Soo, I've been friends with this guy for awhile now. A few years, but hes with someone he barely ever sees because hes well, in the army. This guy doesn't smoke which is probably the only thing that kinda sucks about him lol but hes sweet, kind, caring, funny and smart. I haven't really felt like this about anyone in a long time..the problem is hes been in a relationship for as long as I've known him. Lately though, I feel like hes been kind of different towards me, like Idk..seeing me differently? (in a relationship type of way) but I also know he really cares about who hes with as well. Now I know I've kind of been feeling differently for a little while now, but I'm so used to us talking all day everyday from morning to night. Hes the only one I even talk to like this but hes going away again for a month and when he told me it bummed me out. I tried to hit him up over text but he hasn't responded..I know hes been in training for some newer positions or whatever you wanna call them but its really depressed me that we won't speak for awhile now. And I don't even know what to do about this, I feel bad for feeling more ya know? but I can't help it. I'm scared I won't feel like this about another guy, its already taken so long and now thats it happened, finally! (again) it just bums me out that it doesn't even matter. Opinions? advice? Thaaannks
You're in a tough position. Two things you need to consider here. 1. If he felt the same way about you don't you think there would be a relationship by now? You've been friends for years. 2. Are you sure what you're feeling isn't out of desperation rather than actually being "in love" with him? There is another consideration that I hesitate to bring up because I might be completely off here so I'll keep it to myself. He is in a relationship and you said he really cares about his girlfriend. If you love and respect him then you need to leave it alone or risk losing his friendship. This could get ugly. Your feelings will start being contaminated with jealousy and jealousy makes you do things you've never considered before. Like sabotaging a relationship. I don't think he would appreciate you for that. An option would be to sit him down the next time you see him and have a completely honest and frank conversation. Tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same way. But you have to consider the consequences. He may distance himself so it doesn't create issues in his current relationship. Another option is to keep silent and start dating. Kiss some frogs. Who knows, maybe your prince is sitting on some lily pad somewhere waiting for you.
aww haha thanks, this was a really sweet and considerate reply. I appreciate that..glad you weren't to rough on me lol. But I gota say, I do agree with a lot of what you said. I wouldn't say my feelings our out of desperation, I'm kind of a picky person when it comes to personality, an unless I had a strong mental connection with someone I wouldn't even consider them so I know my feelings are real. They're also scary and def need to be controlled better as I tend to act on my emotions but I also know that I respect his relationship and would never want anyone to come between mine (if I were in one) as well, because It would make me question my friendship with that person, and I don't want to lose him. Thanks again for the advice, its really helping me to think things through. I just wish that I felt differently now, which is so hard to control. It sucks..
lol in pictures, so I guess it would be no. He brings up something that reminds him of his (partner) every now an then but he hasn't really told me too much. I kinda of wish he told me more though, because maybe it would push me away more ya know? :/
Have you ever considered the fact that he might be gay and using her as a beard? That was the other thing I was hesitating to bring up but it's all starting to look familiar.
lol I didn't wanna put his stuff out there..soo I said partner for a reason. Hes actually bisexual, an his girlfriend is his boyfriend..but I don't care that hes bi, I just don't feel right telling strangers that ya know but its no biggy to me. Not gonna lie, at first it kinda freaked me out haha but I have a lot of bi girlfriends soo its the same for guys ya know. But hes super faithful and caring, an considerate of others. Hes a lot more then his sexual orientation an thats what really drew me to him from the beginning :/
Wow. This got complicated real fast. I figured from the beginning it was something like this. I'm sorry. I've had experience with bisexual relationships. It's not fun. Gay men in a bisexual relationship are at a disadvantage. It's a very insecure feeling knowing that some day you may lose your partner to a woman. Maybe it's best that you don't say anything. It could cause problems in their relationship.
Make sure to be tested and have fun . I am Thursday, it is allways good to be safe. I understand as well, I am bi I guess. I prefer very feminine men but mostly transgender. I think it is very adorable you both are talking. Just don't rock the boat too much and cause relationship problems. Make sure he ends it first then get together. You both will be a lot happier together this way.
haha Carne idk but u made me lol, *sigh* yeaa..it is pretty friggin complicated in general :/ I've never experienced anything in regards to a bi relationship but Idk, I didn't really think of it any diff then any other relationship I guess. Though it does kinda make me wonder how things would be, if they really would be just the same..Idk cause I haven't been through it. Edit: yeaa carne, Idk I don't want to hurt his bf at all or make him feel insecure. I know what it is to feel that way myself and would never want anyone to feel the same :/ And ganja yeaa his bf is pretty feminem but from my understanding he is equally attracted to men & women an mostly pursues relationships from a mental aspect which I actually think is super dope an beautiful in a way. I'm not really 100% sure how he feels about his boyfriend but I def won't pursue anything unless I truly feel like he wants to move on/is ready because his bf deserves as much respect as anyone else in regards to mine an his friendship. I feel like before I've tried to justify why its ok to pursue him but nothing has made me feel sure of that soo I try my best to avoid it. The longer hes in my life though the more I feel myself going further into something that will probably only do more damage then good. I just don't even know what to do anymore, I'm still trying to figure it out. I don't want to hurt anyone, but I'm scared of getting hurt to. At the same time, I don't wanna lose this friendship.
Only because I was a year ago completely oblivious to twomen. I call them women now like they are. So maybe he is with a trans?.... carne is very knowledgeable about these things more. I'm young and having fun.
haha I gocha an no hes not trans, his bf is just a feminem, gay man. His bf is cute n seems like a sweetheart from what Ive heard.
ah I agree with carne then definitely. He may be a little confused but keep trying. You sound like a very kind women.
awww spanks lol I try an yeaa idk, who knows what will happen in the future? guess ill just have to wait and see..
My wife and I were friends for 14 years even when i was married to my X we still talked in unfortunatly it took my brothers death to put life in perspective for me. I realized life it to short to settle I got divorced had some fun for a while but about a year later I was visiting the state she lived in and I came clean with my now wife , I told her I had been in love with her since the moment I saw her (still remember what she was wearing) turns out she felt the same. We wasted 14 years with other people just because we were to scared to cross that line. My advice risk is always better than never knowing!
Whoa..thanks so much for sharing this with me! I'm super grateful! you have no friggin idea. This legit left me in awe.. I'm so glad you guys are together now.. I wish you both so much happiness an I'm sure you've already found it in each other. Thanks for this snackstick :}
I'm in a similar situation kind of. Me and my old best friend from when we were kids met up to hang out. We had a few beers until next thing I know he's giving me head and I'm sitting there in shock. He gave such good head I stopped caring and just surrendered and let him go. Then when he knows I'm getting close to coming he stops stand up without saying anything sit on my and aims my wang right on his butt and sits on the whole thing and rides it up and down until I couldn't help but let the load out. Afterwords I felt completely seduced and confused lmao Sent from my SM-S920L using Grasscity Forum mobile app