Whats up everyone, I'm in my early 20s and in a serious drought right now. Haven't even been on a date in like 2 years. I do get numbers in bars/clubs but haven't been able get laid, or like I said even a date with these girls. I go out once every few weeks, but will probably cut back a lot. The thing is I'm really bad at talking to girls during the day. Its just not natural for me to walk up to someone and start a conversation, and don't want to force it… But do you think if I start talking to women during the day I'd have a better chance at seeing them again?
Find a common interest to talk to them about. Women easily pick up on a guy chatting them up just to get laid, and most of them will turn off to you quickly if they sense this is what you're after. Talk about pets, weather, holidays, anything that doesn't have a basis in their looks...and look them in the eyes, not the tits.... This approach has always worked well for me.... I got to the point where it really wasn't about anything other than just a good conversation..... Good luck........
Just stop any girl at the store and start up a random conversation? Definitely have to work on this, I just get nervous and don't even know how to start talking without feeling awkward
Get yourself a wingman to help with the initial meeting awkwardness, other than that, you're on your on.... like I said earlier, good luck.............and you don't just stop a girl....you have to have some sort of common connection......
Hey, I used to be in the same boat as you. What you are talking about is called "day game" in the pickup world. Meeting girls in a low energy environment is my most favourite thing to do because you get to meet the "real" version of them. Some stuff I've noticed: -Smoke less, marijuana makes you think too much. It's only awkward because you think it's awkward. Thinking too much also filters you which is a bad thing and doesn't emit confidence. -Masturbate less. Your voice will drop to sexy and you will carry yourself with so much damn alpha-ness Check out books like "The Game" but take the information lightly. Those kind of pickup guys are all scripted with memorized stories, not the real them at all. Most of them are assholes who manipulate woman. The psychology in that book is proper, but they method they use to attract women is improper. Checkout some guys called "Simple Pickup" on YouTube. They are legit nice guys, which is very hard to find in the pickup world which is why pickup has such a negative connotation behind it. Any questions feel free to shoot me a PM
When you say get to meet the "real" version of them, that was my thought exactly, and why I think I'd have better chance at getting them to go on a date since they'll see the real version of me too. Thanks for the tips man, I'll check and try it all out.
i know that worked for many dudes before. Just curious though did u ever say that ? What was the results ? Open your mind
It's my go to ice breaker if I don't feel a personal connection with something the girl is doing or wearing. I've never been turned down. You've just got to be confident with it and if they're hesitant at first I usually say something like, "it's just a phone number, harmless. It's not like i'm asking for your social insurance number.". Not exactly that but you get the idea. If they seem unsure of giving out their number you create an absurd example of what you could be asking for, like you say, "it's only a number, i'm not asking for the keys to your house". Confidence; humour and spontaneity.
Day game for me is always about setting up shit for later. Getting numbers, sparking a connection and ending the interaction at a point where she is interested and wants more. Nothing too serious really. For all you football fans, its like playcalling on 1st down. Most teams don't throw toward the endzone on 1st down. usually they run the ball and hope to get like 4-5 yards.
There's a youtuber i can't remember the name who did pretty much the same thing and got numbers. I always just feel that this would not work with girls in my city & area they just seem to uptight all the time. I've even witnessed a girl get extremely hostile when a friend tried to talk to her i my area.Of course all girls are different but i guess i have to build up some confidence. Rejection is a bitch and that may be the problem because out of all my past interactions where i tried to get a girl's number or talk to her i almost always kind of pussy out in fear or getting rejected.
My fear of rejection has haunted me for awhile now. I avoid women too much so now I'm almost a 22 year old virgin, at least you have an idea of what to do, that's better than me.