Don't just have sex with anyone. Find someone that you really like. and that you can TRUST You're letting them stick their penis into your vagina, afterall. Don't want too risk HPV, herpes, or other nasty shit... seriously, people always forget about this type of shit and tried to get laid because of peer pressure, social stigma, and plain horniness. Don't let that block your rational.
My mother used to call it that, haha . Do guys find it weird? I mean, if you were 20 and you met me, would it be a turn off? A lot of my female companions say it's not that big a deal, but i don't know if it was the catholic school or me just wanting to find someone whose willing to take it on my time. I've had guys that knew, seemed really nice and then say that 3 days was too long a wait.. It made me think that i was being a prude or something... thanks though. That's the thing, i'm ready to move on to the next phase, i just don't want to get hurt or regret it in the process. I hope that doesn't sound silly. Also, the 'Baby Maker 2000' wont be making babies with me anytime soon! It's weird, i know girls who are having sex, but still know less about protection and stuff than me. This made me laugh, 'tingly in your nethers' . Cheers. Yep i am . It seems so, but when you socialise with 19-25 year olds, it doesn't feel too young. I'll try not to force it, thanks for the advice pal.
3 days is too long to wait if the girl you're dating is sexually active. If she's a virgin then sex is a bigger deal and a longer wait is understandable. Maybe you talk to guys longer on the phone to see where their head is at and to tell them your situation over time. Guys are going to think you're a tease if you don't tell them your situation before the 3rd date.
Just do what makes you happy. It doesn't matter if you are a virgin or if you have had sex with tons of people; what matters is that you are content with how you are living your life. If you wanna get laid then get laid, or if you don't then just wait until you are ready and never give into peer pressure over this kind of stuff.
I'm talking 3rd day, not date. Of course i would tell them before it got that far, no point in stringing someone along.
When men want a fuck they Dont want a virgin it's too much work. But gf or wifey quality that would be great there aren't many virgins in our generation keep ur purity, that's attractive
Ladies, honestly now, hands up, how many of you actually ENJOYED you first time?? Common now, seriously, no fibs. Now that we're women and know what a good D is, can you HONESTLY say your first time was good?? No. Or if there is a woman on here that had a good time, then fuck you. Every woman I have ever known, myself included, had a miserable fucking first time. It hurts. It's akward. Your too worried about it being your first time that you focus on every little thing except for getting "into" it. Your worried you won't turn him on, or your doing something wrong, or wondering why your not having an orgasm like your supposed to. Ec cetera. I only throw this out there, because whether you pick this friend of yours to "deflower" you or some guy you've been dating for awhile, either way it's not that special light-shining-down-from-the-heavens bullshit you might be expecting. It's very up-close, animalistic, and sweaty. When your ready is up to you my dear, but please don't make it into this great big thing. Its like.....the 3rd or 4th time that you go hey....wait a second...okay, I think I figured this out, FUCK YEAH!!! Good luck, and remember, don't stick it in your mouth after its been in your bum, thats not very lady like.
I don't see the problem here, if you really feels embarrassed about it then no one is going to know that you're a virgin unless you tell them you are. If it was a guy I would quickly yell at him to lose that shit, and I would most likely tease him about it often. But if it a girl I would advice her every single day to treasure it, don't let go of it this easy, but if you're not planning on getting on any serious relation anytime soon might aswell let it go. Btw my future wife is a virgin.
You're not that old, there are a lot of virgins at your age. Your first time should be with someone you care about. It sounds like that's what you want, you're just tired of feeling weird about it and being in the dark on what sex is like. Sex isn't that big of a deal but imho amazing sex comes from connection and compatibility. When sex is something you approach as an experience not just an act, it never gets boring and it's rarely disappointing. Having sex for the first time isn't all it's cracked up to be but making a connection with someone and having a sexual relationship for an extended period of time will actually allow you to start having real sex instead of just intercourse. Losing your virginity isn't the same thing as having sex with someone. This is almost word for word a quote from Brave New World. That's called peer pressure.
I lost mine at 19 to my soon to be girlfriend. I think it was the 3rd time we seen each other. And I'm pretty sure that she knew I was. I thought it was a big deal. I got shit from everyone for it and it was just annoying. And I work in a blue collar trade where word spreads quick so if that somehow slipped out I would never hear the end of it. So I was glad I finally got over that. But that actual act, it's weird at first, you're just kinda like yea, I'm having sex right now. But you'll get used to it and it'll be better and more fun as you go along. As to who you lose it to, as most other people have said, make sure it's somebody you're comfortable with. And since you're a girl, whenever you're ready, I'm sure there's a few guys who are too.
There are 3 guys even now, (1 in particular) who would probably be really up for it if i said yes. All 3 of those guys would be up for it, Trust me I'm a guy.
