So here's the situation. 11 month relationship, some of it long distance, finally back in the same city to see each other for the summer. She gets a full time job for the first time in her life, and feels quite overwhelmed and is winding up passing out early every day on weekdays, leaving not much time to do relationship stuff. She is stressed by the fact that we want to see each other and I'm asking her to hangout but no time or energy, and I've had a bad week and unfortunately been pretty negative recently, and its been affecting her. So yesterday I went to her house to talk things through and she was like maybe we should take a break, and I'm like I understand that I've been not a good bf recently and I'm sorry and I'll give you space but I want us to be able to work through this, and at first it was looking like we would separate for a while cause she wanted to get used to her full time schedule, and she said it wasn't really about me she just needs some time. I think I cheered her up to the point where things might be okay, however she said she would text me later and she never did, and still hasn't today. Now I don't really wanna contact her right now, even though I'd love to hear from her, but at what point do I really start to worry ? And what is my next move ? For the record, she said she still loves me (and even said "duh" at the end of that phrase) and wants me in her life and doesn't wanna lose contact, and that she will always love me, so really confused right now
My advise would be to try and be more supportive of her new full time job. Giving her space was a good first step, maybe start slowly texting her again but not to the point were you're just being annoying and bombarding with text. You could also try and make her feel more relaxed, ask off she would like you to prepare/buy dinner after her shift or if you have a little bit of side money maybe give her some small spa gift like a mani and pedi. Maybe ask if you could give her rub downs when she's done with work and showered or whatever. Just try and make it seem like you want her to feel relaxed and comfortable. If she doesn't accept any of this and just wants space and less texting them I would be worried. Good luck OP
Sounds like BS, I'd give her space and do your own thing. One thing I've learned over the years, if she really wants to see you she will make the effort. Being tired is a lame excuse.