How can I talk to girls in my classes?

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by SauceDaddy, Jan 19, 2015.

  1. Sup guys
     
    Lame ass question here
     
    I'm going back to college in a couple days, and I know there will inevitably be some attractive girls that I would like to talk to.
     
    I just came out of a "relationship" (long story, it's fucked up, I'm hurt bad) but I really want to date again.
     
    I just don't know how to approach a girl. It's like....Hey....I saw you and you look hot, so now maybe if you think the same we can get to know each other and see if we're compatible?
     
    Can't exactly just say that.... Any ideas would help.
     
    I know I need to just suck it up and go try to say something depending on the situation, but I just always freeze up. I don't know how to start. Hey, my name is _____? Hey what's your name? I just dont know! lol
     

     
  2. Don't talk to them as "girls"......................
     
  3. its all based on how good you look AND how strong you are.   Youre not gonna fool anyone into thinking you arent a weak pussy (if you are)
     
    looks you cant control...  But if youre not in shape.. i say dont bother bc their instincts know better
     
  4. Walk up and pull your dick out.
     
  5. I'm in shape, I'm decent looking. There's no reason I shouldn't be able to do this.
     
    And yeah, I guess I should grow up a little, I am 21. I guess I need to grow up more. I feel sometimes like because I don't know EXACTLY where I'm going in life and I still live at home with mom and dad and my money isn't right that I can't get a girlfriend haha.
     
  6. Confidence is key.

    Can't tell you how many times I left with a dime piece from the bar solely because I knew I would.

    Don't fumble your words, don't slouch. Act like you know what you're doing and they'll probably think that too.

    There's nothing wrong with asking another human being if they want to get a drink, or coffee. I think that's where a lot of people get nervous.

    Rejection sucks but fuck it.. onto the next. You're bound to find someone. It's a numbers game.
     
  7. Yeah that's the crazy thing is even though I know it's just a number game I can never figure out what to ask.
     
     
    I guess it's just common sense if this guy is coming up to me and asking me my name/if I want to get coffee somewhere he must think I'm attractive bla bla....
     
  8. #8 WherezMyLighter, Jan 19, 2015
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    Haha uhh not quite. I'm definitely not in shape and my friends ask me all the time how I pull the girls I have. The key is don't be a creep, take hints, and make them laugh.

    The only in I've found is to say some slick shit walking past someone about the class, subliminally trying to spark a convo by making them laugh/intriguing them. You can go to a tutor or a teacher or anyone else for "homework help" so don't try anything basic like that, it'll be seen thru. That or if they smoke you might be able to strike something up.

    Or...party with them.

    Stand out, say something they don't hear every dude regurgitate over and over. Fuck this name/life bullshit openers. You have to be unique and instantly convey why you are worth more of a chance than every carbon copy dude out there.

    Factual words of wisdom.
     
  9. Talk to a chick the way you'd talk to ur homies :) I mean, the best relationships are based off of friendship anyway.
    Honestly just start simple, say whats on your mind. Was it cold outside that day? do you like her bag maybe?
    do you hate math? or love writing, etc.
     
    Bring it up, like "ohh sweet bag.." or "damn its cold outside today huh"
     
    Its pretty simple if you just think of um as any other friend you have.
    I know it can be a bit intimidating at first but once you open up you'll get used to it.
    Just always hold your head up an be like "I'm the shit, an deserve to meet someone great today" :p
     
  10. Don't jack off for like two weeks. Everything will fall into place from your sleep pattern to your "swag"


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  11. I think a simple "hi I'm "saucedaddy" with a smile and perhaps a handshake is a good way to start. If she doesn't give you her name back or seems put off just excuse yourself politely... say something like "I just wanted to introduce myself, have a nice day"

    If you get a name or she's friendly that's good that means she's willing to give you a few more minutes to charm her. At this point I would get to the basics, major, year, etc then interests. This is where I would find a way to work weed into the conversation. I went to school in California so it was easy to be like "so do you smoke weed we should smoke together sometime". It's a high risk opening but with even higher rewards (pun intended).

    Good luck bro
     
  12.  
    This is a highly likely solution and problem on my part. I beat it WAY too much. I will try.
    I don't even hardly have friends or talk to them :p I get your point though
     
    Great answer.
     
     
    Great answers everyone, thanks. I'm determined to not wuss out this semester!
     
  13. It is pretty simple
    You treat them as they don't just have a vagina.
     
  14. #14 SauceDaddy, Jan 19, 2015
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    I think I'll be fixed if I stop fapping lollolol
     
    It's just funny because the type of girl I like is like a good girl. Doesn't ever really drink, doesn't smoke much if at all..
     
    And then here I am.......weed growing pot smoking "criminal" lol
     
  15.  
    wisdom
     
  16. i keep calling them girls, guess that shows where my mind is.
     
     
    I dont know how to "grow up" lol
     
  17. It's okay, I kinda already figured you were into dudes
     
  18. ha - ha - ha good one lol.
     
     
    I'm talking to some girls on tinder...one seems cool. We have the same major and feel the same way about it
     
  19. Most girls already know where your minds at. What you gotta do is let them know that youre interested but that its not what is currently on your mind. So you need to come off as having more dimension to you then just wanting sex, which us guys often sometimes get to the point where that is literally the beginning-middle-and end game. Lol. It can happen.

    So talk to them like you would your buddies. Not just any buddy, your best friend. Meaning that if you really like her you should show a willingness to expose your own insecurities about yourself and be as honest about yourself to her as you would a close friend. You instantly set yourself apart from most men she talks to by being self aware. Being self aware means you can be aware of her. Most relationships end, some of mine included, because two people either dont pay enough attention to or simply do not care about, the other persons deepest most feelings.

    Now. I'm saying all this because you come off as if you want more than some one night stands. You seem to be interested in actually finding a girl who can also be a good friend and companion and lover, etc. Find her, show interest in her without smothering her. If shes not willing to open up to you (women can have problems trusting men, good reasons why) then open up to her a little. Tell her something embarrassing about yourself. Dare a girl to be judgmental and you immediately find out if shes actually what youre looking for.
     
  20. Great advice.
     
    I'm talking to one girl on tinder now, and we were talking about our major and not knowing if we made the right choice.
     
     
    It's just tough because the last relationship I was in was a complicated one that I should have never been in, but either way I really opened up and trusted, and it REALLY backfired....so it's a little hard.
     
    Plus I'm just really coming out of that so I'm still upset and feel somewhat guilty about wanting to find another girl when I still have feelings for the last.
     
    But I know I'm not the only one and hopefully I can meet someone who isn't a mistake.
     

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