Hey everyone, so I have a quick question that is mainly for the ladies, but guys are welcome to post their input as well based on their experiences. So recently my girlfriend complained that I sometimes "rush" when we are intimate, stating that often I go straight from making out to penetration a lot of the time. She brought up the argument that women need a lot of foreplay, which includes not only oral sex, but also general caressing and whatnot. I had honestly not even realized that I had sometimes failed to do any foreplay, mostly because as a guy, when you are horny intercourse is generally much more pleasurable than foreplay, at least for me anyway. Based on this, I guess I kind of assumed that it was the same for women, and that penetration was the most pleasurable and enjoyable aspect of sex. I would like to hear the opinion of some of the women on this forum. How important is foreplay to you in sex? Do you enjoy penetration without much foreplay, or does that decrease your overall satisfaction? Also, how common is itfor women to "dry up" down there during intercourse? I highly appreciate any feedback
OP, you got yourself a RAD woman. she is directly communicating to you information that most women feel and most guys will never hear. you are LUCKY to have such a great woman. what she is saying is the 100% truth, and she's being nice about it as well. don't take this the wrong way but i bet you get yours way before she is even ready to get hers and she is just going along with it. look up some tutorials N O W sex to me is about making her feel on cloud 9, or cloud 420, not just about me achieving orgasm. i'm a nice guy like that. and probably why i'm single
Hey Lenny, thank you for the input. Yes, I am well aware how amazing my women is, and don't worry, I do my best to remind her that every single day I honestly was not even cognizant of it at times, especially when I was caught up in the moment, but I will definitely strive to be mindful about this going forward and I will make sure to take my time more. I agree with you and my goal is also to ensure she is having at least as good of a time as me, however, I guess I assumed that because everything was great for me, that it was great for her too, which obviously is a fallacious assumption.
i feel into that also, ultimately i was being selfish and wanted to reach climax soon, she mentioned it also and switched my gears to focusing more on her and her level of pleasure. ultimately she was happier and we found more exploration and fun in our sex life...best of luck op, as lenny mentiond, she has been so graceful as to nicely communicate, so listen up lol.
Yeah bro. Foreplay might not get me off, but I love watching my girl squirm around. It lets me know she's into it and helps us ease into the good parts lol
they dont need foreplay per say but they arent usually into the rip your pants off and fuck philosophy. you need to warm them up most of the time.
Women do not need penetration to get off. I remember vividly carrying my girlfriend at the time up like 3 flights of stairs and by the time we had made it to the bed, she had this white shit in her pants it was kinda gross and then i ate it.
I personally enjoy myself a lot more and get more into it when my boyfriend has warmed me up first. My previous exes didn't know shit about foreplay and after like 5 minutes of sex max I'd be sore, irritated, and 110% not into it. It's so good that she's communicating with you about it, too! Definitely listen to her and show her that you took what she told you seriously. A lot of girls for some reason are shy or afraid to tell their boyfriends when they want something different sexually.
The one huge piece of advice I tell my male friends is....find her clitoris and lick it, suck it softly, rub it and caress it. I can guarantee you that if you follow these steps, you will see your gf wanting to screw you every day of the week. 1. Start by walking up behind her, kiss the back of her neck and her mouth. Tell her she looks sexy and you've been thinking of her all day. 2. Feel her breasts and make your way down to the sweet spot. Rub her gently. 3. Whilst still kissing and caressing her, pick her up and place her on the bed or somewhere comfortable. 4. Start taking her clothes off and kiss her skin after you take each piece off. 5. By the time you reach her underwear she will be fired up. 6. Gently pull her legs apart and start licking her clit. Slowly and softly at first. Lick around it and watch her reactions. When you find that spot she will groan. Take that reaction and concentrate on that spot. 7. Use your other hand and penetrate her with your fingers. 8. Continue licking her clit and penetrating her getting faster and faster. 9. She will eventually cum all over your face. Just watch her reactions when your licking and touching her. When she pushes towards you and groans, that means, you got a good spot...concentrate on that area. If she pulls away and goes quite, keep searching. She seems fairly open amd comfortable with herself sexually, so talk to her seductively whilst your pleasuring her. Such as, 'where do want it, does that feel good, show me how you want it' etc. If you talk to her during sex and always tell her how hot and sexy she is, you'll improve her confidence and she will open up to you. Anything awkward can happen during sex as well, so either just ignore that 'sound' or wipe something away without making it an issue. Especially for women, we are usually a bit paranoid when it comes to being 'perfect' down there. So have a shower together beforehand and let her do what she needs to do to make herself feel hot. You can try buying her sexy lingerie and telling her how sexy she looks. If your girl feels hot, she will be more open and be prepared to try some new things. My last tip...always have lube. Dry sex is never good sex. Even massage oil is fine...but be warned, if its oil based, it will stain your sheets. Good luck and practice makes perfect. You will receive from a satisfied women ten fold what you put in. The rewards for you will be great. Good on you both for wanting to heighten your sexual experience together. Happy wife, happy life my friend. Enjoy! Sent from my SM-G900I using Tapatalk
depends on the girl.. i just think foreplay is awesome in general and i myself (a dude) enjoy it. plus it makes the whole experience last longer instead of just being a wham bam thank you ma'am 10min fuck. honestly i think foreplay is just as good for dudes as it is for women.. heightens the intensity a lot for me personally going through a drawn out build-up before it's over. my girl for instance, foreplay certainly isnt necessary but if there's time for it, it's happening. but that's a me-thing too..
Ok, if you are willing to take some advice from someone older, here it is. Yes, most women need foreplay. Now this is not a blanket statement as I dated a girl who could get fully lubricated on the ride home from the bar just thinking about what was going to happen. And even she like foreplay. So, yes they like it. But the problem here is not you not providing it, it is that you are putting your desires above hers. Bad idea. Your goal should be to give her as much pleasure as you can and not worry about yourself. How that pays you back is that she will want sex more often. I have many married friends who botch constantly that they aren't getting any. My wife is also friends with their wives who bitch that all they do is get off and roll over and go to sleep. So change your attitude and put her pleasure first. It will pay you back.
yes women need foreplay. In my experience, penetration is not the most enjoyable part of sex. And women dry out when they weren't turned on enough to begin intercourse, or when they are losing interest in what is going on. You should be more generous in bed, then she'll stay wet longer.
Hi lenny, You seem to be a really great guy. Kudos to you for wanting to learn more about pleasing your special lady. Some men behave like they don't have the time and patience, some are just selfish and don't care. This effort you are making will definitely increase your connection with your lady. Keep up tje good work Sent from my SPH-L720T using Tapatalk