My three best friends and I smoke together everyday. At first, I was the only one smoking and they would come out occasionally. Then they all started to smoke more, and I said I could no longer smoke them out everyday. No conflict at all, two of them bought their own stash and matched with me when we smoked. The third, who has some money issues decided to stop smoking. I thought this would be the end of it but because we smoke so often the third friend with money problems keeps smoking with us. He never pays for anything and smokes just as much if not more than my friends and I who put up weed. Whenever I bring it up my two friends with weed say it isn't a big deal and the third says he's going to quit, which never happens. On top of this, the two friends who buy weed are only buying a 1/4 (very occasionally) if not less. They inevitably run out of weed and ask for me to put up, the entire time bitching about how they just smoked me out. Because they buy their weed together they treat smoking them out as just smoking out one of them. I could put up with all this shit as I do have a job and I enjoy smoking with them, if not for the fact they have stolen from me in the past. It has happened multiple times. For example, I was in the bathroom taking a shower and had my weed in my bag in their room. I was gone for maybe five minutes and I came back and they had just rolled a kingsize joint for us to smoke with my weed, and a much smaller amount of theirs that was leftover. They didn't understand why I was upset that they had taken my weed without me their. Then just last night, I had taken an edible and smoked with some other friends. When I met up with these three goons later, I passed out in a chair for an hour. When I woke up, I saw them rolling up, yes again, a kingsize joint. I was still really high and rather than get angry I took my stuff and went back to my room. I woke up this morning and walked over to talk to them. Only one of the friends was there and told me they had gone out three times when I was asleep to smoke. He then claimed that they had smoked only there weed. I had smoked with them earlier in the day and they had maybe half a nug left, in no way enough to roll three joints. On top of that my grinder was full of bud that I had planned to roll up and is now gone. To illustrate my point, in the last two weeks I have picked up an Oz, my two friends have picked up a 30 sac, and the last friend has given me two beers. Two fucking beers. The guy with no bud ever is always the one suggesting we go smoke, or if I am done smoking will bitch and moan until someone loads up another bowl. Often times too, he will smoke with us most of the day, go out to his other friends houses or parties and then come back over, smoke more of my weed and crash with us. If I bring it up he laughs it off, gets angry, and tells me about all the money shit going on for him. I have heard it too many times. This guy even one time put up fifty bucks for an oz. I wanted to split it up but he says it didn't matter and this was sort of paying me back. All was well until the O was almost gone and he came over asking if there was any bud left. I said there was a little and precedes to open up the jar, take close to half of what was left and then went over to another group of friends apartment to smoke them out because they were tire of smoking him out. I was in shock. To pay back someone for smoking him out he took weed that I paid almost entirely for. What the fuck. On top of this neither of the other two friends saw anything wrong with this. I like hanging out with my friends a lot, don't get me wrong. But I am tired of addressing them calmly about this only to get brushed off. At this point though, I really am considering just cutting them off. This has been going on too long. Any advice?
Some more info, I am a freshmen in college and will be living with these three guys next year, so I can't just stop being friends with them. We do kick it when we don't smoke but I enjoy smoking, and when I want to smoke they seem to think I want to smoke with them. It's hard to say, no I am going to smoke with people who can match me or on my own without sounding like a dick. I have been smoking for four years and they all started smoking regularly this year.
Tell them to get a job, they are just to lazy to spend their free time earning money. I was in your position once and when my friends wanted to smoke I simply didn't have any bud. Then they would ask if I had money to buy and I would say I couldn't access my money. Then they would ask if my guy would spot us a few g's. That's when I straight up told them, "I have a job to pay for things I need/want to do. Not for you guys stuff." Took quite some time but they eventually got the hint. Some people cant take a hint, like the one guy I knew who after this got a job but refused to work more then one shift a week(just enough to cover his phone bill.) At which point I told him to fuck off, when he got really pissed because he knew I just picked up and wouldn't smoke him out. I tried explaining to him that a 1/4 oz needs to last me 2 weeks and he still expected me to smoke him out daily...lol fucking dumbass. Edit: Well if you cant ditch your friends get them a job application for mcdonalds. Make them use their discount for some munchies at least.
Just tell them you're only going to match them from now on. Say you have to start saving money and that you can't just keep buying weed week after week because it is expensive. Make sure to keep your weed in a secure place from now on, and I guess with the bum in the group, you'll just have to deal. But if he lives with you next year, you let him know he should plan to get a job because you can't spot him so much. This sounds reasonable to me at least. Good luck.
