Help me blades

If it aint workin now, it aint gonna work later. You sound young. Trust me you will move on and find somebody else. Guys are not the only ones who make the first move. Somewhere in life a girl will be attracted to you and let you know it. Good luck bro.

 

here is whats going to happen, she will walk all over you if you get back with her. she did something to hurt you right? it did hurt didn't it? you didn't like that right? then no, don't get back with her. if you do, she will do this kind of shit again and again. some people just don't know how to be nice. there is just something in them that is set to "fuck you".


move on. trust me when i say you will find someone. that this is all apart of growing. that this pain is here so that when you do find the right person two things will happen. first, you'll know its the right person, second you'll know its the right person because it feels fucking awesome.


never ever sell your self short by accepting what you consider second best for yourself. youll move on and feel better. i know because i have had someone shit on me before. we all have for the most part. hang in there, youll be fine. just give it time.

 

Enjoy life and move on. If it ended badly why would you get back together at all?

"Insanity is repeating the same action and expecting different results"

 

Just forget about her, there's billions of other people with tits out there. The longer you keep living in the past the more regret you'll have.

 

Dude fuck letting some bitch take my cat.

I don't play that shit.

 

My dear, the first broken heart is the hardest to mend. That's why Sheryl Crow wrote a song called "The First Cut is the Deepest." And for most young guys, the first girl is the toughest to get over.

It's going to take a while for you to get over her. And the only way to get over the pain is to go through the pain. Do not try to get with another girl too soon. It won't help. Rebounding is never a good idea. Try other distractions, but make sure they're healthy ones, definitely not alcohol or risk-taking activities. Get some counselling if you feel like you might harm yourself (and don't feel ashamed if you feel that bad-you're not alone or abnormal). Talk to friends, hang out, do sports, work out, etc. Just keep yourself busy and distracted as much as possible. Avoid love songs and broken heart music...it will have you wallowing in pain and tears and you don't need that.

Eventually you will heal, trust me. I know it's really hard to see that now, but you will.

 

You should fake it and secret agent the cat back.

 

My last girl left me on some fucked up shit, threw 4 years away for a pos that just wanted to hit. When she try to come back I told her you should of thought of that shit before you left. When it comes down to it I still love her but I could never be in love with her again. I've been single for 11 months and trying to find the right path to success and having fun. You save a lot of money single also

 

Just do whatever you feel is right in your heart man. If you still have feelings for this girl might as well see what could happen. People can actually change for the better sometimes.

 

Move on, don't waste anymore of your precious time on this one. She'll just do it again down the road.

 

How has nobody else been curious about the cat? She just straight up took your cat and you didn't do shit? Did you both own it or what? Just let her take your pets?

 

Kahgknow:

Here's the thing. We all have this inner voice. My nine-yr-old grandson (he's such a wise little guy for his age) calls it his conscience. I call it our intuition. Call it whatever you like, none of us listen to it enough anymore, but it will always set you straight.

The first thing it's telling you to do is let go and move on. So that's what you should be doing. Of course it's going to be painful and that's why you keep getting that second thought telling you to hesitate...ignore that. That's your heart and it's in a world of pain. It's telling you to give your ex a second chance because broken hearts hurt so much. We always want to run from pain and we'll do anything to avoid pain even if it's bad for us.

As for your friends, they don't always know what's best for you. Regardless, they don't have to live with the consequences of your choices, even the ones they pressure you into making.

Fifteen years ago, a friend pressured me into getting involved with a man against my better judgment. I moved in with him with my three daughters. By the end of three years, by which time the eldest had graduated high school and moved out, he had psychologically abused me to the point of a suicide attempt. When I got out of the hospital, he managed to convince the police and social services that I was an unfit mother and deserved to be homeless, as if I wasn't already traumatized enough. Fifteen months later, my younger two daughters were running for their lives because the truth about this man had come out. He was a heavy drug user and a pedophile. He never wanted me, he wanted my daughters and he had very patiently groomed us and conned the authorities. By this time, my second-eldest had also turned 18. He had sexually abused the youngest from the time we moved in together, when she was just 11 (he had also started abusing the second eldest when he got me kicked out onto the street). The youngest never told anyone because she was too ashamed. I had been a very sexually liberated woman in my mid-to late thirties reveling in my sexuality when I moved in with this man. Now I had to deal with the knowledge that every time I had sex with him, he had been fantasizing about one of my daughters. It still horrifies and disgusts me that I was so in love and devoted to someone so sickening and undeserving. Most of all, it's devastating to me that my daughters got hurt because I brought a predator into our lives, even though they are now in their late 20s. He had no criminal record, so I had no way of knowing.

My daughters never lived with me again. I didn't get to raise my youngest to adulthood and I still feel like a failure as a parent because I couldn't protect her.

You know, that friend who convinced me to get involved with this man? She was no judge of character because the man she was involved with at the time turned out to be physically abusive.

Never let your friends make your decisions for you. The very first thing that comes to your mind to do is the right choice. That's what your intuition is telling you to do and, if you follow it, it will never steer you wrong. You may think it's a snap decision and you need to second-guess it, but you don't. Every single time I have gone with that very first thought, things have been fine, but every time I've doubted it, disasters have followed.

Part of you will always love this girl because she's your first love, but that doesn't mean she's the one for you. These days, the first very rarely is.

And like I said, don't get involved again too soon with someone else. You won't be able to make it work because of unresolved emotional issues with your ex, especially when it comes to trust. It won't be fair to either you or the new girl. The same thing would happen with your ex if you reconciled with her. Deep down inside, you wouldn't really trust her not to hurt you again and that's the biggest reason why you can't go back.

I know it's really super hard to go through this, but we all do. It's a right of passage.

As you go through life, your heart will get broken again and you will get through it again. It feels awful, but it's a fact of life. It's something you have to go through to find the right person.

Sadly, I never did. I wasted too much time with the wrong ones. I hope you don't do that because it's not worth it.