I don't have a lot of friends to go to advice for, but you guys seem like a swell bunch of folks and we'll. . I seriously need your help. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 3 years. Last night I come home and he says he wants to finish our relationship because he needs some space to get back to being himself. Now this, to me, is a very plausible reason for ending a relationship. I'm not happy about it one frickin bit. . I love him more than I weed. Now you know that's saying a lot. So we're both all tears and apologies for the entire night. This morning, with what I assume is either guilt or remorse or genuine wanton of me, he says to me he can't do it without me and he needs me in his life. Now I am so stuck with how to move this situation forward in the right direction. I've told him ill have to think about it. What would you guys do in my situation? I'd be interested especially if someone else has been in this kind of situation before. It's killing me inside, I love him.and I want us to be together but I don't want to go through something like this again if he suddenly changes his mind? Please please help
give him the space. it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. if you both keep staying and being emotional it just makes it harder on the heart. just take a little hiatus.
speaking from experience..a lot of bad choices mainly..i find that if a partner wants space and a break-up period once..they may not really know what they want..but you and him have been together for three years?..wow that does seem kinda odd to me..but im a guy...so take that for what its worth..if it were me and I was in that long of a relationship, I would ask for the truth on why he wants to end things..were you fighting?..is he seeing another woman?...has he grown tired of you?..these are all questions I would ask him..not on the phone..but directly to his face..in a three year relationship you should really know him..and know if he is being truthful or not..in the end sweetheart you cant make him stay if he wants to go..but I would be wary and very careful if it seems like he cant make up his mind about you..very careful...nothing worse than being with a man/woman who does not know what they want..or who they want
I have kinda been in this situation and from that experience i can say, if your partner comes to you and says that they need a break or "space" its never a good thing. I gave my partner space, never saw her again. Happily married to the love of my life now. Sent from my iPhone using Grasscity Foru
I have been in love three times in my life...and without exception all three were the most blissful, most horrible, most emotional relationships I have ever experienced....I have been loved many more times than this but I did not return the love....I am sure that fact caused much pain...in the three relationships where it was Me that loved the most, I was the miserable one. Point being, this thing called "love" is a crapshoot where two people hardly ever love each other equally and that "difference" causes all the misery...and theres nothing one can do about it to make it better or make it work. If you are supremely lucky you will find that perfect someone..that perfect fit that causes no pain...but I doubt it...best you can hope for is some common attraction and compromise....." love" you will find is for your children..that will be the only true love most will ever find in this life...all else is a compromise.
I don't think you know what the word plausible means lol Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Grasscity Forum mobile app
OP, he doesn't want to even think of having another guy dump his nut in you. That's why he's all wishy-washy about it. He wants to dump nuts in other girls, but can't stand the thought of you giving someone else head. Are you really that good, lol? If you stay in this relationship, be sure he's using condoms with you, because you aren't the only vag he's banging.
I say go for it if u love him and you feel like u need him then nothing should stop you from being happy. Smoke weed everyday
if you want to be with him then be with him.. if you don't, then don't.. i donno.. seems really simple to me.
In my experience, both on the giving and receiving end, when someone says they need space to figure themselves out, they do. Coming back seems more like a fear of being alone than anything. But not all situations are black and white like that. Maybe take a week away. No texting, no calling, no seeing each other. If you both feel like you can't stand it by the end of the week, give it another shot. If either of you feels the slightest bit if positivity in the situation, maybe it's time you try to go it alone and figure yourselves out without the other. Good luck hun. bad wolf
fuck his best friend. long, hard and make lots of noise. jokes aside, i would ask him where all of this came from. tell him you need some answers to make this right in your head. last thing anyone wants is to have it happen again 3 or 4 days later.
So y'all been together for this long and you have one bad night????? Your always going to have those bad nights once in a while. And it's ok to have a bad night, you can't let that one out of a hundred shape your future together. When me and my wife are having a bad day, I will tell myself hey tomorow is a new day. We been together for ten+ years Maybe you can sit down and talk. UNDERSTAND his and get him to understand yours. This is what is going to make y'all's relationship stronger. Tell him just because y'all had one bad day together, your not going to break up Maybe you can tell him he should go out and do something alone or with his friends. Maybe join a sports team or something. Something that allows him to maintain HIS identity. They wont admit it but Every once n a while a guy will just want some fresh pussy. Maybe if he got some somewhere else he may appreciate his relationship with you. Try a threesome??????
That was a lot of emotional turmoil to go through for one night only to have the rug pulled out from under you a second time the following morning. Give it a week or two. See where it goes. It's better to wait and see than go through all this again the next time he wants to "find himself".
How do you feel about the relationship? Do you want time to your self too? He might be really feeling that way but is scared to lose you cause of a comfort level. Being in a 3 year relationship myself kinda wanting out. Knowing that I probably won't see her again or know that I can make it financially on my own is why I am holding back from breaking up. But if you guys live close to each other and don't live together and would be easy for you to break up and be back together I think having some time apart would help both of you guys see what you really want.
It sounds like he's not "himself" around you, and very unstable. If his opinion can change polarity so drastically overnight, that should tell you something. It's telling me he's a dickless chump, but I don't know the guy.