Unless this college is located on a commune, you have to establish some boundaries. Buy a safe, lockbox, or equivalent. They even make small portable safes, like this one: http://www.masterlock.com/personal-use/product/5900D .
I'd like to be your friend OP. You sound like a really nice guy and I wouldn't steal from you. Lets match an oz Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
This. Dont let them live with you in college too and keep dragging you down for now years to come. Im like you, and ive had one or two friends like you. Its the greatest. Cut everuone else off and when you get a good friend who doesnt use you for your shit value him or her.
I'd definitely cut them off. Get a lockbox for your stash.They're not very expensive, especially if you're buying Oz's. Here's one for under $50 from Amazon: Shop around, they've got a lot of choices. They're going to react badly, but just tell them that you can barely afford to smoke yourself let alone pay for them.
two people paying and all they can get is a 1/4? smh sounds like either they're extremely broke or they pay too much for a 1/4.
Just tell them you can't afford to keep buying weed for all of them(pretty much what your doing). Tell them you really need to save up your money to afford college expenses so if they want to smoke your weed with you then they have to be matching with you. Try explaining to your friend that never buys his own weed that you simply can't keep giving him weed, and it's a breach of trust to take weed from you and brush you off. Some of the stuff they do sounds totally disrespectful, just try to play it cool while being stern about your budget.
Stop smoking with them, plain and simple. You gotta watch out for assholes who use up your weed. They can't be mad from you not sharing, you paid for it! I had some dicks friends who would do this, HAD.
The heck with these dudes. The lockbox is a good idea. They are stealing from you plain and simple Tell them to be equal partners and match you joint for joint. The same size joints, not a kingsize one from you and a little one from them. I would seriously be pissed at someone who was in my bag without me there. Why did you let that guy have half of your stash? Dude, you got to get serious with these freeloaders or stop complaining and let them continue to rip you off. I'd hide my lockbox really well, too. Good luck, mate
I left lousy friends behind 30 years ago. Those that have not died because of hard drug effects are either living with their parents or in low rent housing and spending their time bitching about how "others" have it so easy. This after a lifetime of being lazy as fuck and not sacrificing anything for a better position. And these were very well-abled people that maintained the lazy teenage pot smoker life through adulthood. Fucking shame it is.
I've so been there There are some friends I never minded smoking out all the time, usually ones that just started, because eventually, when they started upping their usage they'd contribute Then, there were others, who were similar to these guys. You don't wanna make a big deal out of it because you seem like a douche, and petty and all that, but really its not petty at all. Money is a form of energy and essentially they are stealing your energy
op grow some balls are tell them to stop stealing and to smoke their own shit. I am always straight up with my best friends and it has never let me down. if you were really friends this wouldn't be a big deal and u guys could just talk about it.
lol lockbox just get a lock and put your entire stash and whatever else you don't want them using (piece/grinder) in a suitcase and lock it up this has been my 'stash suitcase' for quite awhile plus if you need to 'bug-out' for some reason, just grab the suitcase and go
A lot of the time it's just that most people are assholes and don't have any consideration for anyone other than themselves. Also, you could be in high school or college and your maturity is just much higher than your friends there, so you care about how other people perceive you and they don't. I have a friend who always stood me up, cancelled plans, and ignored calls unless he wanted to smoke, and he would always ask me to smoke him up. In high school we used to smoke all the time, each throwing in, but eventually he would go long periods of time blowing me off, ignoring my calls, and cancelling plans unless I mentioned I had weed. I always called him out on it once I noticed the trend. It got to the point of ridiculousness when he texted me one night asking if I wanted to come over and smoke. I said sure. Then he said that he didn't have bud and asked if I did. I said no... and I told him if he wanted to drive and put in 10 dollars, I would put in 10 dollars myself and take him to my bud handler's place. He said "I have no gas and no cash on me :/". Then, just to test him I said "I can probably just cover the whole G and drive, it's not too far. But wait, we should just hit up Alex (our friend), we can smoke and chill with him ". And he said "I already tried and he doesn't have any, but yes that sounds like a great idea! We can't smoke AT my house though, we'd have to smoke in your car." I called him out right then and there. "Yeah... so you hit up your other friend to smoke weed, and once he wasn't available, you use me as your "Back-up" and hit me up after ignoring my calls and cancelling our plans for 2 months... inviting me to smoke and chill, but then asking me to pay for the weed, provide the hookup, provide the ride, use my time driving, risking getting caught, and providing a place to smoke which could incriminate me... and you are contributing nothing, and you are using me just because you're fiending to get high. Fuck you."