My mums been friends with her best friend since they were teenagers, the thing is they live 4 hours away from each other so they don't see each other much anyway she has a daughter, she's a club slut, druggie, legit ! she admitted it... well not the slut part but come on... you're telling me she went to clubs, did every drug created by her own admission, and she didn't fuck around ? come on........ on top of the she says '' I don't really like relationship I prefer being single'' so here's the strange part.... she keeps telling me what a great guy I am ? wtf !? even when we talked on the phone I was a timid bitch and she did 85% of the talking.... keep in mind im ugly, poor, admitted to being a virgin and told her im clingy which did the trick and it's been two days since I heard from her..... but before that she pretty much said everything other than '' I love you'' she keeps telling me theirs no one like me and she wants to be with me, WTF !? She can do ALOT better she's hot, lives in a city where she wasn't clubbing so her rep's fine...... all I am is a loner who smokes weed and never leaves the house and she knows this ? why would she want me ? I don't even want me FFS !!!!! but seriously can someone please explain what this is ? whats she doing ? she can't truly want me, so whats going on ? we've never had sex obviously, so she isn't knocked up to another man and trying to make me the dad..... so what is her deal ? I can't figure it out ? what does she gain from hurting me emotionally ? and fucking with my head ? if our parents weren't life long friends i'd dismiss her as another hoe but with our mums life long friendship '' at stake'' you'd think she'd leave me alone and play games with other guys heads............... i'd love it if someone can make sense of this because it's been doing my head in for weeks WTF IS HER Angle ?
You're not ugly? She thinks you're a nice guy (assuming shes a slut isn't very nice) Dude, do you have any interest in losing your virginity or nah???
Unless you just wanna pound her out, stay clear. Club sluts are good for one thing, and that's lying on their back.
I figured it out, I was the friend who listened to personal stories, intimate details about her family and such. She needed someone to vent to and I was a good safe choice, I don't think their was much more too it than that, I have a friend sarah and she does the same thing, Rings me up at night when she's having a ciggie or she's just generally bored at the time, I don't have a problem with that atleast she picks up the phone and calls, I don't talk to the other people from that time period so it's nostalgic if nothing else It became obvious this girl was doing something simular after making this thread I only heard from her once since so I don't think she's fiening ''huge ego'' as much as she claimed and that's was what I suspected from the start, 1. It's all subjective i'll give you that 2. Nice doesn't = fun and enjoyable to be around, I'm a very boring person by nature, Sticking to the matter at hand my concern was she was her saying this stuff but I didn't understand why ? We live a few hours apart why wouldn't see be more focused on finding someone from her local area ? that's the part that confuses me, 3. Of course but I want to have things in common with the girl and I want to get along with them, I've been in situations simular to that but things prevented it, me not being ready was in the top 5 obviously but their where other reasons,
You put this up before I came across the thread and was about to say exactly this. Also, my good man, you seem to be getting down hard on yourself. If you truly feel about yourself the way you depict it in this thread, then might I suggest focusing more on self improvement than appealing to a chick? The more you advance on that path, the more women fall into your lap anyway. You probably don't want to hook up with kids of your parents' friends anyway. Especially if they are high octane.
I added the numbers to you're post so you know what part im addressing 1.So we agree on the first thing, that's interesting, 2. I agree but I thought my post came across funny that way ? the idea of making it seem negative was for comedy purposes but obviously I failed...... just wanted to lighten the mood 3, You know what I call those women '' gold diggers'' and I don't have time to waste on them...... i'd rather fuck a prostitute that's all those women are anyway, only difference being when you pay a pro you know your getting sex sorry for being an A-Hole but it's true..... 4. that was a huge concern definitely thanks for the reply, hope the gold digger remark didn't offend you but that's honestly how I see it.......
I generally go after the "i'm offended crowd" so no worries in that regard Don't worry about lightening the mood. The crowd who needs that to function in a civil manner is probably not the people you want to address or get feedback from anyway. There are a ton of gold diggers out there, and all the other bad things you can think of, but trust me, there are good ones out there as well. I don't mean that in a PC-Hallmark kind of way, because I couldn't give less of a shit about either of those, but simply on personal real life experiences. One of the main reasons I despise the gold diggers and fakes, is because of the women I have met in my personal life. They show you how real the "good way" is. They are rare, but they are great. I mean this purely factually and pragmatically. The great ones require zero effort to respect. One of the biggest lies you'll hear in your life is "a relationship is a lot of work" This is something perpetuated by people who are in shit relationships. Self improvement is not a way to "women" in terms of whatever. It is the way to women (and male friends for that matter) on your own terms. If you want skanks, self improvement is your way to it. If you want quality women, self improvement is the way to it. If you want better guy friends, self improvement is the way to it.
