I've done volunteer work with S.A.V.E as well, it makes me sad to the core of my being to know what those women have gone through.

And to Lionel, EXACTLY. This is why the few times I've gotten involved with women I've always had a blast, because they know who they are and I don't have to play a dancing monkey role to stimulate them mentally.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:23 AM

This is true.

It's really so complicated. I wish I could claim to understand it fully, but I never had that attraction to the 'bad boys'. I like my life drama-free, thankyouverymuch.



For sure. I feel bad because I know a lot of guys have this problem - hell, I did when I was younger. Can you imagine being 18, surrounded by good looking girls and none of them being interested in you because you are a nice normal guy? It has gone so far to make nice guys actually mimic assholes in order to pick up women.

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:25 AM

the old sayin goes, treat em like dirt, they stick to u like mud.
i find it rather true, i used to get girls back when i was the arrogant jerk. now that ive become nice and chill, ive been single:(

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Posted 26 June 2009 - 04:27 AM

Yeah - I remember the first time I experimented with acting like a prick when I met a girl at a bar. I was AMAZED at how interested she was in me :)




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