Hiya fellow stoners! So, here's my story. I met this girl online like 2 years ago. (Not on dating site, just casually online) Been randomly in touch with her over the internet during this time. It never seemed anything special. We just chatted like friends, tho we had pretty much the same hobbies and intrests. This all kind of changed few months ago, when she asked if I would like to see her (she was coming to visit her dad, who happens to live in the same town as I do). I agreed, she came over and we got really high and watched south park. Nothing happened, we had fun. After this we started messaging each other alot more often. Next week she messaged me. She asked if she and her best friend could stay at my place for a weekend. They were planning to go on a cruise and needed a place to sleep. I agreed, I like her and the whole plan sounded fine to me. Her friend didn't eventually make it, so their cruiseplans were wrecked. At this point I remember thinking "so she just needed a place to stay in strange town. No. Wait a second, she could go over her dad's place - or other friends place. Why me?" Few days later she asked out of nowhere if I wanted company for my holidays. I did. She travelled here. She stayed on my couch for 4 days, I got her dank weed (she did pay for the weed) and we blazed and watched cartoons.We had fun, but nothing happened. Four days and nothing. Quite a disappointment for me that was. (No, I wasn't expecting sex or anything, just something more than just sitting next to me on the couch) She's still messaging me like before but I'm left a bit confused. She's telling me alot o stuff about herself and asks about my future plans. I know that she has had pretty rough relationships in the past, bf beating her up and shit like that. She has told me alot of really personal stuff concerining her mental problems and a violent ex. So is she just shy in person? Afraid? Extremely reserved? Or just doesn't like me that way? (I think its this one) But if that's the case, why bother seeing me at all? Why would she endure 8 hours in a bus to see me, but not do much more with me than talk and smoke weed? (That's great too, talking and blazing are my favourite activities) Do you girls just visit your male friends across the country like this? Friends you have seen in real only once? What the hell? All the women of the internet, please share your opinions. Feel free to ask shit ya need to know about the case. Sorry for the grammar & thanks for reading. Peace and love fellas
Ask her. When I was younger I missed out on a lot of good sex by not talking with girls that I thought were just buddies. Later on in life I remember more than one telling me they had the hots for me but they were to shy to make the first move and I was to dumb to notice. Talk to her.
I'm definitely no expert but have you tried making the first move? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
Ya, sounds like you are missing your opportunities. You gotta make it happen, she is giving you the opportunity. It probably doesn't even matter if you do something lame, just do something. Or... Go out drinking, maybe that is easier to approach her with? "Wana go get some drinks tonight?". The rest will be history.
If her dad leaves in same town and she asks to stay with you then you have something going for you. Bring it up or sit closer next time and make moves
Every time I heard you say "and nothing happened", I wince a bit. For the most part with chicks, nothing happens till you make it happen. There are some that will grab you, stick their tongue down your throat and ask, " would you please fuck me", but you don't run into many like that and should exercise a bit of caution if one does turn up.
Oh and one more thing. Chicks will usually only give you so many chances to make your move before they ditch you due to gayness.
Wow, sounds like you are to far into the friend zone because if she wanted you to fuck her then she would've made that clear .. so yeah she likes you but it sounds like just as a friend & nothin more
"And nothing happened" Oh come on man!!! Why do you think nothing happened? You're the man. Initiate it. Take what you want because its obvious what she wants. hahaha im dead.
Thanks guys, you made me grow some balls. Asked her to come over and she'll be here tomorrow. She said she wants to get drunk with me and stuff so... Yeah I was blind she clearly wants the D. Any tips or tricks on how to not fuck this up again? Yours, OP
I don't think so. She wants to get drunk and smoke with him, feels comfortable staying over his house for days. talks to him about a lot of personal problems. OP, based on what you said I'd say she likes you, but a lot of women wait for the guy to make the first move. There are a couple of things you could do at this point. You could try just leaning in for a kiss and see how she reacts, or just ask her lol, but bottom line is I think she likes you and when she comes over again you have to make some type of move on her.
Well, I've done some thinking and I'm pretty sure she would have hinted me if she wasnt into me. I mean, she never calls me "friend"or "buddy" or shit. Do you have any female friends that call you mister? (or atleast it roughly translates to mister) Also I haven't heard her mention any other guys like for half a year, (and she used to talk about her relationships, as well did I). I think you guys are missing the fact that I really havent seen her in person all that much. How can you get too deep in to the friendzone if you havent really even spent that much time with a person? And yeah I was just being a pussy last time she came over. Her smokin too much and passing out few times didn't really help me out either. Trying to make a move on sleeping girl is pretty close to rape to me. (Yeah my weed kicks ass) It's 9am and I'm already stoned as hell, sorry for the thought vomit I just created.
Hey! I think she's sending out signals and you're not picking them up! Try to make the first move, or flirt a little more online with her to see her reaction. I wouldn't travel 8 hours to visit a friend as often as she has. Go for it! What's the worst that can happen!?
I can just see this the next morning, " yeah Officer , We were real close ; til the roofies wore off , then she woke up talkin bout pressin charges , so i pulled my tongue out her ass and left!"