OK basically bro at the end of the day you have to realize that this girl is a lot different than you are in her personality and lifestyle and since she lives far away its gonna be like a one time smash or nothing. You didn't exactly put yourself in a great position when you told her about being virginal and clingy. However, learn from this because what you gotta do now is just make yourself happier and gain some confidence by finding shit you like doing and when you get a more...uh...suitable opportunity for sexual relations you won't worry about being clingy and virginal or whatever. As for the current one, make her do the 4-hour trek if she wants anything, that is a fair measuring rod for her to show you how much shes really gonna invest in you.
Couldn't I just lie ? tell them what they want to hear ? If people are THAT superficial they don't deserve respect, do they ? If someone is only talking to you because of what you have, their not a good person, their human garbage, trust me, you're better of without them........ You made great points, No doubt about it, I especially like the last part, good idea, I don't how where I stand on the ''smashing'' her issue though, I really don't..... theirs pro's and cons,
Don't mistake self improvement for something you do TO get chicks. If you're doing it for that, you're doing it for the wrong reason and you're probably doing it wrong in the process. Self improvment is something you do for yourself first and foremost. It makes you a bigger, better, smarter, faster, more interesting, saner person. Women (regardless if you're after quality or quantity), as well as platonic relationships with males/females, come as a result of actually succeeding in your self improvement. For example, I don't work out because I like to flex the six pack @ the pool and get chicks. I do it because I like the way I feel when I'm in great shape. I do it because biking, lifting, playing b-ball is more fun for me when I am in great shape. As an added bonus, chix notice and dig the six, but even if they didn't, I'd still be enjoying all the other activities. It obviously does not have to be physical. The same goes for anything that sharpens your mind.
I feel you man, It's just hard to get motivated when you're depressed but on a positive note I went skydiving a month ago that was an amazing experience, The second time I've ever been in a plane, the first time was about 3/4 week's prior ! went on a nice week long holiday that I really needed, and since then I've been working non stop so I don't know why I feel like shit I just do, I've always been this way though thus why I don't seek medical attention, over these last few years I've learnt a lot about myself but i'm still fucking up..... it's always been one step forward two steps back with me which gets frustrating,
How old are you if you don't mind sharing? I obviously have no clue about the details of your life, but for me personally, I didn't start seeing some things clearer until my very late 20's. I haven't had a bad life by any means, but I have been doing my share of things that are very counterproductive and kept me down at times. Happiness is often covered with 8 different piles of crap you have to dig through to find what it is that really works for you and what it isn't. I'm not even saying I'm done with my personal piles of crap, but the realization of them being there can be very powerful and constructively freeing. Toxic people are a good example of what needs to be cut out. Shit jobs are another. If you have starving mouths at home you have to feed, then your choices are limited. If not, switch it up. Don't do something you do not enjoy because a sane human mind simply does not have the stamina/invincibility to make it through a toxic or not-stimulating career. Feeling down about a job or people around you will also syphon energy away from you that you could use for further self improvement and life bettering. Nature is kind of cunty like that because it likes to encourage positive things by giving those living well more energy and enthusiasm, which in turns has them living even better. Those on the down side, it tends to penalize further by draining them of energy and enthusiasm. This is where exercise is an absolute must in my experience because it not only gives you a better body to travel the world in, but it releases serotonin and dopamine in the brain, giving you a far better outlook on things. It is also self-affirming since the more you work out, the better you get at it, the better results you see, physically and mentally. Nutrition is the other big one. You will be amazed just how much of your state of mind is affected by what you eat. Everyone knows that junk food gets you out of shape, but far fewer people are aware that it also gets them down mentally. As mentioned, this further drains you of both physical and mental energy. It's a process man. The only ones who found easy happiness are the mindless and the ultra privileged, and many of them haven't either. You live in the 1st world so you'll be bombarded by all sorts of crazy shit at every turn. Toxic people, jobs, attitudes, and cultures are all around us. Navigating that successfully takes first realization, then some work. The good news is, the start of that work is by far the hardest and the more you know and do, the easier it becomes.
Just because she goes clubbing doesn't mean she fucks every guy....you can still go down the path with her, but be careful. Play her like she plays you. Expect her to screw you over. Now that you know what she is going to do, have some fun with her. Just don't get to close.....who knows, maybe she secretly likes you??????? Maybe she likes you being in a different circle she usuley associates with. Maybe she sees something in you that you don't realize is there