Ok so, I'm gonna say now that this will be a pretty long read so if you aren't up for it leave now haha. Basically, my situation is I met this pretty cute girl on Tinder (already a big red flag right?) and we after a few weeks of talking she came over to my house and we rooted. At this point I really didn't think anything of it other than the sex was a bit better than average and she was kinda cute. Anyway a month or two down the track and we're pretty much seeing each other and she seemed pretty emotionally stable so we decided we'd make it official. This is where everything goes apeshit crazy... So a week after we start going out and I start university, due to 20 hours a week of uni and having 2 jobs I don't get much time to see her which obviously annoys her, we're lucky if we see each other once a week because I also play and coach basketball 4 times a week. That's my first argument for why we should break up, because I have 2 years of uni left, and I'm not going to drop my jobs or basketball so the situation isn't getting better. Now 3 weeks after we start going out, her emotionally stability is shattered. (and I don't blame her for this, no sane person would) Her mum and her girlfriend broke up after the girlfriend was caught cheating with a married woman. Her mum within 3 days of finding out moved out with her younger sister back to another state, leaving her behind to live with her mums ex girlfriend until she could find a place (I live with my parents and mum doesn't like her so that was a no go) So anyway its safe to say that now she's had a lot happen and me breaking up with her would probably make things a tonne worse. We have been going out just under two months and she's already so caught up on me that she declined the opportunity to move to NSW with her mum and sister so she could stay down her with me. (That really freaked me out considering how long we've been together) She tags me in all this shit on FB about qualities of good husbands and shit and keeps telling me that we're never breaking up and thats starting to freak me out too. Other than those three main things she's started talking like a baby and it shits me. She's so arrogant and rude and self important when we aren't alone, If we're with her mates then I get ignored, or they all talk really condescending and talk down to me because I try to get involved in the conversation. I'm super high and cbf expanding anymore, but point is, how do I get the fuck out of this without messing her up more than the breakup of her parents?? I'm honestly not happy but shes so good at making me feel guilty that I just cant see a way to do it. HELP!
Just tell her you can't because you have a busy life. The longer you wait, the more attached she may become. Better end it asap bro and move on. It's either her happiness or yours. I'd pick mine in a situation like this. It's going to be tough no matter what. So pick. Her happiness or yours?
To be honest, break ups are never easy. No matter what you do to try to soften the blow. In the end, its really up to her on how she responds/takes it.
OP just wants to sling some major dick while at uni. JK JK OP, this chick sounds kinda crazy and this is what makes me think that: You need to leave her and cut her out of your life..,like now...IMO. How you do it is up to you...I'm not sure what the best way to cause the least amount of drama would be. But it sounds to me like there's been enough drama and it's only gonna get worse if you allow it to continue.
Sorry to say this man but based of my understanding of your story it seems as if you are the one with the problems. I'm pretty sure you knew what you were getting into before you did with the college/work shit and all, seems as if you took advantage of her and you're looking for a way to split now. just my 2 cents tho I mean no offense or disrespect.
Thanks for the replies guys, I'm seeing her Tuesday night and I'll tell her then, just hoping it doesn't blow up too much in my face. None taken man, I get where you're coming from. I think I'd been more inclined to make it work if she didn't kinda get crazy attached to me so quick, that's just a huge turn off for me. I know, I see it too now, but shit changed when we started going out, she was normal before that haha!
have you tried "fixing" the breaks on her car? jokes aside, GET THE FUCK OUT!!! just up and break it off with her. tell her it just isn't going to work because she cant understand the life you live and the goals you set for yourself. attain those fucking goals you knuckle head. i will crown you king of the dipshits if you let this chick fuck that up for you. your happiness and the fact that you wont get any for the rest of your life if you don't attain your goals should pretty much end any argument as to the how of breaking up and should get your ass in gear to just do it....wheres that shia laboof motivational speech when you need it?
See you might be smarter than you think. By miss spelling brakes wrong you have only told him to fix the stuff that is broken. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
i will be sure to let my spell check know that otroo the grammar nazi is on the case. speaking if grammar you might check your own. i am pretty sure you are missing a word to make a complete sentence and perhaps a comma to smooth it out for reading. my spell check says you didn't do any better then i did lol!
Sounds scary OP. I was asked when she was going to be asked to be married. Talk about pressure. Had to get out. I lucked out because she gave me an ultimatum about weed. It didn't take more than 1 second to answer
I didn't say anything about grammar I brought up spelling you might need to take a reading comprehension class so you can follow along in conversation lol. Just fucking with you or am I? Take the class and then you will be able to. Lol I am so high lol. Have a good one blade. Lmao Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
I think it was a Freudian slip and what he means is fix his self and get out of that bad relationship!
Seriously? come on the guy is heading down a dark road, maybe he needs to leave her alone for awhile get his head together do what he really needs to do to have the kind of life he wants and then after that if he still loves her then look back into getting together. But someone who does not want to help you succeed in life is not the kind of person one should marry. just saying!