how often do couples have sex?

I just recently finished with a guy coz of a similar problem we just didn't match sexually. I did really love him but personally I think 22 is too young to start compromising. I know you want to avoid hurting her feelings or talking about it but it is honestly your best bet. At least if you say something then you's might find some common ground, or you may find out more about what she wants from the relationship?

 

My boyfriend was a virgin before we started dating, got a crazy sex drive right after I took his, and now we've been together for three years so I may be able to help you out.

Excuses like "I have a headache" are not because she wants to be mean (assuming she doesn't really have a headache) they are just an easy way of saying "My Sex drive is low right now" SO, rather than saying, hey do you want to have sex tonight? Avoid the chance of her excuses and start off by rubbing her feet. Extend foreplay to an hour long? All of these things will increase the likelihood of her opening up.

Depending on how busy my boyfriend and I have been, over the years we've gone from having sex once a week, to twenty times a week, to weeks with no sex at all. Don't get your hopes down yet, hormones fluctuate ! Find out when it's her time of the month, and a week before seduce her cause they'll be in fire.

This is more of a personal note but drugs have reaaaaallly helped develop my sex life with my boyfriend to what it is today. Weed, and other things too. But that's probably cause we both enjoy talking about sex and porn and smoking weed and laughing together.


All In all, don't break up with her over this. HOWEVER you should think twice about staying in a relationship where you can't bring up how you feel about something without being blamed for something your not (someone who only cares about sex) so either get her to communicate with you or do your research and start blowing her mind every time you have sex. I swear the better the sex the more she'll think about you

 

You should find her vibrator and destroy it,


Why do we call it the third eye? When really it could be the first

 

OP, does she orgasm every time during sex?

If she does but still avoids sex then she possibly has a lower sex drive.

If she doesn't orgasm then you can't expect her to want sex all the time.

Tell her to be honest about her orgasms so you guys can fix any problems (toys, foreplay, oral).

 

Me and my hubby have been together 13 years. I have a very high sex drive and his well sometimes he does and sometimes he doesn't. We can go weeks without it then end up doing it everyday for weeks. I never say no. Even if I do have a headache. Like a poster said sometimes a headache is an easy way of saying no without giving the real reason. But you need to talk to her or its only gonna get worse. Relationships are about compromise. Things will work out


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Lay down that pipe right. In other words maybe she wants you to start fucking her brains out? I don't know how freaky you two are though.

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I've been in my relationship for 8 years and we have an understanding: monogamy is an agreement that you will not be unfaithful (ie no sexual or emotional intimacy with anyone else). So part of the sub-sections of that agreement is in exchange for that faithfulness you will be accommodating of the other person's sex drive. Meaning? There are plenty of times I am not in the mood but I put the full performance in anyway, because he deserves sex when he wants it. Same goes for me, I won't get into specifics but there are instances when sex is more therapeutic then about sex, and I expect him to accommodate me. And he does. 
Now obviously there are instances when this can't be realistic like when one of us is sick or our schedules are just too hectic or some other unforeseen issue. The main point is you don't make it a habit of just snubbing the other person just because you don't have all the right tingles in all the right places going on at that exact moment. 
 
Whatever your agreement, you need to work one out, because you are right you cannot be expected to stay in a relationship where the other party doesn't consider your sexual needs. You can't use it as an excuse to cheat either though, have some respect for her for fucks sake.  I think you should be talking to her about it though, talking to us isn't going to improve your sex life, it is only going to give you ideas on how to ultimately approach her to have that conversation. 
Good luck!

 

I'm in my twenties, and I've been with my girlfriend for about a year. We both have high sex drives, and I would consider her a nypho. No vanilla sex for us, and we do it about 6 times a week. Sometimes two times in a day, sometimes three and sometimes none.

 

OP, it is not worth it.  My freshman year in college I dated a sophomore.  She thought she was this incredible sexual being, but it was almost like begging to get some.  Despite all the time and availability we had (she lived in a 1 BR appt by herself), we might have had sex 1-2 times per month.  Dated her most of that year, but we broke up in the spring just before the end of the semester.
 
So I ended up dating this other girl who was ready and willing just about any time I was and even when I wasn't.  To have a girl initiate sex was a very new thing for me.  FF to my JR year.  Girl #1 had broken up with her BF and we ran into to each other at a party.  Now she was a great girl and we clicked in most every way.  Well, as things go, she was a bit tipsy and somehow we hooked up.  Over the next couple of days she started talking about getting back together and I briefly considered it until we had gone to a movie one night and ended up back at her place and there I was almost begging for sex again.
 
That was it.  No more messing with her.  I had been shown the light and was not going to go back to the dark.
 
