So I just got accepted to the university of San Francisco. (I live in LA) I have a 16 month old boy (1 year 4 months) And i currently live with my gfs family and we have our own space to live but its STILL with her family. I work a part time job. Getting decently paid plus tips.... Im going to have to decide/find a way to either bring my boy up to San Fran with me. (They offer family housing)....but that means its all going to be more expensive Or to leave him/her behind while I finish my schooling/start my career Can my fellow blades give me some input....In the end i know the decisions going to be up to me but let me get some advice GC Sent from my SM-G900P using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Your talking about loans and shit right, money you pay back later. I dont look down on you for having a child when you werent prepared like some cunts do, but you made your bed.
I really wish people would be more careful, there is numerous birth control devices to prevent pregnancy, bringing a child into the world when you yourself are not financially ready or mentally (not saying you personally) is pretty unfair on the kid. I see a lot of people who use children as a means to trap/save a ruined relationship only for that to fail and the kid to be punished.. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
Wish some people like 2 of the posters above would stop giving their judgement lol. I sure you've had a lot of time to think of what you were doing. And plus you havent given any details about your age, we cant assume... About the situation...its a hard decision. There would be some pros and cons in both options for sure.... If your kid stays in LA with the gfs family, he might have a more people around him you know. Would it be easy to commute between both cities ? In from Canada, got no clue on the distances lol If you bring him with you, it will be hard for you. But not without rewards...its a pretty important age i suppose, for the kid. I am sure you will find a solution man, even though it might be hard right now... Sent from my iPod touch using Grasscity Forum
why the hell would you come here to ask for an answer to your question, lol??? don't you have friends/family, that you can ask, people more in tune with your life? you must not be very serious about solving your problem. yeah, this is the place to get some informed input, lol... this is either phony, or this person is a loser......
Damn, all these judgmental nerds tryna bring you down. Congrats on school, that'll be great for your family in the long run. It sounds like a tough situation but if you think your gf's family provides a good environment and you could visit periodically, it sounds like a good balance. important years to miss though i guess. Good luck
yes, i think i've got it! the rain in spain falls mainly on the plane, i think i've got it, cha, cha, cha!
Thanks for the nonjudgemental blades who are actually replying with decent advice. Thats all I came here for, some advice/input. So thanks to those very few. Sent from my SM-G900P using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Irrelevant to the OP but ill reply anyway...I live with my gfs parent BECAUSE I had a child. I have a part time job because im a full time student and I have a child Another irrelevant post (I know you said not me personally) but The kids fine. He lives in a very good house and although I only work a part time job he has neved suffered. There has never been a time where I can not afford whatever it is he needs. Of course I have people more in tune with my life, that's irrelevant. I came here for that exact reason....cause GC is supposed to be a place full of nonjudgemental intellectual stoners....but instead we got people like sedatedindiVidual and growbot. ....and he called me the loser??? Shaking my damn head Sent from my SM-G900P using Grasscity Forum mobile app
I'd probably leave the kid with your gf's family if you can visit enough. It will be a more stable place for him and he'll get more social interaction. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
i noticed several posts that were waved off as "irrelevant." so unless one agrees with you, they're irrelevant, lol???
I wish some people in this thread did more than just smoke weed all day and educate themselves. I really don't give a flying fuck what delusional, isolated, day dreamer it offends; it needs to be said. The cold hard statistics that show what happens with these mistake children speak for themselves. The overwhelming majority of couples don't even stay together in the long run. The child is then brought up in two dysfunctional homes while they watch their peers thrive in a loving, supportive, and financially stable environment. What does this recipe breed? Good ol' fashioned bitter resentment. Single family children have an astronomically higher rate of crime vs. children in together and functional families. And if it's not crime, its depression, poor self worth, and insecurity issues (daddy issues anyone?). The child is more likely than not to depend on the social welfare system when older and often does not complete post secondary. I could go on, but you can figure it out for yourself. So to the day dreamers in this thread, please go educate yourself. If I'm going to be paying your childs welfare in 18 years I damn will speak up some resentment towards it.
Do you know what relevant means? Go stick your nose in a dictionary and look it up yourself....there is NOTHING to agree to. So what are u on about? Stop being a troll...Next People are fuckin idiots nowadays ...obviously shit happens. Who the fuck cares what kind of job I have now if im supporting him day in day out? The point of me going to college is to further my career which will better support him. Which is how this topic came to be I am the product of a single mother. We were never on welfare. Im raising my kid, still not on welfare.... I get what your ur reaching at but as I said "irrelevant" (to Growbot that means its doesn't relate to the topic) Sent from my SM-G900P using Grasscity Forum mobile app
People are so dense on this site...im not starting a thread to bash people. I asked for input, got some decent replies, then got the rest....i confided in my GC community for some input. Excuse me for thinking higher of the blades on GC. Idk why I was expecting something different Sent from my SM-G900P using Grasscity Forum mobile app