Ok sorry in advance for sounding like such a pussy with my gay ass story, I'm usually not like this... Seems like all the girls I've had sex with before i didn't even have to try for, I had to be drunk to hook up with them, and I had literally no attraction to them. This is different. I'm 18 by the way, she is slightly younger, and she has a boyfriend My friends and I, about 5 of us were at my house last week and we all "fell asleep" on this big couch I have. It was like 3 guys and three girls, and we are all just kind of friends, but one girl was there that I had only hung out with one time before and she really didn't know me. I knew she was coming and thought she was cute and joked with my friends how I wanted her or whatever but I wasn't really serious and pretty sure it wouldn't happen anyway. She got there and I just kind of went into that natural mode of trying to be "me", if you know what I mean... It seemed like she was flirting with my friend and then she basically ignored him. I was talking to her and my other friends all at once. I Realized that I really liked talking to her, not just her looks. Her personality was as big if not bigger of a turn on. Most of my friends passed out except 2 and her. I guess maybe she knew I liked her, but I was being extremely subtle and mostly just being cool and friendly to all my friends like as a normal friend lol. We started looking at some pictures on her phone or something and I was laying next to her on this couch, and she kinda started to push up against me and put her legs on top of me. My rational side was thinking "this is just a coincidence, she's just cold this isn't happening". But she kept moving and coming back to touching me. Eventually i realized that this is happening after she got up and came back and kept doing this. I started to kind of cuddle with her and i was getting kind of turned on lol. I know how gay this sounds trust me I'm not usually like this. One of my friends kicked her in their sleep and I was like "I don't see his foot" and she grabbed my hand to show me hahaha but then instead she put my hand on her stomach and waist and I started to touch her. This was happening for like 10 minutes and I just couldn't take it anymore and I grabbed her butt and pulled her on top of me and now it was extremely obvious what was happening. She grabbed my hand and put her other hand on my back to pull me closer and I put my hand on her face and tried to initiate and kiss her but she just kind of didn't. Her face was like pressed up against the bottom of mine but she didn't want to it seemed like. Anyway we basically fell asleep like this. The next day she left in the morning and I woke up and she followed me on twitter. I had like crazy anxiety/excitement about what she thought and if it would happen again and I could take it further until A few days later I was snap chatting our friend who was there and she was like "did you do anything with her" and I lied and said no. She sent me video of this girl like humping a wall lol and like 2 more of basically the same thing. And then she randomly sent me one later saying "she would have done stuff if she didn't have a boyfriend" I know like basically all of you are going to tell me "don't fuck with it she has a boyfriend that's against the rules" but to be completely honest I don't give a fuck When you like someone you like someone and I would do whatever it takes to be with her. I don't want to hear "your young you dont even kno what love is" or "you're overthinking this" or something go that effect. I know what I feel like. If you actually took the time to read this I really appreciate it thank you! Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
And one more thing, I can't get her off my mind. I can forget for a little but I always end up thinking and daydreaming. I've never had a girlfriend before, just some stupid hook ups. I haven't felt this way since a stupid crush in middle school that I had no chance with Its like all I want. I know how immature it all sounds. Like I'm addicted tho I was totally sober and it was like a crazy drug. And I've done some drugs. The rush felt like MDMA or LSD. Maybe I'm just a weirdo but it was amazing the feeling of someone who makes your heart skip beats I think I should take it really slow and cautious and very subtle because I don't want to give off any kind of creepy vibe. Any advice with this is so greatly appreciated. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Exactly what would be considered gay about getting turned on by a cute girl rubbing against you? Where I come from, this is what we call the exact opposite of gay (unless your a chick of course). Seriously though dude, if this chick has a boyfriend, yet she was "flirting" with you or whatever, then think, is this the kind of girl you want your first relationship to be with?
This is exactly what I didn't want to hear. I don't want negative advice I want positive advice. You don't think I thought about that? I did and tbh it's sad but most girls and guys are like this nowadays. Sad but true once again like I said... I know what I want and am not asking for my mind to be changed Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Just cause she's with the guy don't mean she is planning on staying with him forever. If she's is open to you, then maybe y'all are meant to be. Who knows??? Nut I wouldn't steal her from the other guy try not to fuck their shit up. Let things be. It's kind of a mans code that you don't steal another guys girlfriend. But hey maybe you are doing the dude a favor???!lol But just be there as a friend and if its real, it will happen.
I didn't go against what you said, I didn't tell you not to fuck with some other guys girl, I just brought it to your attention that because it will be your first relationship you've ever been in, maybe it should be with someone with the same feelings and commitment as you will. If you have serious feelings for her, hook up, date for a week or whatever and she leaves you for some other guy, your view on relationships will be fucked from the start. My first real relationship as with the woman who is now my wife. I can't imagine it any other way. I'm sorry I gave you my personal view, you seem pretty upset by it so I figure it must warrant an apology.
Actually here, I'll tell you why I'm pushing this opinion. When I was in high school, there was this girl that I really, really liked but she had a boyfriend. We used to sit together, hang out, talk, so I figured hell I'll ask her out. She said yes. Two days later, she got back with her boyfriend. It took my 3 years to even want to pursue a relationship after that, because hey, what if all women are like that? Do what ya want man, if you wanna chase after her, just let her know how you feel, she obviously had feelings or wants to hook up judging by how she was acting. I'm not telling you what to do, or trying to be an ass, but I'm speaking from experience. I still have trust issues 10 years later.
He gave a lot of solid advice man, I'd listen up. Right now you are in the lusty nothing can touch me mood, but if you get with her and she homie hops you like shed be doing her current guy, you are going to have a lot of resentment towards woman/relationships for a long time. That being said, im not telling you to change the way you feel about her, and the fact that she didnt kiss you or hook up with you that night is a good thing, she recognized what she was doing. What I would recommend to you is to stay in touch with this girl, be her friend and let her relationship play out with her current boy. If she likes you the same way, it wont last very long anyway. I know it sucks but the time and space will really let the initial lust fade and youll be able to decide if you really like her, and it also gives her the opportunity to ens her relationship on good terms and show that she isnt a homie hopper.
She sounds like she has no respect for boundaries and you dont either. Dont be surprised if you get with her and she jumps on the first guy that looks at her twice. Easy girls are that way. Id be careful if she's underage. I know two people who are sixteen. The girl talked, the boy went to jail with a sex charge in california. Loose lips sink ships. ~ poke
Ok man let me be real with you for a minute, you do not love this girl, what you feel is lust and your body (No homo) is programmed to fuck with your brain just so you can feel some type of way and fulfill that lust. and it is not your fault bro. Now on to the problem at hand, if you know this chick boyfriend and your really cool with him I would advice you not to do anything with her. But if you do not know her boyfriend or your not cool with him, I say go for it and hit it if she lets you, just be respectful and don't go around embarrassing yourself being needy. keep your cool and if she is trying to fuck why not? But whatever you decide to do, do not fall in love with this girl bro, she is not worth it, if she has a man and she still goes around like this trying to hop on other guys then you know she isn't wifey material. if she breaks up with her boyfriend for you there is no guarantee that she wouldn't break up with your ass 2 weeks later down the road for another sucker. So in my conclusion, fuck her if you can, but don't fall in love with her. Last thing you want is for her to break up with your ass after laying eyes on me (True story, it happened before) And always remember, "You cant wife a hoe"