So you need to find someone who is compatible with you.  The wife and I are very compatible and average 2-3 times per week and are in our late 40's and have been married 20+ years.  You deserve more and if she is unwilling, then maybe it is time to move on.

 

Ive only lived with one girlfriend without either of us living at home, and those are the only true circumstances where you get to actually have sex the amount that you want to since theres no limiting parameters. We would fuck at least once every day. Usually at least once in the morning and once at night, and then usually also right after class or in between classes. Plus usually 1-3 more times a day so lets say 3-6 times a day.
 
Now in your scenario that may sound awesome, but I'll tell you now that a girl who will bang often may be doing it for reasons that arent conducive to a relationship. It could be her insatiable sexual appetite, which rarely can be sated by only one partner for too long if youre into monogamy (I am). It may also be her trying to please you or distract you from noticing something else.
 
I would talk to her about it dude cause 2-3x a month clearly is not what youre looking for. Just tell her straight up that its not like all you want from her is sex, if all you wanted from a girl was sex you would be dating some slut who fucks every day. You would be dating my ex-GF essentially. The truth is that you want to have sex with her more because you are committed to this relationship, and are a sexual being, and dont want the two to be mutually exclusive. Your mind doesnt stray from the relationship so your sexual energy is all revolved around her, and shes the only one who has the authority to relieve it since youve chosen to be monogamous with this woman. 

 

 
Bro, I'll give you some tips.
 
This was a lot to read, and I'm not sure I caught all of it, so apologies if I missed something.
 
You were a virgin until recently, and that means you probably suck ass in bed. We all did back then. If your girlfriend isn't sexual enough for you that can be changed, everybodys lust goes up and down. Even the prudes have a freaky side to them, you just got to know how to push their buttons. Heck, I've fucked prudes in the ass, made them squirt and even got them to the point where they scream YES DADDY, YES NEIL, YOUR DICK IS SO FUCKING GOOD IN MY FUCKING TIGHT WET PINK LIL PUSSY. Every girl has a freak deep inside of her, just as every man has jacked of to porn he is ashamed off. I'll leave that story for another day.
 
You need to have a serious talk with your girl. If you can't be honest with each other about sex then you might as well call of the relationship, because it's not going to last without honesty. My five cents is that you guys need to explore sex together, even if she is more experienced than you.
 
Think about yourself. How do you do it when you are having sex? What's your "routine"? What do you do to make her horny, when you are horny?You can't expect her pussy to be soaked every time your dick is hard, but you can make it so even though she is not in the mood initially. I'm sorry mate, but I'm guessing that you might not satisfy her as well as you could do. Nobody blames you, everything comes with practice - and she isn't giving you enough.
 
I'll share some of my strategies, maybe one of them will help you, at least try them out. I'm not the most handsome motherfucker in the world, but I always did well with the ladies.
 
1) We men are usually happy as long as we see some tits. Girl's are rarely this simple, and you have to build it all up. Rub her feet, massage her shoulders, rub her chest, rub her breasts, kiss her neck, bite her neck, kiss her ear, bite her lip, play with her hair and massage her head.
 
2) Take a shower together. Seriously, it's hot as fuck. Preferrably be high for this. 
 
3) Be secure about yourself. Your erection is failing? Don't make a big deal and apologize like a bitch, laugh it off and start licking her pussy instead.
 
4) Don't be afraid to explore. If you guys are fooling around after a hot shower together and you are licking her pussy, lick her assole! Stick your tongue inside it a bit, and lick it roughly. She might love it, and if she don't; nothing bad will happen.
 
5) Consider her whole body. A woman responds to touches all over her, caress everything, not just her clit.
 
6) While licking her pussy, don't just lick like a cat drinking milk. Change it up, kiss it, make out with it, suck her lips and clit inside your mouth.
 
That's what I came up with right now, and I could make a list fifty times longer than this. Just try shit out, get experienced and get her drive up.
 
Best of luck man, feel free to PM me lol. I like to think I know my way around the sex.
 
Neil.

 

My sex drive is fucking ridiculous.

 

Talk to her. Women let sex get in the way of their head space. If you were a virgin you guys probably need to play around to see what you like. She might not be very sexual and there might be something minor you can do to help her open up. Women are strange creatures but if you love her she's totally worth the time to figure out. Women take sex very personally and we don't mean to use it as some sort of bartering chip(is that even the right phrase?) but sometimes my boyfriend go through dryer spaces. A good week is nearly every day, a bad week is once or twice a week. We're an affectionate, snugly sexy couple and sex is just one of the ways we connect. My last boyfriend was asexual which was incredibly frustrating. Talk to her and see what she needs!


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