Who started this myth about smiling and eye contact?

Discussion in 'Sex, Love & Relationships' started by pussyslut, Dec 3, 2014.

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    I read through the relationship posts every now and then when I'm bored, and I notice a lot of guys that are interested in a girl seem to think that her smiling at them and giving them eye contact is a signal that they want you.
    Which, as an adult I wish I had that information when I was younger because it always confused me when a guy would just ask me out, out of the blue. I would feel bad about saying no and then wonder later on what did I do to make him think i was interested. Did I say something misleading? Did I drop hints I wasn't aware of??
    No, apparently i smiled and made eye contact.
     
    See to me, smiling and making eye contact is just an act of being friendly. I smile and make eye contact with most people, especially the eye contact thing because it lets the other person know you are paying attention to them, its good manners. When a guy smiles and makes eye contact with me, I don't think he is interested, I think he looks friendly.  If he gives me sex eyes and looks me up and down and stands a bit too close then yes, I feel like he is giving me a signal, but eye contact?? lol
     
    Where did this whole "If she smiles and makes eye contact she is into you" thing come from? I feel like it is a huge piece of false information that continues on to this day. I'm not a guy, but I don't imagine that all girls walk around avoiding making eye contact or smiling at you unless they are interested, do they? 
     
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  2. Any guy taking smiling and eye contact as an automatic she likes me is just bad with women in general imo. I think for most guys it shows that you're friendly and approachable, which it does, which then opens the gates for flirting and what not but I don't think many people are taking those signs as "100% they like me"
     
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    Oh man a massive smile in a post?! pussyslut must be in love with me!
     
     
    Anyway, I agree with Sammyy that it shows you're friendly and approachable. I think smiling and eye contact could be used when showing interest in a person, but agree with you that more should be said/shown before things are assumed.
     
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    lol notice the eyes are closed though,  s h u t   d o w n . 
     
    I think this has more to do with inexperience then anything, because I notice it's mostly the very young set, but that makes me wonder who came up with this idea to begin with? I mean, as a girl I wasn't told "if a guy looks at you and smiles, he likes you" I was told other BS nonsense like "Oh he pulls your hair because he likes you" Or " Don't have sex until your married or he won't respect you"
     
    I'm just thinking this whole "If she gives you eye contact and a smile your in" BS must be something that you guys are told when your young, It just makes me wonder what other BS you guys are told when you first start dating, I bet you we have a lot of crossed wires on both sides lol
     
  6. I usually get flirted with if she smiles and makes eye contact. 
     
  7. exactly, you look friendly. how else would you want to look when approaching a girl? angry? constipated? sad?
     
  8. Don't get me wrong, you want to look friendly if you are going to be approachable. My issue is more the younger set thinking that eye contact and a smile means she is interested in you, because that is a huge difference. You can say to yourself "Hey, she is looking at me and smiling, I should go over there and talk to her" thats totally to be expected, that is being friendly. Saying to yourself  "hey, she is making eye contact with me and smiling, that must mean she would be open to taking this D, I'm going in" is another entirely.
     
    I guess I just feel like it is a huge disservice to these young guys that think that is how it works, I just wonder how this whole myth got started.
    I know they told the girls to not sleep with the guys until they are married because they didn't want babies out of wedlock, I get that, and they made up some BS about respect and marriage to bolster it. But now girls are not told that anymore, that myth stopped.
    I just want to know why this myth keeps going for guys, it seems like it needs to go
     
     
  9. #10 240sxLover, Dec 4, 2014
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    Well how else are you supposed to tell if a stranger will be receptive to your advances? I'm no fool, I realize that smile/eye contact isn't a guarantee of interest, but what else are you supposed to look for? You can't just dick around your whole life and wait for a girl to approach you (like that ever would happen anyways), so then smile/eye contact becomes the only way to know if she's at least not a mega prude and that there may be a chance. I don't look at girls and smile at them to be friendly, I'm trying to express that I'm at the very least physically attracted to them.
     