Listen to your inner guidance, not what others who might be degenerates say Surprisingly, I saw a number of posts here offering sound advice: wait Think about this, we each have an energetic aura. Having sex affects it, as we pick up the energies of the other person Be careful who you sleep with as it can have very negative consequences both mentally and physically Voice of experience
Haha, i've been made aware of this first time experience from mates and i doubt i'd be very much different. I don't think of it as a big enlightening experience, but there is a bit of me dreading it and wanting it over with. The other half says wait. I had tea with old school friends (these girls hardly drank back then, quiet, no relationships) and they were telling me about all their wild sexual exploits. Just made me think i was wrong in my thinking/feelings. Also, nobody is sticking anything in my bum anytime soon! Thanks I learnt not to tell people a wee while ago. I lied once at a party with the girls football team and they could all tell. Ever played the drinking game Have You Ever? Congrats to you and your future wife! All the best, pal. This might sounds really naive, but i don't really understand this too much. Do you mean avoid bad guys in bed, or inexperienced ones?
Save yourself for the right man Learn to listen to your inner guidance I used to be one to get into bed ASAP. Once i stopped beating myself up for one bad relationship after another I learned to wait for like a month. What i found is typically I don't even want to hang out with them, let alone have sex
I think what this gentlemen means is that we all have "energy" that many theorize we lose during the first act of sex. I saw a documentary on these monk-teenagers that could do wicked things with their bodies and they claimed it was because they still had this energy because they haven't given it away yet. I'm sure there is more to it, but I'm pretty sure that is the jist of it. I know the feeling of "just wanting to get it over with". That is how I felt when I lost my virginity, at 17. Like you all the girls around me were talking about their sexual exploits and you sort of feel left out. Plus there is all that extra fun added pressure from the media, your pretty much groomed to be a "sexual" being, wear these clothes to look sexy, wear this makeup to look sexy, do and say these things to look sexy, its ridiculous. You know what sort of pressure men have?? Roll out of bed, throw on some axe deodorant, and bitches be lovin' you otherwise they're skanks. lol so lax! Anyway, I had decided to just "get it over with". As I recall, I remember feeling excited that it was going to be happening and I would know what everyone else was talking about, and then it quickly jumped to panic and confusion as what I had imagined was not happening, and then transformed into a blinding white hot pain sprinkled with rage. I promptly donkey-kicked the guy off of me and screamed for him to get out of my room and leave. He was absolutely terrified, scrambling to put his pants on while full of blood, and I laid there curled up in a ball for a good half hour crying before I could get myself up and have a shower. And that was *my* wonderful lost virginity experience, all because I wanted to get it over with. I often felt a bit disappointed that I had just "let it go" like that, but after hearing about other's experiences, I realised that it is just sex and chances are it was going to go down that way anyway. It can be good, it can be bad, it can be weird, it can be fun, it can be scary, it can be exciting. Nobody is guaranteed a wonderful first time, and even if you love the guy and feel "ready" it is still just a physical act. And I'll tell you this, as a woman, you are going to have a couple of "Oh shit why did I sleep with that guy I really wish I hadn't...!" moments in your life that will probably extend beyond losing your virginity, I know I do. If I were to sit here and really think about all the sexual moments I wish hadn't happened now, it would add up to a surprising amount. You also go through a period after you lose your virginity where you start experimenting to see what you like and enjoy your newfound sexuality, and I'm pretty sure that is where all that "shit why did I sleep with him??" experiences come from. That is also how you discover what you like, and don't like, sexually. That is my experience though, not saying that is what yours should be like, just a different perspective. You know when you are ready, not your friends, don't let them pressure you into anything. But also, don't lock your sexuality away in a little box either. If your really curious about that part of yourself, maybe visit a certain store and purchase some items to experiment a bit? It may give you a sense of confidence and knowledge that will give you strength to say "Ya, I'm a virgin, so what? I know what I like sexually, and so far none of you fit the bill! Like I'm going to give it away to some fumbling jerk off!" Also, you say you may never stick it in your bum, but you'll be surprised what your curious about later on. Some women really enjoy it. I tried, because yaknow, they made it seem so awesome, but it wasn't for me. You could be one of those lucky ones for you know....if you are, just sayin', don't stick it in your mouth afterwards lol
My sister ended up losing her virginity twice. Sort of. She dated this dbag in HS who took it the first time. Everything was ok until he cheater on her. She was all torn up and was talking about regretting sleeping with him. Normal reaction stuff. But then she came up with plan B. She would sleep with guys, but only with a condom until she was married. Her husband was the first, and so far as I know only, guy to ever come in her. It worked for her. She said it gave them both something to look forward to on their wedding night.