damn. i feel like a overgrown child now... all this time I think everything wayyy hard and forget that people are just people and not like.. out to get me or something. too much weed? but on the realest, i've been a nerd who plays dota for like way too hard of a living, and it got me like shell shocked or something because i seemed to have lost all my friends. its about time i just brave the world and smash into something hot and feel it out, feeler first. My poor dick gets no love, time to change that
I lost my virginity to a fellow virgin, was very awkward but I learned a lot with her. Having sex 4 times in one day kinda crazy love. Ended up moving in with her so sex was a near daily thing. When it comes down to it guys make too big of a deal getting some, it's great and everything but not worth the effort that some guys go to get some. Just my 2 cents, the first time you have sex is gonna be awkward no matter what, no amount of porn will prepare you for the real thing. Just be natural and don't try to do too much. Nothing worse than finally getting to smash and finishing faster than most people's singing careers now a days. Cheers
^^ yeah that awkward phase is still lingering in the highest way imaginable in my mind. As i mentioned in my OP, my first time with a girl in bed was awkward, but the most I got out of it was BJ with no finish. But like all I remember was a haze of watching the movie Warm Bodies and attempting the whole time to figure shit out between making out and getting my dick where it wanted to be. Believe me I tried damn near everything I could think of, but end result was I had no condom and she said no go so I listened. After the movie was over I just gave up, we were both faded of course because you know, weed, but like she was tired af (at least I did my job there ) and then I just gave up and played COD 4 on my xbox as she lay there passed out. Awkward night for sure, but I don't think it counts as sex because it was just like an hour and a half of foreplay. Definitely cool that I had a girl play with my penis though, just no cigar so I still am left wondering wtf I did wrong. You would think I know the no glove no love rule, but I'm a dumbass still...
26, yes really me. cant hide my real fb/mistahsparklez for more me yes i really suck at life as much as i say i do
Sex is overrated, don't stress it haha It'll happen when it happens, chances are if you rush it/try too hard its not gonna be all what you want it to be.
You're too handsome to be a virgin dude! What do you think the problem is? Not plugged into the right social circle? Are you a loaner? Are your social skills poor? Do you freeze up around chicks? What gives?
Here's a good video from my favorite comedian. Hope it helps. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I5IiIdbXjnc
mister, you're a handsome guy. you've got some decent advice here. i just wanted to add that you may want to set your sights on some older women. they'll be more inclined to take the lead and show you what they want over a female that is younger than you. not always but there is a reason guys seek out mrs robinson. pros of sleeping with someone who's a virgin: no baby ex drama no stds not as much baggage no divorcee's teach them how you like "it" more chance of having a relationship over just a fun night if thats what you're looking for cons of sleeping with a virgin one or two times of awkwardness?? i'm not really seeing any bad things.
Seriously man I promise you all that nervous apprehension goes away completely after your first few times and you'll start to feel more comfortable in your own skin and you'll be able to express your sexuality better. I was in your shoes dude believe me speak from experience. It's not just the sex side of things either that feel good, being able to depend on someone and to share each others struggles together and have them support you is about the best feeling in the world. If there's one regret I have in life its waiting to long to come out of my shell and to take chances. Yes you will end up getting hurt, more than you ever have been, but it's still worth it. Just dive into it!
^word to all the great advice i'm getting here. I guess I will sum up my string of bad experiences in "being the good guy who finishes last" at some point, no matter how hard i felt at doing the right thing, all my douchebag friends who ride the coattails of others take the spotlight and shine harder. now i isolated myself behind videogames and haven't left the shell im in. shellshocked. Getting over the first hurdle would do me wonders ^_^
You can't isolate yourself...that's the best way to get no action or in the least, you'll have to try hard when you do. Gotta have a small pack of wingmen. I meet a lot of chicks just bc of my roommate's having ppl over - one has friends over often (I met a hot stripper thru him this past May)...he also has a steady gf and she brings her friends over; my other roomy's a bit of a man whore - doesn't have the best taste in women but he adds more female traffic to our residence than anyone so I don't complain (that much). Having the right friends makes all the difference when you're trying to get some - especially if you're an introvert. Gotta 'get out there' like they say & find your people....it's never too late for that
It's no where near as rewarding as when you have genuine feelings for the other person Sam Smith wrote a song about how many lovers had but how empty it left him Decades ago I was dating a woman. We were having sex when she went limp, which alarmed me.. I asked what's wrong and she replied you're fucking me instead of making love to me. At the time I didn't know the difference. She taught me and I'm forever grateful
I think about it very often but not all the time. I heard that it is normal to think about sex almost all the time but we do it subconsciously.
I found the disappointment is mostly avoided by taking the time to get to know the person: alcohol and/or drugs can overcome better judgement. My minimum is 2 weeks. By then, more often than not, I realize I don't want to know the person, let alone have sex with them I've had several magic moments where it was instantaneous- lust at first sight, but neither lasted long, so I no longer count on that