Possibly my first gay relationship

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by 420Juggalo610, Jun 20, 2015.

  1. I mentioned him in another thread I met him on grindr about a week ago and a half ago and we just clicked the first time we met. I've never been in a relationship but he has. We call each other babe and we say that we both love each other and every time I think about him I get rock hard (sorry for all the info). I don't really know what love is, but how can you tell when a relationship is official? and any advice you blades can give me? thanks   

     
  2. #2 Sammyy, Jun 20, 2015
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    If no actual words were stated that you two are official, youll just know. When you start doing things that only an actual couple would do, youll realize its official. Dont get caught up on these labels though just enjoy yourself.
     
  3. Don't be quick to label your relationship. Just enjoy the ride and let time sort shit out. Eventually you'll both consider yourselves each others boyfriends. Better than putting pressure on the relationship by trying to make things official, just my two cents
     
  4. #5 420Juggalo610, Jun 20, 2015
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    He texted me one night before I picked him up and said "you're my new bae, ok?" not sure if that means anything and plus he's coming over tonight we're planning on cuddling and watching some movies
     
     
  5. I'm always skeptical when people love each other right off the bat. That tends to mean that they aren't in love, but they are in love with the IDEA of being in love. However, I hope it works out for you. Take it slow and don't rush. If it doesn't work out, another relationship might. Enjoy your evening! 
     
  6. well, i hate anybody who says "i love you" after a week of getting to know each other.
    But hey thats just me, have fun i guess.
     
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    But I feel we click I just get a good feeling about him and if u ever been in a relationship I think u know what I mean
     
  8. #9 Dr. Sheldon Cooper, Jun 22, 2015
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    That's not love though, that's infatuation and lust and a new experience all around.

    I mean, it can be love, but don't get wrapped up so fast, especially since it's your first relationship.
     
  9. If you click, just enjoy it. you'll know one way or the other when you spend enough time together. Labeling or asking to define the relationship is just gonna make things weird. you don't want to put him on the spot.
     
  10. sounds to me like you two are connecting and communicating on levels some others cant understand. roll with it and enjoy the ride. there is no such thing as gay, there is just happy. if being with someone makes you happy then be with them. if you feel that inner connection then don't let it go with out seeing where it leads. you'll hate yourself if you don't. happiness, everyone deserves it [​IMG]
     
  11. In reality you don't know this guy at all, how could you, you only just met. You have a good feeling about it so you wanna continue, that's cool. But at this stage you don't really have anything. Keep that in mind.
     
  12. #13 VaWaveRider, Jun 22, 2015
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    I know that you feel you click. That's why I said that you are in love with being in love. It's the excitement and the possibilities. It's counting the hits and ignoring the misses. It's easy to feel in love at first before normal life gets in the way. You can't accurately say that you "just click" with someone you don't know. That's like me referring to a dish I've never tried as my favorite food. 
     
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    I would first say, stop saying "love" because it definitely isn't. Dating a dude really isn't that complicated. Be honest and open minded
     
  14. Talk a lot. Laugh a lot. fuck a lot. Forgive always. Enjoy what you have and stop worrying about labels and categories. It is what it is.
     
  15. you met the dude a grinder.....i wouldn't say this is love ..not by a long shot.
    I have a lot of gay friends so I know what grinder is lmao...and while I've never been on it....from the way my buddies use it...its most certainly not for finding love lol. But that being said anything can happen...just keep in mind he was on grinder....honestly sounds like one of those people who just bounce from relationship to relationship. There are definitely females out there like this as well.

     
  16. Love is far more than "clicking" after a few conversations. Its getting to know someone in a very intimate vulnerable way. Its embracing one another's whole personalities, flaws and all. For me, I realized that the relationship I'm in now, out of all I've experienced, is the first time I've truly loved someone. One of the traits I never had before is supporting each other in everything, and being motivated to spiritual and intellectual growth. My partner's personality pushes me to become a better person, and I support her however I can to reach the goals she has in life.
     
  17. I have been on Grindr and have met a few guys. And there was something that seemed to click and I would think maybe I will find a bf after all. We may go out or stay in and hang, everything seems so good, he pays me compliments and tells me how special I am and how much he cares about me. Inevitably I give in and let him make love to me. He tells me how good I make him feel and how this is the best and he wants to be with me a long time.
    Yet, after I've blown him and/or let him enter me from behind, he doesn't return my calls, we never speak or see each other again and I am crushed. I used to hear girls talk about how the guy said she was so important and then after he got in her pants, he wouldn't call her anymore. I always thought well you must have done something. Now, I believe it is just men in general that are that way.
    I say take your time. If it is going to be something special then let it grow. If your let him into your flower to soon, he will just pollinate and go on to the next flower.
     
  18. "you're my new bae, ok?"
    Hopefully it doesn't but it sounds like there were many more in the past. Hopefully I'm reading that wrong.


    Good luck.
     
  19. "there is no such thing as gay,"


    yeah, there sure is.


    J


     

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