I agree with smoke hound. Some people just lazy piece's of shit. Cut your losses OP and look for someone with at least a job lol.
Definitely. And don't worry posters, no kids. Kids don't fix relationship issues and he's too depressed to have sex anyways. Try not to be too jealous of my awesome relationship. =/ Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
How can you find a guy like that attractive? No future and no ambition. Depressed and not doing anything about it leaving all the weight on his girl that is supporting him. Think of a future with him he will probably be a dead beat dad if you let him reproduce with you. There are a ton of single guys with a plan that are looking for a chance
He's always had a job and been a different person. Fun and adventurous. He changed when we moved here and he's a totally different person. No, I'm not attracted to this version. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
It's not so much being broke and jobless that makes you a deadbeat, it's apathy and depression that do. He changed because he no longer desires to impress you, since you 'love' him. Pretty damn obvious he doesnt give a shit.
He going to try and turn it around to this somehow being my fault. Just double checking I'm not being a dick about this and I needed to vent. We talked Tuesday morning. Since then he hasn't done anything. I'm on sick leave from work (shingles) and he's pretty much avoided me. He shaved and has been working on a drawing. He is currently sleeping. I'm home and could have driven him to put in applications. Instead he hasn't really talked to me since I was sent home. Pretty sure he's just given up. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Maybe he needs to address his depression issues first. His depression is causing you to be depressed and stressed. A move and no job can be very depressing. I'm not saying he's right, but if he's normally been a good guy it would be bad to leave him when he's down. I sometimes do not understand people when they say, " kick him out. Move on!" Just because someone is struggling with life and stuff. You two obviously have a commitment and love each other, times are just hard now and hopefully they'll look up soon. Maybe he wants to move back home? It does seem complicated and more than just a right or wrong kind of thing. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Forum
I definitely understand that and it's what I'm trying to do. Almost two years ago when we dated the first time I wasn't in the best place. He ended up dumping me on Christmas because he couldn't deal with it. I'm trying but I can't keep trying. It's just no longer financially doable. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app And I've tried to have him get some help but he refuses. So that's a total no go. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
Boot him out. Im gimped up and depressed with post traumatic but I want to work. No weed for pain though.
Sounds like some real trash you packed up with you on your move... Time to throw it away... Many other guys that would love to help you out.... Cut your losses and have him kick rocks.
Ha. Got him a phone card and the first thing he did was look up porn. This dude makes me crazy, over it. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
The constant source of amusement? /sarcasm Fuck if I know. I'm an idiot for putting up with it. Like how I wanted the bedroom because I'm sick and sleepy. He bitches because "the bed is more confortable". That was an hour ago. He just came in and was like, "thought you were tired." Didn't realize I had a bedtime. Or that I was such an inconvenience! Sent from my SAMSUNG-SGH-I317 using Grasscity Forum mobile app
So we done here with this thread or ? I'm pretty sure you know what you should do. Now the question is; will you? Your bf is a tool, tell him to go hit up Chuck-E-Cheese if he wants to do nothing but play and loaft all day.
Being depressed doesn't give him a reason to be an asshole. Kick his dead beat ass to the curb. It's sacrificing your life keeping a parasite like that around who has absolutely nothing to offer.
I know I need to kick him out. I definitely will be. He's pretty much totally avoided me since Tuesday and stays shut in the bedroom. Very much over this. I'll post updates.
To be honest I've been in the same boat for the past 5 years and hate what it does to my girl. If you really don't know the root cause and he won't talk to you, he is cashed out. At least I make all the calls, run all the appointments, actively started searching once I got over my depression-anxiety-ptsd, yet a long duration on a resume isn't awe inspiring for prospective employers. Btw hi all, tis my first post. I'm an open and honest person to a fault. I hope it all works out for you.
He shoulda watched the porn with you Maybe get some porn for you too. maybe some guys that hang dong?
God this post reminds me of my older brother. 22, zero dollars to his name, and has a whole bunch of nice music gear cause he used the money my parents set aside for him to go to college on it. He's a freeloading asshole that doesn't even wash his damn dishes he just leaves them in the fucking sink. My mom says he has all this emotional trouble, sure so do I but I'm not a bitch to everybody. If it was my house I'd kick him the fuck out. Lol and I'm going to a therapist cause of him. Fuck that and that fuck him
LOL the bolded part is totally me. lol. Except like.. I actually work my ass off. The bad part of being your own boss is you dont really have breaks or vacation.. you are your work..