Hey everyone, I have been with this girl for almost 3 years now and we've had our share of ups and downs but recently we had a baby. He is now 3 weeks old and it's come to a point where I have to make a rational decision on whether I should live here or not. After my girlfriend gave birth I was out of work for 2 weeks to help her care for the baby. Now when I say help I really meant I will sometimes do 99% of the chores around the house plus care for our son. Now also keep in mind I'm currently back working at least 9 hours every day to provide for our rent, food, etc. I was under the impression that by doing so I would be well appreciated, we'll I was wrong. Just like before the baby came along I find myself getting yelled at because I apparently "don't do shit" around the house or for the baby. I also find myself getting yelled at while holding the baby and I just don't think that is okay. If I even give her a hint of atittude she will threaten to call the cops and put me in jail. Me being a pothead takes those threats seriously as I dont want to go to jail and lose the job I have. The list goes on and I don't want to get into too much detail cause that would take ages but I'm tired of the way I'm treated when I'm the one bringing the money home and helping around with the baby. I could be a deadbeat father that doesn't do anything but I'm no where like that. Right now I'm stuck between moving out for the sake of keeping peace for the baby or staying to help care for him. My bags are packed but every time I try to leave I end up feeling bad but I know I haven't done anything wrong :/ It's like a cycle. I just need some advice on what my best option is please
I can't be for certain, I can only tell you what my situation was. When our daughter was born my wife got in such a funk that I basically had to be a ghost around my wife. I had no freaking clue where it came from and on hindsight it appears that it was hormones. My wife is real real chill so all it came down to was you better leave me alone.....so I did. If your GF has a temper she may be just going off from the hormones. Post part depression is the most common name for it, but it can be way more than mere depression. I hope this is your problem as it does go away but it can be really serious. I suggest stay the course and do what I did, walk around like a scared cat for a couple of weeks.
This is why you don't get in with 'cunts' I don't wanna be mean but some women r just bitches . Some guys too but that's neither here nor there. If she was like this before the baby than it's just the way she is (im leanin toward this one cuz u said 'just like before the baby came) but hopefully it's just hormones like the above poster said tho And she threatens to call the cops on her 3 year bf who she has a kid wit ? Wow Sent from my U670C using Grasscity Forum mobile app
She can talk to you like that, but if you stand up for yourself she will call the police and have you arrested. You need to tell her she needs to learn to control herself and her outbursts, and if she cannot on her own then she needs medication and therapy.
Let her know, in a civil manner, that you were thinking about moving out. Her reaction will be your answer. If yelling+throwing shit insues, gtfo
Sorry to hear about your issue OP. That is a scary situation, I think that's why I don't have kids. Almost, but luckily problems emerged before we decided. My good buddy, who has 2 boys with ex wife, is still struggling emotionally after about 6 years. He claims he's doing fine, gets a lot of girls, but we all see his pain. It really prevents me from wanting children.
Are their any positive women stories ? i'm asking because I DON'T see them, I haven't seen a story about a dude struggling to pay rent and god forbid his women stands by him and supports him through ther hard times, i'm certain their are stories like that but I never heard them / seen them (if it happened 20+ years ago it don't count, i'm a here and now guy) it makes me a sad, very sad panda
^^^^ HugeEgo- my gf stood by my side faithfully till the bitter end. then shit happened and it ended. the most incredible woman in the world is actually going to be better off w/o me cuz i got her started in the right direction on a few things. i'm headed the right way, too cuz she got me started on the right path, too. i still love her but it's over
hugeego- you sound like a guy with a chip on his shoulder who carries baggaged beef over women try being a good, upstanding man and stop expecting women & society itself to change according to your liking have a great lay lol
Maybe you should just take a break for a couple weeks. Give her some time to herself and maybe she'll realize just how little you actually do to help her. And if you do find that you're happier and she's happier during that time then that should tell you a lot.
OP, sorry for creating such a large rant on your post. Sincerely sorry, man. Hope you find what you're looking for out of all this. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Be a fucken man and step up to the plate work your ass off love your family and shut the fuck up why are you complaining? She's bitchy? Well guess what she carried your baby in her stomach ruined her body and mind for you to plant a seed. You literally "fucked" her. She gave it up to you for a reason. Unless she was a whore then you fucked up. I'm tired of men being pussies I understand times are changing and life is a little bit easier but that doesn't mean you don't work your ass off as a man. I got two jobs, full-time student and do shit around the house without anyone telling me to do it. I pay the rent, food, and everything else. Happy wife happy life bitches, grow up.
She sounds like she has some growing up to do... I say you try to find some kind of counseling especially with there being a baby involved.