    It's not like I make eye contact and smile at dudes, that would be just weird.
     
    I think women also generally have this conception that a man should be "friends" with them first and that somehow sexuality should never play a role. Why? I'm not looking for friends, I have those, I'm looking for romance; on top of that, how can you be friends with them first if you know nothing about them, save that you think them cute? Physical attraction is the first thing that you notice and for some reason people want to suppress this and act like dudes shouldn't be thinking about sex when engaging with a beautiful girl. I love talking to women in general because they're usually better at conversing and actually wana talk instead of stare at the football game on the tv, but I can't tell you the last time I had an intimate conversation with a girl who I didn't want to simultaneously be banging. You act like physical attraction shouldn't exist; sure, I'd love if gender and sexuality didn't exist and I could get on with the rest of my life, but they do and we can't escape them.
     
    I don't mean to objectify women, but y'all act as if any sexual interest is boom, objectifying. I've been seeing my girlfriend for 5 years, and she's my best friend in the world, but I never would have spent a minute getting to know her if I didn't find her attractive.
     
  10. Well as an average looking guy, women avoid eye contact and smiling because they know that to most guys that's an open invitation to ask for their phone number.
     
    In fact women have complained with job policy that requires them to be extra nice to costumers because they get unwanted advances so often as a result.
     
    If feels cold when most attractive women ignore you but you can't really blame them when guys are constantly harassing them even if they glance at a guy for a second.
     
  11. Regarding the thread title:
     
    It's not really a myth, it's just the male sex drive that gives men false hopes.
     
    Without the sex drive a woman smiling at them wouldn't mean shit. They'd be more likely to ask you "what the fuck are you smiling at" than ask for your digits.
     
  12. I'd also like to point out that I was only able to get the guts up to ask out one of my first girlfriends because she smiled at me and looked at me every time I saw her life-guarding at the pool. And she totally dug me, so clearly there's some sort of mixture out there, of some women finding it just to be casual friendliness, and some to express genuine sexual interest. How are us guys supposed to tell the difference??!?!
     
  13. [SIZE=14.3999996185303px]Keep it simple.[/SIZE]
     
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    I wish it were that simple.
     
    Some guys enjoy the chase, I think it's a waste of time.
     
  15. Heres what I am seeing though, aside from you saying "She looked at me and smiled" you also said "And she totally dug me...."  
    So aside from her smiling and giving you eye contact, there must of been some other indication that she was into you whether you understood it on a conscious level or not. Maybe she gave you some physical cues, like biting her lip, flushing of the face, displaying her "assets" more obviously, there is a million of them but basically cues that are geared at telling you that she is interested.
    You're saying that you never smile or make eye contact with any women other than to convey that you are attracted to them, what about your mother? No eye contact there? you never smile at her? your sister? aunt? What about that sweet old lady that maybe works at the grocery store and you chat a bit while she rings through your groceries, are you smiling at her and making conversation and eye contact because you find her hot, or because you are being polite and friendly?
     
    Guys smile and make eye contact with each other and women they are not attracted to all the time, it's a natural way to communicate. Women do the same thing, we smile and make eye contact with all types of people. 
     
    I just, as I said, think it should be scratched off the list of things to teach the young guys about women. It does mean a girl is friendly, it does mean you can probably approach her and talk to her, but does it mean she is into you sexually or romantically? No. 
     
  16. There are different kinds of eye contact. 
     
    When a woman is interested in you, she'll try to lock eyes, it's more a gaze than just simple eye contact you make when having a conversation. When that happens and she's laughing at everything you say and going out of her way to put her hands on you - pry on to something  :smoking:
     
  17. I feel like if she smiles and doesn't look you in the eyes is more accurate

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  18. It's slut code for "want to breed?"

    Just say no, lets them know to move on grazing. :lol:
     

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